Yes, I did want advice, legal and otherwise, but I didn't appreciate my questions leading to dirty talk and recipes.
Just so you know,The only thing that the state helps me out with is medical for my daughter and granddaughter. Other than that I support them totally.
I needed to know also because the father is no where to be found and she doesn't even know his last name or where he lives. I know she wasn't too smart on that part. So there is no way I could get consent from him.
But thanks to everyone else for their help and I will call a lawyer and see what I can do. I don't want to alienate my daughter, I just want to make sure that my granddaughter is safe and taken care of.