According to Section 61.09,
“If a person having the ability to contribute to the maintenance of his or her spouse and support of his or her minor child fails to do so, the spouse who is not receiving support may apply to the court for alimony and for support for the child without seeking dissolution of marriage, and the court shall enter an order as it deems just and proper” whether my husband has duty to support me? If yes:
if he pays my medical bills, doctor visits, cloths, and other necessities then will it come under fraudulent transfer
http://www.leg.state.fl.us/statutes/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&URL=0700-0799/0726/0726.html ? Where or what is the specific boundary between these two (section 61.09 and fraudulent transfer)? That is what made my husband, me and my children worried and concerned.
"Fraudulent transfer" occurs when assets are transferred with the purpose of being hidden.
Examples of fraudulent transfer:
1) "Giving" large sums of money to you or your children, as OG already mentioned. I do not think college tuition would be included, if they are still undergraduates.
2) Transferring the title of the house into your name exclusively.
3) Transferring the title on the car that he regularly drives to someone else.
What is HIGHLY UNLIKELY to be considered a fraudulent transfer:
1) Normal purchases of clothing. $40 garden clogs or $60 sneakers are not red flags. Louboutin or Prada shoes might be, if that's not your normal lifestyle.
2) Routine and medically necessary medical and dental expenses not covered by insurance. Annual check ups and dental cleanings are not red flags, nor are doctor referred follow up.
Either your husband is exceptionally dense or he's just using this lawsuit as an excuse.
He should ask his lawyer for clarification. If he does not have a lawyer, then he is a fool. Retaining a lawyer to defend you against a lawsuit is prudent when you are clueless about the law, and is not a fraudulent transfer of assets.
Aside: you seem like an intelligent person. You need to work with your husband to become more financially aware. You don't want to be one of those women that are helpless if something suddenly happens to their husbands. After 30 years of marriage, it is common and prudent to have joint accounts, and to know what household bills are due when, and set up some form of estate planning.