Advice?

[momof3teens]

What worked in my favor was documentation of EVERYTHING. I kept a notebook handy, wrote down time he picked kids up, time he dropped them off, comments of concern from the kids when they came home, dates he did not show up, etc. Kept record of all phone conversations. I know this seems extreme but the judge in my case stated my documentation was credible, which helped me stop visitation until ex filed a petition to get them back (never did). I would suggest not dad bashing, or seeming like you are out for revenge on the new wife. (exp. my situation ) the step-mom slapped my daughter and my daughters father told me it is was because she was sticking her tounge out at her brother.)

 

[stealth2]

It doesn't even matter if the stepmom had a "friend" over. When we established this court order, I wanted to list the stepmom specifically. That dad could not leave our son alone with her. HOWEVER, stepmom did not want her name specifically listed on any court documents because she said she had some other court case involving her own child. Dad then said we could put on the court records that dad cannot leave child alone with ANYONE. This was HIS choice to have "anyone" on the document.

So even if dad left our son alone with the Pope, he is still in violation.

Sigh... it does matter. Alone means with no other person present. If stepmom had a friend over, she was not "alone" with the child. Therefore Dad would NOT be in contempt. And again - you need to PROVE it. You can't just claim it and expect him to prove otherwise - YOU have to prove that your allegation is true.

 

[Madison31]

Thank you momof3. I have very detailed documentaion from the past 2 years, including what you just suggested, and more. I have over 100 typed pages.

I just got out the initial and only court order for custody that we have. It states:

IT IS FURTHER ORDERED AND ADJUDGED that the minor child shall not be left in the care of anyone but Defendant during his parenting time.

IT IS FURTHER ORDERED AND ADJUDGED that neither party shall consume alcohol in the presence of the minor child.


After receiving responses here, I realize that wording is very important. The above is what our order states.

 

[stealth2]

Thank you momof3. I have very detailed documentaion from the past 2 years, including what you just suggested, and more. I have over 100 typed pages.

I just got out the initial and only court order for custody that we have. It states:

IT IS FURTHER ORDERED AND ADJUDGED that the minor child shall not be left in the care of anyone but Defendant during his parenting time.

IT IS FURTHER ORDERED AND ADJUDGED that neither party shall consume alcohol in the presence of the minor child.


After receiving responses here, I realize that wording is very important. The above is what our order states.

Well, it would have been helpful if you'd actually posted that a page ago, instead of having us waste our time while you opined on what you apparently "thought" it said.

So - are you ALSO proscribed from having a babysitter for your child? Not that the answer matters to me, as I'm done wasting my time.

 

[Madison31]

The capabilty of my family watching our son was, and has never been questioned.

The concern was, and still is about the stepmom.

I realize you may have your own unresolved issues from childhood. Your anger is clearly shown in your posts. So I will not hold that against you.

I'm sorry that I "wasted your time." That was not my intention. I should have initially got out the document and posted it EXACTLY as it said.

 

[Silverplum]

I realize you may have your own unresolved issues from childhood. Your anger is clearly shown in your posts. So I will not hold that against you.

I'm sorry that I "wasted your time." That was not my intention. I should have initially got out the document and posted it EXACTLY as it said.

Quoted and remembered.

While I am *speaking* to you, let me remind you that you came here for help yourself. That does not automatically "qualify" you to provide advice to others.

Stop posting in others' threads unless you have an appropriate legal citation from the appropriate state. Your "help" is not helping if it's not valid to the OP.

 

[Isis1]

The capabilty of my family watching our son was, and has never been questioned.

The concern was, and still is about the stepmom.

I realize you may have your own unresolved issues from childhood. Your anger is clearly shown in your posts. So I will not hold that against you.

