Silverplum
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That didn't work out.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
I'll try to be brief.
I read it, looking for sordid-ness. Didn't find any, and can only assume you've wanted to use that word for a while.cpeter22 said:It's a long and sordid story.
I'm heading somewhere with the snips and bolding, but then you went and said this:cpeter22 said:He inflated his income falsely in a bid for residential custody and it backfired spectacularly- to the tune of $893/month.
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However, I try always to put myself in his shoes in terms of parenting decisions, and I keep him involved to what I feel is an appropriate extent.
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Firstly, how much should I involve him in medical decision making? On a basic human level, I think he should know how R is doing and so I keep him informed. I tell him of appointments and invite him to come when I feel it is appropriate.
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Your child has two parents. If Dad marries someone, should that new person be called "Mommy," especially since she will be in a "Motherly" role, cooking and making birthday cakes and such? You know the answer. You know what you are doing is wrong. You wouldn't appreciate being called "biomom," so why do you do it to Dad?cpeter22 said:Secondly, in the midst of all this, I met and married my husband, who is a wonderful father and shouldered supporting us with no questions asked. R, who is almost 20 months old, started to call him Daddy not long after after we were married and R and I moved into his home. This did not happen with prompting by me; however, after he started I did not nip it in the bud. My husband is who is in the "Daddy" role for R... he does not see his bio dad nearly as often, and since I found a full time job, my husband is who he wakes up to and who puts him to bed two nights a week. My ex is FURIOUS that R does this, because R does it right in front of him, often leaping out of his bio dad's arms to get to my husband. Again I think this is just a natural byproduct of the time spent, and also of their relationships. My husband is more nurturing and caring by nature than my ex, who does love his kids, but it is a tough love, and also at times very selfish. I always got the impression he sees them as things that belong to him, not as his children, you know? Anyway, am I doing the wrong thing allowing this to go on? Should I correct R?
Why are you asking internet strangers to tell you what is right?cpeter22 said:Lastly, I recently got full time employment. This means a pretty hefty salary, full benefits, the works. Our CS order still has me imputed minimum wage as a student, which I was at the time it was established. What duty do I have to tell him (my ex) of my new employment? Do I need to inform CSEA? I know my ex has an inkling since I involved him in picking daycare for R, as I felt that was fair, since I would want to know who my son was with. But he has no idea of my pay, etc. Additionally, I am just double checking, but my husband's income does not affect CS, right? Our salaries together add up to quite a hefty household income....
thanks for any and all input!
You go on and on about how compassionate and thoughtful you are, how you would want to know if you were in Dad's shoes, etc. etc.
Well, lady, you're currently receiving $893/month from Dad. Those calculations are now incorrect. What's the right thing to do? You know the right thing to do.