It's Finally Somewhat Over

[breezymom]

I'm not even going to recall the deal at Christmas. Gr8rn knows the deal with that. I actually saved him from violating the court order by not allowing him to change the visitation over the holiday.

OFW. Email address was NOT provided in writing, per the court order. He said he left it with the secretary at my lawyer's office, via the phone. I took the bloody thing, as it's not a hill to die on. I sent it to OFW customer support. They sent him the information. That was a month ago. I paid for the site TWO months ago for BOTH of us...$200.

Mom:

Wed, 1/02/13 @ 09:36 PM

Dad:

never


The current time is

Thu, 1/03/13 @ 09:49 PM

Your time zone is:

America/New_York

I'm not sure about the psych exam part of the order, but OFW was supposed to be finalized EIGHT DAYS after receipt of the order. It's now going for THREE MONTHS.

Really. Do I cease communication with him via other ways since we have supposed to have been using OFW all this time? Legally, what the heck do I do? I am going to get trapped off again. He's already tried it.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

I believe your X is related to my X in that court orders are for everyone but them. Personally, you send a snail mail and a certified to dad with a letter that specifies those specific portions of the last court order. Give dad 10 dad for compliance. You will get the certified back. THEN file for contempt.

In my X's case, he didn't want to sign paperwork. No problem. I had it with me in court and he had to do it right in front of the judge. They have the power to revoke parenting time until a parent complies.

 

[breezymom]

Good idea, Tink...thanks. And, in lieu of the first part of your post, I didn't say it, you did...would it be me saying something negative about him if I were to just say you're head on with that comment?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

And the term of the rambling and confusion done in court: obfuscate. That word describes my X to a tee.

My court order now includes that all court orders have to be sent certified since he seems to be the only person who NEVER gets any court orders from the court house.

 

[breezymom]

Dear Lord. Maybe we're talking about the same man!

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

If you have an email address for him, readnotify.com. I send everything with the certified option that HAS been used in court to prove that he is a liar. Said website has been worth the $36.00 a year I pay.

 

[breezymom]

And yes, it may seem that I'm grouchy tonight, because I am. Kiddo didn't have it, but somehow I'm the one who ended up with strep throat, so I'm miserable.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

I'm grateful for the small things: oh, that Christmas card that The Child received PROVES that dad got the change of my address.

as for the scratchy throat, tea with honey and whiskey will do wonders.

 

[breezymom]

Oh, trust me. When I got the email awhile back from OFW asking if I had another number for him, that the number given was incorrect, I went back in my phone history and got the date he last phoned me from it. And since then I've called HIM at the same number. The small things. It's not like the phone number isn't the same one in the court records, as well

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

If you have your phone records from the phone company and snap shots the calls and your phone contact, feel free to make a liar of him in court. The judge will NOT be amused.

 

[breezymom]

Oh yes, yes of course. I can either go right to the provider and get it or print off the bill from the provider's site. Besides that, as I said, it's the same one the court, itself, has on record. And you know it's usually a general provision that the court be notified about any changes of address/phone number...

 

[gr8rn]

That man needs a wake up call. If you have to take this back to court again, request that he pay the attorney fees for this one.

 

[breezymom]

Getting Old

Ok, so here's my proposal (Feedback, please):

Apparently he finally started his new job, so that being said, he will want to change visitation, again. This is my proposal on how I am going to go about this:

1. File for contempt, since we are supposed to be using OFW for stuff like this and THREE MONTHS LATER, he STILL has NOT signed up/logged in, despite NUMEROUS attempts from the OFW customer service to get in touch. I DO have emails to support this.

I can also support that I did not want to make a mountain out of a mole hill in that despite the fact that he also did not follow the court order on getting the email to my lawyer in writing, that he left it with the secretary, so I, myself, got it verbally from him.

2. Also file for a change in visitation, merely switching the schedule: flip-flopping the overnight to a Saturday/Sunday and the day visit during the week...

...actually...no...I'd really like for her to get in the habit of good attendance at school the next school year, so to avoid wasting the judge and court's time and money and maybe putting the full 35 hours every other weekend.


Thoughts? Fair? Just a reminder that I did, as ordered, pay the entire fee for BOTH of us on OFW and it's been wasted for three bloody months.

 

[breezymom]

Edit button wont work in this browser so where I mean school, I mean Pre-K, where no, attendance is not required, but she is actually putting up a fight some days, this year, because Daddy takes her out of school very early one day and brings her in very late the next, due to visitation.

I don't think that's a healthy habit.

 

[breezymom]

Yep...got the message today asking to change the schedule already.