an unusual case child suport

[Shay-Pari'e]

well it seems you have a lot of bias twards the ex wife . the fact is she is very well off .
me on thet other hand ONLY returned to america because my family is paying for my education. the facts are i have no money of my own and quiting school is not an option as i am not the one paying for it.. there has been no judgement against me as of yet , just a threatening phone call saying if i dont pay money i will be put in jail..

i really do wish i had the money to pay her even if she didnt want it because its not really for her its for my son. i could ask for legitimacy to be established as she was cheating on me before durring and after ( from her own mouth)

basically how am i suposed to pay money i dont have at this time?

i came here asking an unpopular question and so far the only fact i have gleaned is
1 louisiana dont charge interest( a good thing i guess)
2 that while i was away i continued to accrue debt even though the ex wife said she did not want the money ( i guess i could have figured that out with enough thought )
3 that so far people here are more interested in me paying ( im not against it when i can btw) than looking at the circumstances of a well off cheeting ex wife with some doubt as to legitimacy of the child ( i will assume it is mine because at birth he did look a lot like me )

is there anyone out there willing to help someone that is just looking for how to go about handling this without forcing me to return to japan because that is my only option if i leave school.

How would you like us to help? Pay your child support? You picked her, not us. It's a little late now to be crying that the child may not be yours.

Good lord man, how old are you that your wifes family is supporting you and not yourself?

You make me ill.

You owe it, so pay it and stop thinking of yourself. If that means actually getting a job, then that means getting a job.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

and i would appriciate it if you would not post any more in this thread if you are as unwilling to help me with more than sarcastic jibes.

LOL, but it is the truth.

 

[danf6975]

How would you like us to help? Pay your child support? You picked her, not us. It's a little late now to be crying that the child may not be yours.

Good lord man, how old are you that your wifes family is supporting you and not yourself?

You make me ill.

You owe it, so pay it and stop thinking of yourself. If that means actually getting a job, then that means getting a job.

thank you for your words of wisdom there shay but i do not have time for a job while studying. and the fact that my family is supporting me to change carreer fields to make a better life for them makes you ill?

yes i do owe it and i would love nothing better than to be able to pay it btw but at this time i dont have any money and the provision that my schooling is paid for requires my full time commitment to study. i guess the fact that you know this already leads me to believe that you are under the same sexist biased as most that think a woman has to be supported by a man .

 

[shell007]

well it seems you have a lot of bias twards the ex wife . the fact is she is very well off .
me on thet other hand ONLY returned to america because my family is paying for my education. the facts are i have no money of my own and quiting school is not an option as i am not the one paying for it.. there has been no judgement against me as of yet , just a threatening phone call saying if i dont pay money i will be put in jail..

i really do wish i had the money to pay her even if she didnt want it because its not really for her its for my son. i could ask for legitimacy to be established as she was cheating on me before durring and after ( from her own mouth)

basically how am i suposed to pay money i dont have at this time?

i came here asking an unpopular question and so far the only fact i have gleaned is
1 louisiana dont charge interest( a good thing i guess)
2 that while i was away i continued to accrue debt even though the ex wife said she did not want the money ( i guess i could have figured that out with enough thought )
3 that so far people here are more interested in me paying ( im not against it when i can btw) than looking at the circumstances of a well off cheeting ex wife with some doubt as to legitimacy of the child ( i will assume it is mine because at birth he did look a lot like me )

is there anyone out there willing to help someone that is just looking for how to go about handling this without forcing me to return to japan because that is my only option if i leave school.

NO ONE HERE (male for female) is going to help you get out of paying CS for YOUR CHILD.
As for all of the things your EX said about NOT WANTING ANY MONEY, consider that statement to be NOTHING MORE than that...A STATMENT...made in the heat of the moment.

YOU OWE...YOU NEED TO PAY!

Hope you had a nice little 8-year vacation with NO RESPONSIBILITIES. Welcome back to the real world.

 

[danf6975]

would it just have been better to say i owe my ex wife child support and am un able to pay it due to circumstances and want to know how i can postpone paying it or changing it untill i am able to?

 

[shell007]

As for this statement YOU made:

that you are under the same sexist biased as most that think a woman has to be supported by a man .

YOU are NOT supporting the WOMAN!!!

YOU ARE SUPPORTING THE CHILD THAT YOU CREATED!!

 

[Silverplum]

would it just have been better to say i owe my ex wife child support and am un able to pay it due to circumstances and want to know how i can postpone paying it or changing it untill i am able to?

^^^^No.^^^^

 

[danf6975]

As for this statement YOU made:



YOU are NOT supporting the WOMAN!!!

