can my child support be raised in reguards to inheritance?

[haiku]

You're right, in many instances. But being a CP involves not only the joys of parenthood, but the struggles and stresses of juggling daily life as (in many cases) a single parent. I have seen too many cases where the NCP doesn't want to deal with the day-to-day work of taking care of children and the idea of having to be a full-time caretaker is actually something they would not want to assume. I think a CP, especially a single CP, is entitled to all the support and help he or she can get.

Boo Hoo, lady.... More NCP's than you know busily work very hard to support TWO households, after having spent years getting OVER not getting to enjoy the joys of parenthood, and the struggles and stress's of single parenthood(what do you think an NCP is?) They in most cases have become so set in thier ways of only having thier children on weekends, that yes, it would be an initial shock to resume being the "custodial" parent again.

to automatically assume that NCP's as a whole do not want thier children, do not want to be a parent to thier children, when most are out there working every day, sending thier support plus extra's is incredibly narrow minded view of reality.

 

[missyjo]

I just wanted to say a few things about the responses I have read. My exhusband only has to pay $327.00/month becuase he works all underneath the table. He lives in Colorado and we live in Iowa. He never wants to see our children or anything. He never helps pay for school clothes, shoes, school supplies or anything. He had our girls for a short period over the summer and he called me to tell me that I had to send him money to buy one of my girls new sandles-they broke! He told me that the $327.00 a month should buy everything the girls need and that he shouldn't have to buy them anything while they are there! My girls are 6 and 8. The babysitter bill ALONE a month is $600.00. I would like to see anyone one of you try to support 2 girls on 327.00/month for support. I work 50+ hours a week to make ends meet and he gets away with paying nothing! I am sorry that some of you think it is hard to be raising 2 famlies-I agree it is, but my children were the first ones born, and if he couldn't afford to have any more, he should of kept it in his pants. Thank you to those of you who think it is a crock for the $327.00/month. To the rest of you, I am sorry you have such a pathetic view on things

 

[haiku]

I just wanted to say a few things about the responses I have read. My exhusband only has to pay $327.00/month becuase he works all underneath the table. He lives in Colorado and we live in Iowa. He never wants to see our children or anything. He never helps pay for school clothes, shoes, school supplies or anything. He had our girls for a short period over the summer and he called me to tell me that I had to send him money to buy one of my girls new sandles-they broke! He told me that the $327.00 a month should buy everything the girls need and that he shouldn't have to buy them anything while they are there! My girls are 6 and 8. The babysitter bill ALONE a month is $600.00. I would like to see anyone one of you try to support 2 girls on 327.00/month for support. I work 50+ hours a week to make ends meet and he gets away with paying nothing! I am sorry that some of you think it is hard to be raising 2 famlies-I agree it is, but my children were the first ones born, and if he couldn't afford to have any more, he should of kept it in his pants. Thank you to those of you who think it is a crock for the $327.00/month. To the rest of you, I am sorry you have such a pathetic view on things

Umm...and I suppose when you were married, you and this "loser", were rolling in "under the table" money and everything was peachy, and you of course did nothing to raise your station in life so you wouldn't have to work 50 plus hours a week, just to support yourself.

 

[Rushia]

I just wanted to say a few things about the responses I have read. My exhusband only has to pay $327.00/month becuase he works all underneath the table. He lives in Colorado and we live in Iowa. He never wants to see our children or anything. He never helps pay for school clothes, shoes, school supplies or anything. He had our girls for a short period over the summer and he called me to tell me that I had to send him money to buy one of my girls new sandles-they broke! He told me that the $327.00 a month should buy everything the girls need and that he shouldn't have to buy them anything while they are there! My girls are 6 and 8. The babysitter bill ALONE a month is $600.00. I would like to see anyone one of you try to support 2 girls on 327.00/month for support. I work 50+ hours a week to make ends meet and he gets away with paying nothing! I am sorry that some of you think it is hard to be raising 2 famlies-I agree it is, but my children were the first ones born, and if he couldn't afford to have any more, he should of kept it in his pants. Thank you to those of you who think it is a crock for the $327.00/month. To the rest of you, I am sorry you have such a pathetic view on things

Hon, while I feel for you...

Try 50.00 per month for two children. That's what I'm supposed to get. Ordered two years ago and I have yet to see a dime.

 

[missyjo]

Umm...and I suppose when you were married, you and this "loser", were rolling in "under the table" money and everything was peachy, and you of course did nothing to raise your station in life so you wouldn't have to work 50 plus hours a week, just to support yourself.

No, while we were married, he didn't work at all. I was the stupid one and got married at 18, so it is my fault I did marry the loser, but I do have 2 wonderful kids from the whole thing, and that is it. I just think that it is pathetic that dads-sperm donors can get away with not being responsible for their children. I could care less if I recieved any money at all-I just want money in a trust fund for college for them. I don't think that is 2 much to ask for. I am an RN-so I am educated and can raise my girls with out him, but I shouldn't have to. I want my kids to have the things in life that I didn't-so yes I work hard for that, excuse me!

 

[missyjo]

Hon, while I feel for you...

Try 50.00 per month for two children. That's what I'm supposed to get. Ordered two years ago and I have yet to see a dime.

I am sorry, I thought I was the only one who "got screwed" in the whole child support situation.

 

[missyjo]

So why doesn't she just ask for him to buy the kids those things? I can tell you from experience that non-custodial parents would be SO much less defensive and many times would be more than willing to provide things for their kids out of their own pockets. It's when they are handing over the cash to the custodial parent that they start to worry about how it's being spent. Ultimately, they simply have no control.

