an unusual case child suport

[shell007]

Well, he should be. But he's not.

Pity Louisiana doesn't charge interest.

That's what a meant to imply. Thanks for clarifying it for me!

 

[MrsK]

i appologize you are very right in that .
i should have thought of that.
but the fact is i can not suport him .
the fact that the wife makes more money than she knows what to do with aside and that she does not need this kinda clouds my judgement i guess.
its not even her that is asking for this as far as i know.
as far as i know its just the government telling me because im back in the US

The fact is, you WILL have to support him.

Trust me, dude, you arent going to get out of it. Wouldnt it be nice if it worked that way (for some people, anyway) but it doesnt.

You WILL be paying or you WILL go to jail.

And really...there is NO WAY you didnt know she didnt take action against you. You had to have been served for all of this court BS to have taken place OR the amt was set during your divorce. So which was it? If it was set during your divorce, and she didnt want your $$, then you shouldve had her suspend the support. Since you didnt, either she got some govt benefits & now the state wants its money back OR she just reported you to CSE for not paying it. Her saying that she didnt want your $$$ doesnt mean crap.

My husband has another kid & the mom said the SAME THING- she said she didnt want DH around, didnt want him to pay support, she had a new man playing daddy...DH couldnt get the $$ together to take her to court in the meantime...BAM, new "daddy" splits when she gets knocked up again, and LO AND BEHOLD- she goes after DH for support. Luckily, by the time she went after c/s (a year in time), he had $$ to go after custody & visitation. So it all worked out in the end. But it just goes to show you, that she can 100% SAY that she doesnt want $$, that she will refuse your $$, she can even give the money BACK to you and then turn right around & go after that money through family court or CSE. And she has every legal right to.

 

[Silverplum]

Wow Danny Boy, looks like I am not the only one disgusted by your juvenile behavior and attitude. Gee, Your ex is doing quite well, how wonderful of you to at least take credit for that fact.
This is for you Silver

I should've been prepared for all that. But I wasn't!

 

[fairisfair]

"i was contacted by the child support enforcement agency of louisiana ."

or

"there has been no judgement against me as of yet , just a threatening phone call saying if i dont pay money i will be put in jail.."

hmmmm...... so which one is it danny boy? ??

 

[Silverplum]

That's what a meant to imply. Thanks for clarifying it for me!

I know you meant that. I didn't mean to come off as clarifying it for you, and am sorry.

I'm just damn sure OP needed an ongoing slapping!

 

[fairisfair]

I should've been prepared for all that. But I wasn't!

One of us had to let 'er rip

 

[danf6975]

thank you mrsk for your responce. i dont know the answer to any of those questions . i tried calling the person back but did not get an answer ..

ok so im resolved to the fact that the government does not care what the circumstances is and they will want me to pay.
like i said as far as i know it may be that my ex wife doesnt even know im here or care. she told me in no uncertian terms that if i tried to make conntact with my son i would end up attending my own funeral. maybe things have changed but i dont know the situation. i have been back for only a month now and am trying to get my life straight because i have a family that needs me more and is depending on me waiting in japan.

sounds mean but its the plain truth.

so knowing that im going to have to pay , what should i expect to be dealing with? . i am tring to get all the info i can. maybe i can somehow convince my wife and family to help if its not to terrible a strain but as it is since i have been here a month and in school im already studying nearly 16 hours a day.
does the governemnt take any of this into account when they decide on what im suposed to be paying. do they take into account the amount of money she has?

is there a way to keep her from knowing where i live and still take care of the situation ( i dont mind the government knowing but her knowing could out of spite cause even more problems)

 

[fairisfair]

"i was contacted by the child support enforcement agency of louisiana ."

or

"there has been no judgement against me as of yet , just a threatening phone call saying if i dont pay money i will be put in jail.."

hmmmm...... so which one is it danny boy? ??

"like i said as far as i know it may be that my ex wife doesnt even know im here or care"

so, apparently out of the blue, the CSE from LA found you, contacted you by threatening phone call saying if you don't pay you will go to jail, while having no judgement against you, and in the meantime your ex doesn't even know you are here or care???

ARE you retarded??

 

[shell007]

thank you mrsk for your responce. i dont know the answer to any of those questions . i tried calling the person back but did not get an answer ..

ok so im resolved to the fact that the government does not care what the circumstances is and they will want me to pay.
like i said as far as i know it may be that my ex wife doesnt even know im here or care. she told me in no uncertian terms that if i tried to make conntact with my son i would end up attending my own funeral. maybe things have changed but i dont know the situation. i have been back for only a month now and am trying to get my life straight because i have a family that needs me more and is depending on me waiting in japan.

sounds mean but its the plain truth.

so knowing that im going to have to pay , what should i expect to be dealing with? . i am tring to get all the info i can. maybe i can somehow convince my wife and family to help if its not to terrible a strain but as it is since i have been here a month and in school im already studying nearly 16 hours a day. does the governemnt take any of this into account when they decide on what im suposed to be paying. do they take into account the amount of money she has?

is there a way to keep her from knowing where i live and still take care of the situation ( i dont mind the government knowing but her knowing could out of spite cause even more problems)

YOUR CHILD comes FIRST.....YOUR education may not even be a close second.

