He walked out on mediation!

[bliss_in_texas]

The point being, it is up to the JUDGE - NOT YOU - to decide what sort of time Dad is going to have.

Yes, it was and the judge said a few hours a week.

 

[bliss_in_texas]

So because you didn't send biodad to jail that makes you mother of the year? Do you want a star to wear on your forehead?

You ARE bitter and should learn to let that go for your son's sake. No matter which way you turn it, twist it, or flip it inside-out, biodad is still the biodad. Swallow your pride dear! You'll be the bigger person in the long run.

Hey, you are the one that nominated me for Mom of the year..and after everything that man and his girlfriend have put me and my son and my other children through, it's a wonder we are still functioning as a family. I HAVE tried, over and over to give this man access to his son, to give him the chance to be a particpant in his life. Everytime the man wants everything on HIS terms, it isn't about what's good for the little boy.
Biodad? So, You're a biodad but you don't want to be a particpative dad until you decide you are ready? What about the child? What about all the years the child didn't know you because you put your own needs, wants and selfish desire's above the simple desire of a child to be loved unconditionally. Letting your girlfriend dictate when SHE'S ready to handle a child (the biodad's words, he was more afraid of losing the girlfriend than his son) Out of the blue, you decide..hey, I think I DO want a son, after all I'm getting married and that'll look really good to everyone! I'll dive right in and disrupt everyone's lives, cause stress and financial ruin by filing a ridiculous pleading..hey hey..and while I'm at it, I'll allege Mom is a liar and negletful and dangerous..yeah yeah, that'll show HER! And oh, yeah, lets make sure we pretend Mom kept baby away from me, even though I never contacted her (we'll leave out the part where she contacted me, oh, better yet, we'll call that harrassment!). And to top it all of, I'll lie on the witness stand so my girlfriend won't find out that I've lied to her and my family for years about my relationship with the Mom, cause if I don't lie, the truth will come out and I'll be proven a scumbucket.
You know what? The truth has come out so far, the needs of my son are being put before the desire of a man who popped into his life on a whim. I would much rather have my son be ignorant of a man who is going be inconsistent and a potential emotional and mental danger to my son.
You can call me what you want, say anything you like, you haven't lived this experience with us. Fine, most judges will issue a Standard order, you said so yourself that unless the dad is some kind of risk, thats what will happen. It didn't happen. There is two times a week for four hours each. Thats it. The judge decided and thats that for now.

 

[stealth2]

Fine, most judges will issue a Standard order, you said so yourself that unless the dad is some kind of risk, thats what will happen. It didn't happen. There is two times a week for four hours each. Thats it. The judge decided and thats that for now.

And expect it to be bumped up to SOP if Dad keeps up with visitation on any sort of regular basis.

 

[bliss_in_texas]

And expect it to be bumped up to SOP if Dad keeps up with visitation on any sort of regular basis.

If Dad proves that he can be a true Dad and keep his word, do what is best for his son and be consistent for more than a month or two, and there is no adverse affect on my son, I welcome him to be more involved.
Given his track record though, I would be really surprised if he did..but I hope he does.

 

[jslopez711]

Hey, you are the one that nominated me for Mom of the year..and after everything that man and his girlfriend have put me and my son and my other children through, it's a wonder we are still functioning as a family. I HAVE tried, over and over to give this man access to his son, to give him the chance to be a particpant in his life. Everytime the man wants everything on HIS terms, it isn't about what's good for the little boy.
Biodad? So, You're a biodad but you don't want to be a particpative dad until you decide you are ready? What about the child? What about all the years the child didn't know you because you put your own needs, wants and selfish desire's above the simple desire of a child to be loved unconditionally. Letting your girlfriend dictate when SHE'S ready to handle a child (the biodad's words, he was more afraid of losing the girlfriend than his son) Out of the blue, you decide..hey, I think I DO want a son, after all I'm getting married and that'll look really good to everyone! I'll dive right in and disrupt everyone's lives, cause stress and financial ruin by filing a ridiculous pleading..hey hey..and while I'm at it, I'll allege Mom is a liar and negletful and dangerous..yeah yeah, that'll show HER! And oh, yeah, lets make sure we pretend Mom kept baby away from me, even though I never contacted her (we'll leave out the part where she contacted me, oh, better yet, we'll call that harrassment!). And to top it all of, I'll lie on the witness stand so my girlfriend won't find out that I've lied to her and my family for years about my relationship with the Mom, cause if I don't lie, the truth will come out and I'll be proven a scumbucket.
You know what? The truth has come out so far, the needs of my son are being put before the desire of a man who popped into his life on a whim. I would much rather have my son be ignorant of a man who is going be inconsistent and a potential emotional and mental danger to my son.
You can call me what you want, say anything you like, you haven't lived this experience with us. Fine, most judges will issue a Standard order, you said so yourself that unless the dad is some kind of risk, thats what will happen. It didn't happen. There is two times a week for four hours each. Thats it. The judge decided and thats that for now.

