Early pickup

[Zigner]

You are overstepping by setting up doctor appointments for children that are NOT yours. Your husband should step up and do that.

I don't think this is overstepping. I would often ask my wife to handle these sorts of things for my kids. The problem in this thread is the imposition on mom's time.

 

[LdiJ]

I don't think this is overstepping. I would often ask my wife to handle these sorts of things for my kids. The problem in this thread is the imposition on mom's time.

I think that everybody pretty much agrees with you. The OP however simply doesn't get it. Or maybe she does now. She hasn't responded in a while.

 

[t74]

You are really lucky if you can schedule appointments for "my time/your time" depending on the person responsible for taking child to appointment. In my area, you cannot be choosy since our doctors are so busy. My 3 month followup earliest available appoitment is 5 months out. It is more important, IMO, to get to the appointment at the earliest possible time rather than quibble about "your time/my time". There is what is legal and what is practical. Someone needs to start being the grownup for the kids sakes.

 

[LdiJ]

You are really lucky if you can schedule appointments for "my time/your time" depending on the person responsible for taking child to appointment. In my area, you cannot be choosy since our doctors are so busy. My 3 month followup earliest available appoitment is 5 months out. It is more important, IMO, to get to the appointment at the earliest possible time rather than quibble about "your time/my time". There is what is legal and what is practical. Someone needs to start being the grownup for the kids sakes.

That would be all good and well if we were not in the middle of the holidays, where many families have to do a lot of finegaling (I know that isn't spelled right) in order to fit all of the family and activities in. In this instance however, the stepmother doesn't even grasp that she is encroaching upon mom's time...and that is a problem.

 

[stealth2]

You are really lucky if you can schedule appointments for "my time/your time" depending on the person responsible for taking child to appointment. In my area, you cannot be choosy since our doctors are so busy. My 3 month followup earliest available appoitment is 5 months out. It is more important, IMO, to get to the appointment at the earliest possible time rather than quibble about "your time/my time". There is what is legal and what is practical. Someone needs to start being the grownup for the kids sakes.

In which case, one would assume Dad/SM are bright enough to discuss with Mom the early p/u slightly sooner than the day before.

 

[t74]

That would be all good and well if we were not in the middle of the holidays, where many families have to do a lot of finegaling (I know that isn't spelled right) in order to fit all of the family and activities in. In this instance however, the stepmother doesn't even grasp that she is encroaching upon mom's time...and that is a problem.

How many activities are more important than a doctor's appointment? Rescheduling one in my area will postpone it for 4 to 6 months.

None of the parents and steps seem to be in cooperating for what is best for the kids if they are fighting over 5 hours of time verses this appointment.

 

[stealth2]

How many activities are more important than a doctor's appointment? Rescheduling one in my area will postpone it for 4 to 6 months.

Again - wouldn't you then think Dad would have addressed/sorted out the early p/u somewhat sooner?

And, somehow, I have never had to wait more than a week or two for a nonemergent appointment to be rescheduled. Not even for a specialist...

 

[t74]

Again - wouldn't you then think Dad would have addressed/sorted out the early p/u somewhat sooner?

And, somehow, I have never had to wait more than a week or two for a nonemergent appointment to be rescheduled. Not even for a specialist...

Then you are really lucky! Send some of your docs my way, please. It took 5 months to get to the neurologist outpatient following DH's stroke. I needed a followup to a hospitalization from an ER admit following my second in 3 months; the time to see PCP for what was advised as essential within a week was over 2 months and to see the PA was two weeks. As I sad earlier, 3 month appointment scheduled yesterday for first available is 5 months out.

It obviously depends on where you live.

 

[LdiJ]

Then you are really lucky! Send some of your docs my way, please. It took 5 months to get to the neurologist outpatient following DH's stroke. I needed a followup to a hospitalization from an ER admit following my second in 3 months; the time to see PCP for what was advised as essential within a week was over 2 months and to see the PA was two weeks. As I sad earlier, 3 month appointment scheduled yesterday for first available is 5 months out.

It obviously depends on where you live.

While I agree that this sort of thing can depend on where you live, we are clearly not talking about children with serious medical issues. Odds are that the appointment in question is a well child visit that could easily be postponed without even remotely effecting the child's best interest.