I'm sorry that I "wasted your time." That was not my intention. I should have initially got out the document and posted it EXACTLY as it said.

the reason why the question was asked, is usually when there is a restriction on one party, to be equal, the other party is under that same restriction. these questions have to be asked in order to maintain correct advice. it's the same as walking into a pharmacy with no prescription. you only remember what the doctor said, but can't remmeber the exact wording. pharmacists needs the prescription in order to give you exactly what you need.

my reply has nothing to do with past issues of my childhood. it has to do with posters who get snippy when they don't give seniors the info they need to better assist them and still expect miracles. for free, i might add.

 

[Madison31]

I do not see any other "newbies" here citing their responses, whether that be advice, opinions, or a legal term. As a matter of fact, most of the time, even the senior members do not cite their responses. I did not see that rule in the rule forum. Would you direct me to it? I will certainly follow the rules here.

I am not a lawyer. Just a parent who has a child.

When I post, I have said "in my state." I have never claimed that the same applied to the poster's state. I did not know that we could not give reference to our own state. Of course, the poster may not even care what happened in "my state." However, if it is a general question, like, does a judge let the child have a say in where he/she lives? Then someone posts the comment not until the age of 18...that's not true. Of course the judge will not always order what the child wants. But sometimes the judge will listen to the child, and consider what the child said when the judge makes his decision.

 

[Silverplum]

When I see you -- and the other noobs who feel the irresistable urge to meddle -- misleading other posters, I get irritable.

So. Stop it.

Misleading the thread into a discussion about YOUR state does NOT HELP the poster. Does it? No, really. Does it?
No, it does not.

The End.

I do not see any other "newbies" here citing their responses, whether that be advice, opinions, or a legal term. As a matter of fact, most of the time, even the senior members do not cite their responses. I did not see that rule in the rule forum. Would you direct me to it? I will certainly follow the rules here.

I am not a lawyer. Just a parent who has a child.

When I post, I have said "in my state." I have never claimed that the same applied to the poster's state. I did not know that we could not give reference to our own state. Of course, the poster may not even care what happened in "my state." However, if it is a general question, like, does a judge let the child have a say in where he/she lives? Then someone posts the comment not until the age of 18...that's not true. Of course the judge will not always order what the child wants. But sometimes the judge will listen to the child, and consider what the child said when the judge makes his decision.

 

[Madison31]

That comment was not directed at you IsabellaSoriano. I understand your scenario about the pharmacy, and I agree. I only bacame "snippy" when someone became "snippy" at me first.

I am new here, and claim to know nothing. I am trying to learn how to word things precisely right here, as to not confuse anyone.

 

[Silverplum]

That comment was not directed at you IsabellaSoriano. I understand your scenario about the pharmacy, and I agree. I only bacame "snippy" when someone became "snippy" at me first.

I am new here, and claim to know nothing. I am trying to learn how to word things precisely right here, as to not confuse anyone.

Quoted.
Hopefully remembered.

 

[Madison31]

I do not claim to be an English major either. So if my posts are not "precisely" right...I apologize ahead of time.

 

[Isis1]

That comment was not directed at you IsabellaSoriano. I understand your scenario about the pharmacy, and I agree. I only bacame "snippy" when someone became "snippy" at me first.

I am new here, and claim to know nothing. I am trying to learn how to word things precisely right here, as to not confuse anyone.

learn not to do that. take what you have learned and move with that. i only responded because i was a newbie once and had the same frame of mind. i commented because i want you to be able to see that. you have the ability to walk away with some wonderful knowledge. and to be honest it really frustates me when people refuse to see the help just maintain their ego.

 

[Madison31]

learn not to do that. take what you have learned and move with that. i only responded because i was a newbie once and had the same frame of mind. i commented because i want you to be able to see that. you have the ability to walk away with some wonderful knowledge. and to be honest it really frustates me when people refuse to see the help just maintain their ego.

I will refrain from now on. Thank you for the advice.

 

[Ohiogal]

I do not claim to be an English major either. So if my posts are not "precisely" right...I apologize ahead of time.

If I have to waste my time correcting your so-called advice in other poster's threads I won't even bother attempting to help you. What I will do is report every one of your nonsensical posts and you will eventually be banned. Do you understand me? Oh and question my knowledge. PLEASE.