Joint parenting time IL

[menbro]

... will be determined by the judge.

Hoping it doesnt get to that stage, we have a settlement conference coming up next week.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Hoping it doesnt get to that stage, we have a settlement conference coming up next week.

It *will* come that if you and Mom can't come to an agreement on your own.

Do you see yourself changing your mind? Do you see her as contemplating budging even an inch? If the answer to EITHER or these questions is "No", then things will not be settled.

 

[menbro]

It *will* come that if you and Mom can't come to an agreement on your own.

Do you see yourself changing your mind? Do you see her as contemplating budging even an inch? If the answer to EITHER or these questions is "No", then things will not be settled.

I will propose alternative parenting schedule to her, and if that doesnt even work for her, then a GAL will be involved, and she knows that.

 

[stealth2]

I'm sure Mom will have no problem with GAL involvement since you posted that she wanted a GAL...

 

[menbro]

I'm sure Mom will have no problem with GAL involvement since you posted that she wanted a GAL...

I never mentioned mom wanted a GAL involment, I said my attorney suggested it and both of us (mom and me) are opposed to it.

 

[stealth2]

I never mentioned mom wanted a GAL involment, I said my attorney suggested it and both of us (mom and me) are opposed to it.

She suggested GAL in the beginning, to which I opposed.

Wrong, per your first post.

 

[menbro]

Wrong, per your first post.

Ok, I meant to say, "My attorney" mentioned GAL in the very beginning, so apologies for being unclear.

 

[Zigner]

You are represented. Speak to your attorney.

Really.

 

[Ohiogal]

You also stated:

Honestly, my attorney suggested that they can be a hit and miss, and if the judge hasnt ordered a GAL, not to involve one, if I can.

 

[Ohiogal]

Ok, I meant to say, "My attorney" mentioned GAL in the very beginning, so apologies for being unclear.

How does:

Honestly, my attorney suggested that they can be a hit and miss, and if the judge hasnt ordered a GAL, not to involve one, if I can.

equate with the above?


Makes you look like you are not credible. Your attorney recommended it but then said nope.

 

[stealth2]

Ok, I meant to say, "My attorney" mentioned GAL in the very beginning, so apologies for being unclear.

This is the problem we're trying to get you to consider - you must be clear. "Well, I *meant*..." isn't going to cut it in court. Like "I do all of the parenting while working FT from home." when, in reality, you have therapists there FT every day. I seriously doubt that they are interrupting you every few minutes for snack & potty breaks. You really need to be clear when you go to court - and that includes your journal...

 

[menbro]

How does:


equate with the above?


Makes you look like you are not credible. Your attorney recommended it but then said nope.

Thats why we are having a settlement conference first, and if that doesn't work out, then a GAL will have to be involved.
We can try mediation before involving a GAL, but all depends on how the settlement conference goes.

 

[Ohiogal]

Thats why we are having a settlement conference first, and if that doesn't work out, then a GAL will have to be involved.
We can try mediation before involving a GAL, but all depends on how the settlement conference goes.

That avoids the point actually. You are having a settlement conference because you appear not credible? If that is not the reason, then you need to really understand what has been said.

 

[menbro]

That avoids the point actually. You are having a settlement conference because you appear not credible? If that is not the reason, then you need to really understand what has been said.

We have a settlement conference so we can hash out a parenting plan, without going to a trial/GAL, if we can.

Does it make my ex appear "not credible", if she also has said no to a GAL and yes to a settlement conference?

And yes, I am trying to understand what has been said and its been so helpful already.

 

[Zigner]

What does your attorney have to say about this?