Coach and school violating my rights...

[daddenied]

Take copies of all e-mails with you to provide the judge a picture of her. Then let the judge make up his/her own mind.

Each time I have gone to court, unless the judges have read them before seeing us, they simply ignore the copies of emails I attach for their review.

 

[casa]

Each time I have gone to court, unless the judges have read them before seeing us, they simply ignore the copies of emails I attach for their review.

Have you properly filed the e-mails with the court and served anything you've filed on the X's attorney?
(simple declarations outlining basic facts which contradict what the X is saying in e-mails).

 

[daddenied]

Have you properly filed the e-mails with the court and served anything you've filed on the X's attorney?
(simple declarations outlining basic facts which contradict what the X is saying in e-mails).

All paperwork have been properly filed with the courts and included in attachments to actual motions and one of them has been an actual simple declaration. Ugly, horrible email messages from her have been included and I don't know if anyone really ever reads them. When we were last in court, my ex made it a point to say, "Your honor, I understand that the Respondent has inundated you with unnecessary paperwork and I assure you I would never do that..." with this smug look on her face and he disregarded the entire file, altough he did grant my request of the only therapist I found to see me and the boys on Saturdays. They've all been properly served to my ex as well. My ex has no attorney. She finds no need in one saying that she continues to beat me without the help of one. I believe SHE is the one who is afraid that the truth will come out and if she insists on a female therapist, she will have to take me back to court and it will be another 6-8 weeks. I think she bluffs, but I never know with her. All I know is that if she does not have them at sessions as scheduled the Fresno PD says at that time they can help????

 

[rmet4nzkx]

You are not violating any order, the therapy visits are meant to help you repair your relationship, remember? All other orders are unchanged and all other potential changes are stayed until the next mediation. She may have asked for many things but the judge did not make those orders. Keep documeting, reply as previously propsosed and updated as needed. Great that you have a mediation date and an opportunity to meet with your son/s this Saturday. Write the supertendent of schools and advise them their coaches and admin have been duly notified of the current court orders and nothing CP has verbally told them is ordered or she would have the curent order and interference with your parental rights will be exercised. Oh course you will look forward to their cooporation in the matter. Hang in there and keep the faith, she will blow soon.

 

[daddenied]

You are not violating any order, the therapy visits are meant to help you repair your relationship, remember? All other orders are unchanged and all other potential changes are stayed until the next mediation. She may have asked for many things but the judge did not make those orders. Keep documeting, reply as previously propsosed and updated as needed. Great that you have a mediation date and an opportunity to meet with your son/s this Saturday. Write the supertendent of schools and advise them their coaches and admin have been duly notified of the current court orders and nothing CP has verbally told them is ordered or she would have the curent order and interference with your parental rights will be exercised. Oh course you will look forward to their cooporation in the matter. Hang in there and keep the faith, she will blow soon.

I sure hope you are right and she does blow. This entire ordeal has taken almost everything out of me and my girlfriend, my family, her family and close friends who love us all. I asked for a third time today that she be sure to have our oldest son at the therapist's office on Saturday. The session will only be for him, then for me...I'm not sure if the therapist will see us together or not. My ex's reply was the same...something in the gist of my needing to get a female therapist if I care anything for the boys. She also went so far as stating "If you refuse to do this and take their feelings into consideration, I will have to take the necessary steps to "protect" our sons as I would be deemed negligent otherwise." This lady is so full of crap! I wrote her back and told her that "HER" concerns have already been noted and relayed to Mr. Therapist and I was confident he would address our children's concerns as he is a professional. I also reminded her that if he was not there as scheduled, SHE could do whatever she wants legally, a police report would be filed against her for AGAIN violating the court order. The FLF office said I am able to do this, although they did tell me that Fresno Family Courts frown on police reports against CPs who are not "unfit". Hmmm..."unfit"...that has yet to be determined.

I emailed the superintendent and mailed a hard copy to him today. I also CCd it to the high school principal, the AThletic Director and I plan on filing it with the courts, but wanted to ask you if that is the right thing to do.

Thanks! By the way, I apologized and was grateful for the forgiving heart that accepted it. I have accepted my b-day gift. Thanks!

 

[betterthanher]

I know this is not a "feel good" site, but Sir, although I have no legal advice for you, I have been reading your posts and I simply can not believe this waste of flesh (also known as your ex) is pulling this crap with you at the expense of the children. Her day will come when she will pay. Maybe it'll be in hell. Maybe a truck will slam into her because he didn't see a stop sign. I feel for you for what you've been put through.

When this is all said and done, I can only imagine someone on here will help you craft a rather long and detailed civil lawsuit against this lunatic bi*ch!

 

[daddenied]

I know this is not a "feel good" site, but Sir, although I have no legal advice for you, I have been reading your posts and I simply can not believe this waste of flesh (also known as your ex) is pulling this crap with you at the expense of the children. Her day will come when she will pay. Maybe it'll be in hell. Maybe a truck will slam into her because he didn't see a stop sign. I feel for you for what you've been put through.

When this is all said and done, I can only imagine someone on here will help you craft a rather long and detailed civil lawsuit against this lunatic bi*ch!

