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8 yr old son sleeping in same bedroom as mother on visitation days

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CaMom31

Junior Member
Ok maybe in Nevada it's different, however I can give a prime example of how it is in California. I will answer both sleeping arrangement situations that I came across.

I left my daughter's dad when my son was almost 9, he's 10 now. In January I had to move into a house with roommates and could only afford one bedroom. We had nothing, no furniture of our own and I am on a very fixed income. The room came equipped with a queen size bed and a couple dressers. I panicked and talked to a socialworker about what I could and could not do. She informed me that the situation was not exactly ideal, however it was not illegal for me to share a bed with my son as long as we were both clothed in appropriate attire, (IE: Not naked or in underwear) and she suggested seperate blankets. She also told me that until he was 12 unless given good cause, I wouldn't even have an issue however the general consensus for what is considered emotionally healthy would cut him off at 10.

Moral of the story is, we shared a bed until I could save up enough money to get bunk beds. So for the OP, I know from experience and the horse's mouth that sharing a room with a child of the opposite sex is not illegal. Also, if you are so concerned about the well being of the child you can always request a wellness check. Honestly, I wouldn't even think about taking her to court on safety issues without doing so because the first question the judge will ask you is if you are so concerned for the child's safety why you haven't done so already.
 


CJane

Senior Member
Ya know, it occurs to me... I have a friend that lives in a one bedroom house. It's actually a converted gardening shed. Anyway, she lives there with her twin 9 year olds (one boy/one girl) and now, her former-ex-husband.

Mom and Dad sleep on the bottom bunk of one of those single on top/double on bottom bunk beds, and boy-child sleeps on the top. Girl child sleeps on a futon.

I've never once doubted her fitness as a parent.
 

maryjo

Member
an 8 year old under constant supervision? So your saying the 8 year old cant play in their front yard without mommy outside staring at him? gimme a break can you say CONTROL FREAK
I just need to say that maybe where you live its safe for an 8 year old to be outside alone. My son is 10 and a half and he still isnt allowed to be in the front yard alone. And even when he is in the back yard he isnt allowed to be near the side of the yard that runs beside a busy street. Even though it is completely fenced in PLUS has extra wire running around the top of the fence. (The wire was to keep the German Shepherd from jumping the fence.)


I live in Florida where children tend to get snatched far too often. I dont know if everyone heard or not but not even two weeks ago a little 7 year old girl was taken, killed, and thrown in the garbage only a few minutes from where we live...in what was supposed to have been a "safe" neighborhood.

I have friends in other states who ask me what in the world is going on in Florida because it seems that we are always on the news with the story of another missing child. Its just not safe to let ANY child play alone. I dont fault any parent for not watching over their children like a hawk.
 

Hisbabygirl77

Senior Member
I just need to say that maybe where you live its safe for an 8 year old to be outside alone. My son is 10 and a half and he still isnt allowed to be in the front yard alone. And even when he is in the back yard he isnt allowed to be near the side of the yard that runs beside a busy street. Even though it is completely fenced in PLUS has extra wire running around the top of the fence. (The wire was to keep the German Shepherd from jumping the fence.)


I live in Florida where children tend to get snatched far too often. I dont know if everyone heard or not but not even two weeks ago a little 7 year old girl was taken, killed, and thrown in the garbage only a few minutes from where we live...in what was supposed to have been a "safe" neighborhood.

I have friends in other states who ask me what in the world is going on in Florida because it seems that we are always on the news with the story of another missing child. Its just not safe to let ANY child play alone. I dont fault any parent for not watching over their children like a hawk.
I would not fault a parent for watching their child like a hawk. It is their child they know their neighborhood and they know the maturity of their child. I find fault in the other parent trying to control how the other raises the child when they arent around. Different parents = different parenting styles. I understand what you mean my 7 year old is not allowed to play in the front yard without me there even though we live in a nice neighborhood he is just immature and likely to chase a ball into the street without looking. While my oldest at 7 I could have let him play in the front yard without me sitting out there and just doing checks on him. But I was speaking about one parents need to control the other.
 

christyhrd

Junior Member
Come on now! I don't have legal advice, but I can give you a woman's advice. He's her baby, whether you like that idea or not. I really don't think it is divorce that hurts children as much as it is the parents that put their hurt feelings way, way above their children's welfare. Call me a criminal, but my son (my baby) and I fall asleep all the time laying on my bed watching TV and he's 12. And, God forbid, I put my arm around him when he's alseep and kiss him on the forehead. In case you haven't noticed by now, most women don't have sex on their mind 24/7.
 

wileybunch

Senior Member
Lexapro is what got my wife diagnosed with bipolar disorder. She went on it for depression, and it sent her on a tailspin. You wouldn't believe the manic episode she went through, spending $16,000 in 1 month on clothes, which she hid from me.

Her doc told us that Lexapro is the biggest no-no drug when someone has bipolar.
I'm assuming she was NOT prescribed a mood stabilizer with that? Whoever prescribed that for her was a fool (and if it was a PCP, that's also pretty common when they start dabbling in dx'ing meds for depression without a real evaluation and send someone into a manic episode by just RX'ing the antidepressant). Lexapro wasn't the problem, she needed the antidepressant, that or another one, it's the fact she was not also prescribed a mood stabilizer at the same time.
 

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