my 17 yr old daughter received a DUI bac.10 No license?

[rmet4nzkx]

She wasn't taken to jail. The CHP Officer called me and told me that I could pick her up. I'm sure she has lied to me before she is 17!

You have no idea how many times she has lied to you, do you? SO what are your plans to deal with this problem?

 

[THE PRACTICE-22]

IAAL wasn't being funny and it could easily cost $15,000.
The Automobile Club of Southern California (AAA) has an article entitled "You Drink You Lose" http://www.aaa-calif.com/members/corpinfo/you_lose.asp on the costs related to a conviction for driving under the influence (DUI) which can easily exceed $10,000.00 in the first year. Include everything else such as the increased insurance costs, interlock devices, counseling**************

My response:

No, no, no. Sherry55 knows better than us! She's better off being an emotional mother, than listening to the truth. She thinks I'm just being "funny."

Just wait until she gets the bills for court costs, the jail, the interlock device, the juvenile proceedings, her attorney's fees, etc., etc., etc. No, she just thinks I'm being funny.

IAAL

 

[Sherry55]

She graduates June 2. I told her I would let her off of restrition then. I probably shouldn't I should lock her in her room and throw away the key. She is my youngest chid and only girl so I have spoiled her. My oldest son lost his licence for 3 years because of DUI's. He now has to have a breahalizer on his vehicle. He has had 2 DUI'S and 1 wet and reckless. He was in an accident the last time luckily no one was hurt. He lost his job his car and his dignity. I do beleive that it is a blessing that she got caught but I don't think she really understands how serious this is.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

As an FYI, most counties in CA don't have the room in Juvenile Hall for misdemeanants so they encourage the police to release to parents, or, they will do it themselves. Plus, they do not want to adopt the responsibility for the medical issues that might arise from being drunk so very often they won't accept the booking until after a medical clearance, and the police department doesn't want to PAY for the medical bill, so they release to a parent.

Ideally, a stay in JH for a weekend would be a great thing. But even in the biggest counties in the state there are too few beds available and most criminal kids get to go home. And with the state closing juvenile facilities and programs to save money, the options are getting fewer. There are ideas being floated that would close most or all CYA facilities as well.

- Carl

They would save more money in the long run holding them overnight and letting them know it is serious. I raised boys, need I say more?

 

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She graduates June 2. I told her I would let her off of restrition then. I probably shouldn't I should lock her in her room and throw away the key. She is my youngest chid and only girl so I have spoiled her. My oldest son lost his licence for 3 years because of DUI's. He now has to have a breahalizer on his vehicle. He has had 2 DUI'S and 1 wet and reckless. He was in an accident the last time luckily no one was hurt. He lost his job his car and his dignity. I do beleive that it is a blessing that she got caught but I don't think she really understands how serious this is.

My response:

The more you talk, the worse you look. Keep your mouth closed. So far, you appear to be a worthless mother - - - one who MISERABLY FAILED in teaching her children right from wrong. Is there a trailer in your story?

Good job, Sherry.

IAAL

 

[Sherry55]

I realize that this will cost a lot of money! And yes I guess you could say I'm an emotional mother. This is very hard to swallow. Like I said I know what my son went threw. He also had to do jail time. 45 days

 

[Sherry55]

IAAL I really don't need this from you. You really have no idea. No matter how good a parent you are your kids are going to get in trouble and do things they shouldn.t I don't even drink. I live in a very nice neighborhood and go to church. YOU ARE A JERK!

 

[CdwJava]

They would save more money in the long run holding them overnight and letting them know it is serious. I raised boys, need I say more?

Unfortunately, the way the juvenile system is set up, the penalties are unevenly applied and easily sidetracked by soft probation officers/social workers. Plus, the cost to expand and staff juvenile facilities is astronomical - so much so that there are no counties in CA that I know of that have ample bed space for their little darlings. And with the state charging an arm and a leg to send even felons to CYA, most counties opt only to send the most serious and violent offenders (because the state will absorb between 75% and 100% of the cost for those ... others are subsidized for significantly lesser amounts - or none at all - depending on the offense).

Oh, and I am raising three boys right now. And they would probably prefer to lie about their ID then risk MY coming for them in JH.

- Carl

 

[justalayman]

IAAL I really don't need this from you. You really have no idea. No matter how good a parent you are your kids are going to ger in trouble and do things they shouldn.t I don't even drink. I live in a very nice neighborhood and go to church.

You need to understand, IAAL is a realist and a blunt one at that. Regardless of how callous he may seem, he is correct.

I live in a very nice neighborhood and go to church

there are plenty of Catholic priests that fit this same description, that didn't stop them from molesting kids. Affluence is not a preventative.

As far as not needing this, well you may not but your kids obviously do. Get them over here to read this. Maybe it will have an impact on them. If you think IAAL is mean, wait until you get in front of some old nasty judge that had his child killed by a drunk driver, then you will see mean.

 

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IAAL I really don't need this from you. You really have no idea. No matter how good a parent you are your kids are going to get in trouble and do things they shouldn.t I don't even drink. I live in a very nice neighborhood and go to church. YOU ARE A JERK!

Apparently, you do . . .

I realize that this will cost a lot of money! And yes I guess you could say I'm an emotional mother. This is very hard to swallow. Like I said I know what my son went threw. He also had to do jail time. 45 days

Like I said, find out "visiting hours" and lock your trailer before you go.

Thanks for raising "dangers" to our roadways. You must be so proud to have done a "bang-up" job raising these criminals.

IAAL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

She graduates June 2. I told her I would let her off of restrition then.

Rethink that, when does she turn 18?

I probably shouldn't I should lock her in her room and throw away the key.

Of course not, you don't need a key for her door if you remove it and put alarms on the windows and doors so you can catch her when she tries to sneak out. Also keep the car keys with you so she can't sneak out when you are asleep and drive your car.

She is my youngest chid and only girl so I have spoiled her.

It has nothing to do with being the youngest child or being spoiled although she may be, it is because she is a senior in high school and even the best and brightest, test their wings to see what they can get away with. They believe they are invincible, that they will never get caught, only the luckiest get caught, the unlucky ones continue until something happens to shatter your lives.

My oldest son lost his licence for 3 years because of DUI's. He now has to have a breahalizer on his vehicle. He has had 2 DUI'S and 1 wet and reckless. He was in an accident the last time luckily no one was hurt. He lost his job his car and his dignity. I do beleive that it is a blessing that she got caught but I don't think she really understands how serious this is.

Well if she hasn't learned from her brother's experience you really have to make an impression, I am serious about the door, 3 hots & a cot, watching your car keys, rent and keeping her on restriction for as long a itme as possible in addition to substance abuse treatment/education, programs and working to pay for every last dime this is going to cost you. Don't help her get a car or help her pay for insurance, when she is able to get a liscense, she will have to do all of that on her own. Make sure she gets a job to pay for all of this, which may affect her college education. If she has not learned from her brother's experience, then college will be a waste of time and working and learning to be responsible will teach her more than going to college on your dime.

 

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My response:

Sherry said, "She was released the same night in my custody." Translation - "I bailed her out because I'm a good, church-going, "enabler."

IAAL

 

[Sherry55]

I don't appreciate being called a failure and being criticized by someone who doesn't even know me. My oldest son is 29 years old and is doing fine now he learned his lesson. No one is perfect

 

[Sherry55]

Omg I Didn't Bail Her Out She Wasn't Taken To Jail. Ok....there was no bail

 

[Sherry55]

thank you to all the others for your good advice.