Hello. I couldn't help but smile at your post. With my ex having our sons believe that anything more than a whisper out of my mouth is considered verbal abuse, it was nice to read someone else express some of my own real frustrations. Thank you. By the way, our sons ages and heights are 10-5'6", 12-5'10", 14-6'9" and 15-6'2". I fear she will disservice them in so many ways. I fear they will be afraid of their own shadow and when their coaches yell at them I believe my ex has informed them, "that" yelling or raising of voices is okay, just not from daddy. It's tough. I appreciate everyone who gives me input, legal or not.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

I sure hope you are right and she does blow. This entire ordeal has taken almost everything out of me and my girlfriend, my family, her family and close friends who love us all. I asked for a third time today that she be sure to have our oldest son at the therapist's office on Saturday. The session will only be for him, then for me...I'm not sure if the therapist will see us together or not. My ex's reply was the same...something in the gist of my needing to get a female therapist if I care anything for the boys. She also went so far as stating "If you refuse to do this and take their feelings into consideration, I will have to take the necessary steps to "protect" our sons as I would be deemed negligent otherwise." This lady is so full of crap! I wrote her back and told her that "HER" concerns have already been noted and relayed to Mr. Therapist and I was confident he would address our children's concerns as he is a professional. I also reminded her that if he was not there as scheduled, SHE could do whatever she wants legally, a police report would be filed against her for AGAIN violating the court order. The FLF office said I am able to do this, although they did tell me that Fresno Family Courts frown on police reports against CPs who are not "unfit". Hmmm..."unfit"...that has yet to be determined.

I emailed the superintendent and mailed a hard copy to him today. I also CCd it to the high school principal, the AThletic Director and I plan on filing it with the courts, but wanted to ask you if that is the right thing to do.

Thanks! By the way, I apologized and was grateful for the forgiving heart that accepted it. I have accepted my b-day gift. Thanks!

Did you reply to her that the issue of her wanting a female therapist was already addressed by the court before they appointed Mr. Therapist? And that these initial sessions are still assessment with pleanty of time to address their issues in depth as therapy continues? You might add that she should address her concerns with her own therapist

 

[daddenied]

Did you reply to her that the issue of her wanting a female therapist was already addressed by the court before they appointed Mr. Therapist? And that these initial sessions are still assessment with pleanty of time to address their issues in depth as therapy continues? You might add that she should address her concerns with her own therapist

Yes, I did reply the second time to her reminding her that her own request was already addressed and denied. I also reminded her that the judge who granted my request for Mr. Therapist knew him and his work and stated that Mr. Therapist had been one of the Family Law Court's best therapist as well as mediator when he mediated in the past. She ignored everything I said of course. I've already many times suggested she take up her own issues with her own preferred therapists at CYS.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Yes, I did reply the second time to her reminding her that her own request was already addressed and denied. I also reminded her that the judge who granted my request for Mr. Therapist knew him and his work and stated that Mr. Therapist had been one of the Family Law Court's best therapist as well as mediator when he mediated in the past. She ignored everything I said of course. I've already many times suggested she take up her own issues with her own preferred therapists at CYS.

Dearest Ex mother of my precious children,
As you know CYS has a program to help you deal with your feelings and issues of parenting following divorce. You might find it less frustrating than to peserverate on issues already decided by the court if you were to enroll in the program.
Very Truly Yours,

How about that?

 

[Rushia]

Yes, I did reply the second time to her reminding her that her own request was already addressed and denied. I also reminded her that the judge who granted my request for Mr. Therapist knew him and his work and stated that Mr. Therapist had been one of the Family Law Court's best therapist as well as mediator when he mediated in the past. She ignored everything I said of course. I've already many times suggested she take up her own issues with her own preferred therapists at CYS.

LOL!!! I have also kept up with your posts. I still wish that I could help you but I don't know all that much. Keep fighting and Good Luck!!

 

[betterthanher]

Dearest Ex mother of my precious children,
As you know CYS has a program to help you deal with your feelings and issues of parenting following divorce. You might find it less frustrating than to peserverate on issues already decided by the court if you were to enroll in the program.
Very Truly Yours,

How about that?

"Ex mother?" LOL

Did you intend to put a "/" between ex and mother?

 

[rmet4nzkx]

"Ex mother?" LOL

Did you intend to put a "/" between ex and mother?

That was left for DD to edit as he sees fit, or hopes to see her fit

 

[daddenied]

Dearest Ex mother of my precious children,
As you know CYS has a program to help you deal with your feelings and issues of parenting following divorce. You might find it less frustrating than to peserverate on issues already decided by the court if you were to enroll in the program.
Very Truly Yours,

How about that?

Hi Miss Met.

It's Daddenied's girlfriend. He is on the road and wanted me to log on and check this thread. You are hilarious! His ex states she will do what she has to do to protect their children. ???? We do not anticipate her bringing her oldest son to therapy today.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Hi Miss Met.

It's Daddenied's girlfriend. He is on the road and wanted me to log on and check this thread. You are hilarious! His ex states she will do what she has to do to protect their children. ???? We do not anticipate her bringing her oldest son to therapy today.

Then she will be in contempt of court and without excuse, she may still bring the child to therapy, who knows, but you are ready if it doesn't happen. Has the original therapist sent #1 sons chart to Mr. Therapist?