I think that we are still not quite understanding what is written in the court order because you are paraphrasing it instead of telling us exacting what the order says about visitation. Could you please give us more clarity about exactly what the order says?
I suspect that one side proposed it, the other side agreed to it, and the court sanctioned it. The change would be that the one side is failing to comply with the spirit of the order, specifically that visitation be ongoing and consistent.
What I don't think happened is the court told the father and the kid to work it out between themselves. If that happened the OP isn't on the hook for squat.
You are so very wrong. Children/teens seldom know what is good for them.
I don't think that's what happened either. But, even if it did, the court isn't going to be happy with a CP who let's kiddo refuse to visit dad after they were ordered to work out visits. The court isn't going to punish the kid. The court may not "punish" mom, but she may get a tongue lashing before the order is modified so that this nonsense doesn't continue.
My parents hated my first wife from the moment they met her, but I sure knew that she was good for me.
Isn't wife # one the chick that will finance your yacht someday?...over the rainbow...when pigs fly...
Yes that's her. I've been in contact with her fairly recently. Believe me...it's worth the ~$160k to have her out of my life.Isn't wife # one the chick that will finance your yacht someday?...over the rainbow...when pigs fly...
Over the years, on forums like these, I have seen many examples of judges who left visitation between the children and the non custodial parent when the non custodial parent has been absent from their lives for a long time. So, yes, it not unheard of for a judge to kind of leave control in the hands of the teenage child. Its neither common nor normal, but its not unheard of. I have even seen a couple of examples of where a judge decided that it would be too disruptive to the child's life to force a relationship with a biological parent who tried to enter a teens life.
Exact quote from court papers: the father shall have visitation with the child that he and the child mutually agree upon.
Ok, then you are in no way dishonoring the court orders. You really are out of it as long as you are not actively discouraging your child from spending time with dad. That kind of order is not unheard of. It's rare but not unheard of.
Thank you for this! I have always encouraged my son. Even though it may not be best but he would have to figure that out on his own without anyone’s influence. I would tell him when it’s his dads bday and he would respond I don’t know that guy nor do I want to and where has he been on my birthday. So what was I supposed to do but leave it alone. I can’t make excuses for the father can I?
Same with my mom with my sons father. We never listen and learn the hard way and end up in these situations unfortunately.
Did you read what I posted what is said in the papers?
I think they felt that he had been absent for so long that they didn’t want to disrupt him and force it on him. His law guardian had in depth conversations with my son, he told me how impressed he was with my son and how mature he is. Proud mom moment. He does not hold back his feelings and speaks his mind to the fullest!