YOU ARE SUPPORTING THE CHILD THAT YOU CREATED!!

i appologize you are very right in that .
i should have thought of that.
but the fact is i can not suport him .
the fact that the wife makes more money than she knows what to do with aside and that she does not need this kinda clouds my judgement i guess.
its not even her that is asking for this as far as i know.
as far as i know its just the government telling me because im back in the US

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

thank you for your words of wisdom there shay but i do not have time for a job while studying. and the fact that my family is supporting me to change carreer fields to make a better life for them makes you ill? To make a better life for them? How about making a better life for your other child? You know, the one you threw away? Yes, it does make me ill that you think you do not have time to get a job.


yes i do owe it and i would love nothing better than to be able to pay it btw but at this time i dont have any money and the provision that my schooling is paid for requires my full time commitment to study.This is a load of crap! You have never paid it. Guess what? Your child is more important than your schooling. i guess the fact that you know this already leads me to believe that you are under the same sexist biased as most that think a woman has to be supported by a man .You are a true idiot! Where did any of us say you had to support your X? You have to support your child.

You are a dead beat, nothing more, nothing less. You should feel ashamed of yourself. To bad none of this schooling has taught you proper spelling.

Don't worry, you will soon be paying it all back.

 

[MrsK]

well it seems you have a lot of bias twards the ex wife . the fact is she is very well off .
me on thet other hand ONLY returned to america because my family is paying for my education. the facts are i have no money of my own and quiting school is not an option as i am not the one paying for it.. there has been no judgement against me as of yet , just a threatening phone call saying if i dont pay money i will be put in jail..

i really do wish i had the money to pay her even if she didnt want it because its not really for her its for my son. i could ask for legitimacy to be established as she was cheating on me before durring and after ( from her own mouth)

basically how am i suposed to pay money i dont have at this time?

i came here asking an unpopular question and so far the only fact i have gleaned is
1 louisiana dont charge interest( a good thing i guess)
2 that while i was away i continued to accrue debt even though the ex wife said she did not want the money ( i guess i could have figured that out with enough thought )
3 that so far people here are more interested in me paying ( im not against it when i can btw) than looking at the circumstances of a well off cheeting ex wife with some doubt as to legitimacy of the child ( i will assume it is mine because at birth he did look a lot like me )

is there anyone out there willing to help someone that is just looking for how to go about handling this without forcing me to return to japan because that is my only option if i leave school.

You have waited too long to try and dispute paternity now. If the Bio-dad wanted to pursue it, that would be one thing, HOWEVER, with Louisiana's dual paternity laws, you could still technically be the child's father and therefore subject to your "rights" (support, etc)

Look there are a LOT of men in Louisiana who dont want to pay child support. If they dont want to pay it, but have to (lest they go to jail or receive other punishment), you have to pay your damn support, too. You arent special, and that is how it works, ok.

Contact an atty or call CSE and ask them what is going on with your case and what needs to start happening.

 

[Silverplum]

YOU ARE SUPPORTING THE CHILD THAT YOU CREATED!!

Well, he should be. But he's not.

Pity Louisiana doesn't charge interest.

 

[MrsK]

thank you for your words of wisdom there shay but i do not have time for a job while studying. and the fact that my family is supporting me to change carreer fields to make a better life for them makes you ill?

yes i do owe it and i would love nothing better than to be able to pay it btw but at this time i dont have any money and the provision that my schooling is paid for requires my full time commitment to study. i guess the fact that you know this already leads me to believe that you are under the same sexist biased as most that think a woman has to be supported by a man .

The state will not require you to quit school, but they will, however, impute you an income (and in fact, it looks as though they already have, so it might be a lot higher than you'd like) and someone is going to have to pay it....you, or your wife, or her family.

You never did answer my other questions, btw...

 

[MrsK]

would it just have been better to say i owe my ex wife child support and am un able to pay it due to circumstances and want to know how i can postpone paying it or changing it untill i am able to?

They wont give a crap, you will not be released from paying.

I sure wish MY husband could quit his job & go to school & that he could call CSE up and say "Uh, yeah, I'm in school and due to circumstances beyond my control, I cant pay right now. So can I postpone paying that support, or not have to pay until I get a job?"

Oh yeah, I bet that would go over real well.

 

[fairisfair]

LOL, but it is the truth.

Wow Danny Boy, looks like I am not the only one disgusted by your juvenile behavior and attitude. Gee, Your ex is doing quite well, how wonderful of you to at least take credit for that fact.
This is for you Silver

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

i appologize you are very right in that .
i should have thought of that.
but the fact is i can not suport him .
the fact that the wife makes more money than she knows what to do with aside and that she does not need this kinda clouds my judgement i guess.
its not even her that is asking for this as far as i know.
as far as i know its just the government telling me because im back in the US

The fact is, is that you can support him. You have chosen not to. You are a *DeadBeat Dad*.