ahem!!! excuse me, nagol did not tell you these things. I said them you moron. I got to tell you, I still don't see how you can get dad in jail.

 

[jslopez711]

If Dad proves that he can be a true Dad and keep his word, do what is best for his son and be consistent for more than a month or two, and there is no adverse affect on my son, I welcome him to be more involved.
Given his track record though, I would be really surprised if he did..but I hope he does.

Yes, it will be up to the JUDGE to decide this, you don't need to welcome anyone.

 

[bliss_in_texas]

Yes, it will be up to the JUDGE to decide this, you don't need to welcome anyone.

You really should stop posting, especially on a legal advice or debate forum. You don't seem to be able to see anything but negativity.
The FACT is that the JUDGE see's that my ex is a liar and has a history of neglectful behavior with regard to my son.
Now go post on someone who wants to argue back with you, I'm tired of your inane comments.
See, it's people like you that don't consider the good of the child, you just want to go with what the law says. I'm lucky I have an intelligent judge who IS considering whats in the best interest of the child.

 

[stealth2]

Now go post on someone who wants to argue back with you, I'm tired of your inane comments.

Except you seem quite happy to argue w/j.

 

[jslopez711]

You really should stop posting, especially on a legal advice or debate forum. You don't seem to be able to see anything but negativity.
The FACT is that the JUDGE see's that my ex is a liar and has a history of neglectful behavior with regard to my son.
Now go post on someone who wants to argue back with you, I'm tired of your inane comments.
See, it's people like you that don't consider the good of the child, you just want to go with what the law says. I'm lucky I have an intelligent judge who IS considering whats in the best interest of the child.

Correction below....sorry

 

[jslopez711]

You really should stop posting, especially on a legal advice or debate forum. You don't seem to be able to see anything but negativity.
The FACT is that the JUDGE see's that my ex is a liar and has a history of neglectful behavior with regard to my son.
Now go post on someone who wants to argue back with you, I'm tired of your inane comments.
See, it's people like you that don't consider the good of the child, you just want to go with what the law says. I'm lucky I have an intelligent judge who IS considering whats in the best interest of the child.

I'm trying to HELP you sweetheart. I'm not negative I'm just telling you how it is. You sound like a teacher. wait, wait............ I see SOP in your future

 

[bliss_in_texas]

I'm trying to HELP you sweetheart. I'm not negative I'm just telling you how it is. You sound like a teacher. wait, wait............ I see SOP in your future

Telling the future isn't your forte...I don't see an Standard Order coming into this at all.
I'm done, thank you for your "advice". Bye

 

[bliss_in_texas]

Except you seem quite happy to argue w/j.

Not happy at all, I feel the same as when I'm having disagreements with my ex, He, like j, just doesnt get it.

 

[stealth2]

Not happy at all, I feel the same as when I'm having disagreements with my ex, He, like j, just doesnt get it.

Yet you still continue to respond to him. That is YOUR problem, especially if you also do so to your ex.

 

[jslopez711]

Not happy at all, I feel the same as when I'm having disagreements with my ex, He, like j, just doesnt get it.

Don't get it, you mean your controlling nature, no I get that. . NOTHING is going to replace the fact that your kid NEEDS his father, NOTHING, no matter what you think. And you keeping him away is only HURTING EVERYONE. Get that!!!!!!!!!!

 

[nagol818]

I Love This Forum

I love this forum!

I've been where the Bliss chick is and I've been on the "I'm going to get along with daddy for my child's sake even though I want to sew him in the sheets and pour boiling water on him" side of the fence too. It's tough being a caring parent!