Malcava, my opinion may be slightly different than some you have received. I have always been of the belief that children's feelings are no less important than adults. If something doesn't feel right for them, it must be respected and acknowledged (including visitation).malcava said:What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? TxI just found out from my daughter that her father has allowed his girlfriend to shower and bath with her @ least 4 times. My dauther is six years old. She didnt want to father to get mad at her so she did what he said. What can I do? She hasnt said she doesnt want to go back but i'm worried that if i dont allow her to go with him I can be held in contempt. I have no problem with allowing the girlfriend to bath my daughter and whatnot but when she's naked in the shower with her that draws the line. I have no luck in reaching her father. I just need to know what i can do on my side. Thanks for reading.
In this regard, if she has expressed that she is uncomfortable being forced to bathe with someone and father is unwilling to consider those feelings and acknowledge them, I would absolutely NOT force the child to go anywhere, nor do anything, they are not comfortable in doing period. Contempt? Deal with it as it comes - I would not be forcing the child to visit until the child is given the respect of privacy she deserves! Children are people and deserving of the same respect as adults. No one wants to be forced to do anything against their will, regardless. If it isn't right for them, it isn't right and duty as parent to respect that. Just my .02.