Especially in situations like these, when the basic needs are already being provided for and we are talking about extra funds, why shouldn't the parent who acquired the additional income (whether by working for, inheriting, or winning the money) decide how that money should be spent on the kids?

I mean, honestly, you are being hypocritical by stating that we are prejudging the CP, and yet you are prejudging the NCP by suggesting that they won't use any of their inheritance to provide anything but a disneyland trip for the kids!

all you have done is gripe about me through out this whole thing. I have asked my ex-husband for help with school clothes, sports fees, shoes, etc.... he tells me that is what the whopping $327.00/month is for.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

all you have done is gripe about me through out this whole thing. I have asked my ex-husband for help with school clothes, sports fees, shoes, etc.... he tells me that is what the whopping $327.00/month is for.

And all you have done during this entire thread is ignore the VALID legal opinion you got in the VERY FIRST RESPONSE!

 

[haiku]

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No, while we were married, he didn't work at all. I was the stupid one and got married at 18, so it is my fault I did marry the loser, but I do have 2 wonderful kids from the whole thing, and that is it. I just think that it is pathetic that dads-sperm donors can get away with not being responsible for their children.

***Guess what if he pays what he is court ordered to, he IS being responsible for his children. if he did not work when you married, and had two children with him, what makes you think he is going to get some spectacularly well paying job now? The guy is who he is, and he does pay his support.***

He pays his suppo I could care less if I recieved any money at all-I just want money in a trust fund for college for them.

****So put YOUR money in a trust fund for them. He should be able to decide how he wants to spend his money. Quite frankly, 500,000 is not really a great windfall. And it depends on what it actually IS. an annuity or real estate as part of an estate for example. No child is gauranteed a college education bought and paid for by thier parents, but 500,000 could go far in making sure dad or mom, does not end up in the poor house or the nursing home from hell someday, which to me should come before saving for a childs college fund.***

I don't think that is 2 much to ask for. I am an RN-so I am educated and can raise my girls with out him, but I shouldn't have to. I want my kids to have the things in life that I didn't-so yes I work hard for that, excuse me!

***Don't we all, bu tyo upicked a JOBLESS guy to have these kids you want everything for, with.... And we "shouldn't" have to do alot of things but we do. Quite frankly, the court awarded his amount of support and he pays it, which means he is helping you, to the BEST of his ability.

 

[haiku]

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No, while we were married, he didn't work at all. I was the stupid one and got married at 18, so it is my fault I did marry the loser, but I do have 2 wonderful kids from the whole thing, and that is it. I just think that it is pathetic that dads-sperm donors can get away with not being responsible for their children.

***Guess what if he pays what he is court ordered to, he IS being responsible for his children. if he did not work when you married, and had two children with him, what makes you think he is going to get some spectacularly well paying job now? The guy is who he is, and he does pay his support, and see his children***

He pays his suppo I could care less if I recieved any money at all-I just want money in a trust fund for college for them.

****So put YOUR money in a trust fund for them. He should be able to decide how he wants to spend his money. Quite frankly, 500,000 is not really a great windfall. And it depends on what it actually IS. an annuity or real estate as part of an estate for example. No child is gauranteed a college education bought and paid for by thier parents, but 500,000 could go far in making sure dad or mom, does not end up in the poor house or the nursing home from hell someday, which to me should come before saving for a childs college fund.***

I don't think that is 2 much to ask for. I am an RN-so I am educated and can raise my girls with out him, but I shouldn't have to. I want my kids to have the things in life that I didn't-so yes I work hard for that, excuse me!

***Don't we all, bu tyo upicked a JOBLESS guy to have these kids you want everything for, with.... And we "shouldn't" have to do alot of things but we do. Quite frankly, the court awarded his amount of support and he pays it, which means he is helping you, to the BEST of his ability.

 

[missyjo]

And all you have done during this entire thread is ignore the VALID legal opinion you got in the VERY FIRST RESPONSE!

The reason that it should get modified is because he has not paid but what about 10-15% of what it costs to raise the girls, now, you tell me, how is that fair? He makes just as much money as I do, but over 3/4 of the money he gets is under the table

 

[BelizeBreeze]

The reason that it should get modified is because he has not paid but what about 10-15% of what it costs to raise the girls, now, you tell me, how is that fair? He makes just as much money as I do, but over 3/4 of the money he gets is under the table

WILL YOU SHUT THE HELL UP? No one cares about your problems. YOu asked a question and got the answer.

All this other crap is you trying to make yourself look good to strangers on the internet. And frankly, it makes you look like an idiot.

You got your answer. Now either close this thread or I'll have the administrator close it.

 

[stepmom&mom]

The reason that it should get modified is because he has not paid but what about 10-15% of what it costs to raise the girls, now, you tell me, how is that fair? He makes just as much money as I do, but over 3/4 of the money he gets is under the table

Well, I guess you're even then, because it sounds like he only gets 10-15% of parenting time with the children.

 

[haiku]

The reason that it should get modified is because he has not paid but what about 10-15% of what it costs to raise the girls, now, you tell me, how is that fair? He makes just as much money as I do, but over 3/4 of the money he gets is under the table

what do you mean 10 to 15%?.

He is paying the PROPER percentage of his income towards the childrens upbringing. it is you who is choosing to raise them at a higher level.

if he is hiding his money by working under the table, why hasn't that been your concern initially?

 

[missyjo]

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he IS NOT helping me at all-the money goes for his children by far, not for a car payment, house payment or anything-just clothes, food, etc..... I feel he doesn't see them but twice a year, so he is not being responsible!