can my child support be raised in reguards to inheritance?

[haiku]

he IS NOT helping me at all-the money goes for his children by far, not for a car payment, house payment or anything-just clothes, food, etc..... I feel he doesn't see them but twice a year, so he is not being responsible!

ergh......I wash my hands of you.....I agree with Belize........

 

[missyjo]

what do you mean 10 to 15%?.

He is paying the PROPER percentage of his income towards the childrens upbringing. it is you who is choosing to raise them at a higher level.

if he is hiding his money by working under the table, why hasn't that been your concern initially?

because I have tried to prove it and he always seems to get around it. I am not raising my girls "at a higher level." I just want them to be able to be in sports, girl scouts, piano lessons, etc....... so if that makes me a bad parent, then I guess I am. I just think that you are a NCP who is pissed off about how much you are paying, correct me if I am wrong

 

[missyjo]

WILL YOU SHUT THE HELL UP? No one cares about your problems. YOu asked a question and got the answer.

All this other crap is you trying to make yourself look good to strangers on the internet. And frankly, it makes you look like an idiot.

You got your answer. Now either close this thread or I'll have the administrator close it.

all I did was ask a question and YOU and other people are the ones that have made me look like a gold digger among other things. You are the one who said "yes you could, but I am not going to tell you, because frankly, the idea makes me sick." I am not trying to look good to strangers on the internet-I have a life thank you.

 

[Rushia]

I am sorry, I thought I was the only one who "got screwed" in the whole child support situation.

I didn't get screwed. I got what I asked for. He refused to hold a job while we were married and has barely held one since. I also bust my rear approx 60 hours per week to support my family, as does my hubby.

 

[missyjo]

Well, I guess you're even then, because it sounds like he only gets 10-15% of parenting time with the children.

that is through his choice, not the girls or mine.

 

[missyjo]

I didn't get screwed. I got what I asked for. He refused to hold a job while we were married and has barely held one since. I also bust my rear approx 60 hours per week to support my family, as does my hubby.

The way I look at it, atleast we don't have to put up with them anymore, right? Plus, you have to do what it takes to raise your family

 

[Rushia]

The way I look at it, atleast we don't have to put up with them anymore, right? Plus, you have to do what it takes to raise your family

Umm, yes I do. My children speak to their father everyday on the phone. He can see them whenever he wishes. My children's happiness is more important than how I feel about my x or the money. They want to see their daddy and stepmom, so they do. They have been known to come to my house for dinner. Stepmom came over to take care of me and the children when I had to have a biopsy done and couldn't care for the children. So yes, I deal with him very frequently.

 

[stepmom&mom]

Well, I'm certainly not a bitter NCP, my ex has never paid a penny of the court ordered child support he is supposed to pay. Guess how old my son is now? Seven years old! If I were getting $327/month from him, you do not even KNOW what a huge difference that would make. But you know what? The child support enforcement agency can't find him. They can't even take away his license. They sent me a letter telling me they are sorry but they are closing the case because they can't find him. So I don't even feel one bit sorry for you because you aren't getting in on some inheritance money.

 

[missyjo]

Well, I'm certainly not a bitter NCP, my ex has never paid a penny of the court ordered child support he is supposed to pay. Guess how old my son is now? Seven years old! If I were getting $327/month from him, you do not even KNOW what a huge difference that would make. But you know what? The child support enforcement agency can't find him. They can't even take away his license. They sent me a letter telling me they are sorry but they are closing the case because they can't find him. So I don't even feel one bit sorry for you because you aren't getting in on some inheritance money.

let me ask you a question, how much did the court order for him to pay? Plus if your son's dad came into some inheritance, wouldn't you think that your child should benifit from it? Even if it was just a trust fund for college? I think so

 

[missyjo]

Umm, yes I do. My children speak to their father everyday on the phone. He can see them whenever he wishes. My children's happiness is more important than how I feel about my x or the money. They want to see their daddy and stepmom, so they do. They have been known to come to my house for dinner. Stepmom came over to take care of me and the children when I had to have a biopsy done and couldn't care for the children. So yes, I deal with him very frequently.

That is wonderful that they have a good relationship with their father-all kids deserve that

 

[stepmom&mom]

My ex was ordered to pay $150/month. That is based on income. His income was imputed at minimum wage at the time since he was not working. Heck, I'd be happy just to get that. My ex owes me approximately $13000. If he came into money through inheritance, all I would want would be for him to pay the arrears that he owes. Aside from that, I would expect nothing more. Your ex doesn't even owe an arrearage, so that is different. Honestly, I don't need my ex's money, and I have come to terms with the fact that I will most likely never see a penny. But that's ok. I have my son and I am greatful for that.

 

[missyjo]

My ex was ordered to pay $150/month. That is based on income. His income was imputed at minimum wage at the time since he was not working. Heck, I'd be happy just to get that. My ex owes me approximately $13000. If he came into money through inheritance, all I would want would be for him to pay the arrears that he owes. Aside from that, I would expect nothing more. Your ex doesn't even owe an arrearage, so that is different. Honestly, I don't need my ex's money, and I have come to terms with the fact that I will most likely never see a penny. But that's ok. I have my son and I am greatful for that.

That sucks, sorry to hear that. Maybe someday you could atleast get his income tax or something. That is what I had to do for the past 4 years

 

[stepmom&mom]

I'll never see a penny. The child support enforcement agency sent an income assignment to 25 different jobs in the last year. He knows not to file taxes because they would be taken. He won't even return to this state because he has bench warrants out for his arrest for other issues. Trust me, if you look up the definition of deadbeat in the dictionary, you will see my ex. He is a REAL loser.

 

[missyjo]

I'll never see a penny. The child support enforcement agency sent an income assignment to 25 different jobs in the last year. He knows not to file taxes because they would be taken. He won't even return to this state because he has bench warrants out for his arrest for other issues. Trust me, if you look up the definition of deadbeat in the dictionary, you will see my ex. He is a REAL loser.

Yes I would have to agree with you. That shows how stupid he is, because if he did file, yes you would get the refund, but atleast he would be lowering the balance due. men, never seem to use their brains much

 

[johannah11]

WILL YOU SHUT THE HELL UP? No one cares about your problems. YOu asked a question and got the answer.

All this other crap is you trying to make yourself look good to strangers on the internet. And frankly, it makes you look like an idiot.

You got your answer. Now either close this thread or I'll have the administrator close it.

You shut up! You and others raised the fact about the extenuating circumstances about the circumstances surrounding the award of $327 and she gave it. Sounds live she has a very valid case to ask for a raise in support based on NEED not "living in the lap if luxury."

And to those of you who think that someone who made the mistake of hooking up with a loser should just deal with it -- NO WAY. It is worth every second of effort trying to kick the loser's but to make them be a parent. The fact that one parent is more successful and more resposible doesn't mean that they have to go through life, in essence, subsidising the loser. These children are entitled in every way to benefit from this inheritance!