If you don't want to/unwilling to quit school, get a job...or two....or three..or four. YOU'RE gonna need the cash!!!

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

thank you mrsk for your responce. i dont know the answer to any of those questions . i tried calling the person back but did not get an answer ..

ok so im resolved to the fact that the government does not care what the circumstances is and they will want me to pay.
like i said as far as i know it may be that my ex wife doesnt even know im here or care. she told me in no uncertian terms that if i tried to make conntact with my son i would end up attending my own funeral. maybe things have changed but i dont know the situation. i have been back for only a month now and am trying to get my life straight because i have a family that needs me more and is depending on me waiting in japan.

sounds mean but its the plain truth.

so knowing that im going to have to pay , what should i expect to be dealing with? . i am tring to get all the info i can. maybe i can somehow convince my wife and family to help if its not to terrible a strain but as it is since i have been here a month and in school im already studying nearly 16 hours a day.
does the governemnt take any of this into account when they decide on what im suposed to be paying. do they take into account the amount of money she has?

is there a way to keep her from knowing where i live and still take care of the situation ( i dont mind the government knowing but her knowing could out of spite cause even more problems)

Your new family is more important? Do they know what a deadbeat you are? How do you know how much money she makes? You have not talked to her or seen her in years.

I actually feel better knowing that your son does not know what kind of jerk of a father he has. He is better off not knowing you.

Your other children will also know what a jerk you are when they grow up and realize they have a brother that their very own Daddy threw away.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

"like i said as far as i know it may be that my ex wife doesnt even know im here or care"

so, apparently out of the blue, the CSE from LA found you, contacted you by threatening phone call saying if you don't pay you will go to jail, while having no judgement against you, and in the meantime your ex doesn't even know you are here or care???

ARE you retarded??

The obvious answer is YES! How much you want to bet the *X* is on state aid and that is how he was tracked down?

 

[MrsK]

"like i said as far as i know it may be that my ex wife doesnt even know im here or care"

so, apparently out of the blue, the CSE from LA found you, contacted you by threatening phone call saying if you don't pay you will go to jail, while having no judgement against you, and in the meantime your ex doesn't even know you are here or care???

ARE you retarded??

Thank god you said it.

CSE in this state does not NEARLY have the time to randomly call up ppl and threaten them

WAS THERE AN AMOUNT FOR SUPPORT SET DURING YOUR DIVORCE???

Let's start from there, since I've asked this quite a few times already.

 

[MrsK]

The obvious answer is YES! How much you want to bet the *X* is on state aid and that is how he was tracked down?

This is what I am betting.

OR, there was an amt set @ the time of the divorce & she took the paperwork to CSE to have it enforced.

 

[danf6975]

ah ok i can give you the details of our divorce that might help.

originally when we got devorced i was paying child support to her but then we got back together and i moved up to michigan with her and got a job there and we where living again in the same house. at that time i was told by HER lawyer ( the guy from louisiana) that while living in the same household i did not need to pay.

so durring that time i did not pay. im fairly sure that that is correct as the lawyer explained it to back then.
the issue happened when i caught her with another guy again and at which point she gets angry at me and says she never wants to see me again ( i still dont understand how that works) so over the next few days as im getting ready to leave she tells me multiple times that she doesnt want anything from me and that she wants me out of her life forever and that if i make any attempt to get back in i might not live through it.

so when i leave i assume that that is when the support would pick back up right?

well within a few months i had re enlisted in the service and tried to set up child support payments to her bank but she refused to give me the bank info ( or the military)
a couple months after that i wound up in japan.
while in japan i remarried and then finished the military and stayed in japan with my wife and we had another child .

later ( as in reciently) i come back to america and start school ( the family paid for it and living expences so that i can change carrers and make a better life for us when i am through studying)
then today i get a phonecall from a woman that at first would not say who she was or why she was calling and started asking me about my address. so eventually i hung up on her. then she calls me back and identifies herself and tells me IMMEDIATLY that if i dont pay money that i owe i am going to jail . i havent even thought of who the person is and had to play back her message she left because i hung up on her again thinking she was jus a scammer. then i listen to the message and find out she is really from child suport enforcement agency ( i think thats what it is would have to re listen to whole message)
so i dial again and no answer

 

[danf6975]

Your new family is more important? Do they know what a deadbeat you are? How do you know how much money she makes? You have not talked to her or seen her in years.

I actually feel better knowing that your son does not know what kind of jerk of a father he has. He is better off not knowing you.

Your other children will also know what a jerk you are when they grow up and realize they have a brother that their very own Daddy threw away.

please leave this thread as you are not contributing anything other than insults