Nervous already PLEASE HELP!!!

[Punkyb830]

So which one would be the Lawyer so I know who to listen to and who to just conversate and hear opinions from.

 

[Ithildriel]

Oh no Now Ithidriel is gonna sing : Feelings nothing more than feelings**************

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[Silverplum]

WHOA WHOA WHOA FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINGS

 

[ceara19]

I never went to court to establish anything reguarding money. The state did it automatically, its how they do things here.

The state doesn't just automatically hand out support orders. If they did try to start CS proceedings, you had the option of declining if you weren't interested in the money. Of couse that is only true if you never received government assistance for the child. If that's the case, dad may have been paying more then you realized, because the STATE would get the CS, not you. Anyway, dad may already have the child's SS#. More then likely, it's printed right there in the child support order.

 

[Punkyb830]

The state doesn't just automatically hand out support orders. If they did try to start CS proceedings, you had the option of declining if you weren't interested in the money. Of couse that is only true if you never received government assistance for the child. If that's the case, dad may have been paying more then you realized, because the STATE would get the CS, not you. Anyway, dad may already have the child's SS#. More then likely, it's printed right there in the child support order.

I did receive Medicaid on my son so that may be why they went after him. But they mailed me a print out of everything he's ever paid, not so long ago when they sent notification they where going to court. He's paid about 15 times and all where garnished. I never said the money was'nt needed or would'nt be accepted I have just never fought over it or asked for it. And would rather him see his son.

 

[ceara19]

I did receive Medicaid on my son so that may be why they went after him. But they mailed me a print out of everything he's ever paid, not so long ago when they sent notification they where going to court. He's paid about 15 times and all where garnished. I never said the money was'nt needed or would'nt be accepted I have just never fought over it or asked for it. And would rather him see his son.

You can't MAKE dad have a relationship with the child. He is under no obligation other with the exception of finacial assistance. If his obligation to the state for reimbursment of the government assistance, you can have the child suppot lowered or one away with altogether. Another way to prove you're not only after his money would be to just give the money back to HIM,

 

[nicetryadmin]

Give me a break BB. The child is 12 years old and just met his dad....and the lack of contact the last 12 years was dad's choice.



He can absolutely make a case for visitation. However again, with this set of circumstances the interference issue is BS. What's more, since there are no orders in place, mom isn't obligated to provide visitation at all.

Turning over a child's SS number to a virtual stranger would be little less than stupid.

Ummm...I know for a FACT you are dead wrong here!!!! I know for a FACT because my ex was pulling this same BS. It's called ACCESS, LdiJ and LAWS allow access to the same information regarding the child for BOTH parents, barring a court order.

So it doesn't mean squat if it's been 12 years or 12 minutes, the parent is LEGALLY OBLIGATED to give the SS# to the other parent -- PERIOD!! For someone who acts like they know everything -- even when lawyers chime in -- you SHOULD AT LEAST know the legal access aspect.

 

[nicetryadmin]

Hi punky. As I have learned on this site within the last two days, you can get some legal advice here (tempered with a bit of judgement and sometimes the advice-givers own issues), but the advice-givers, whatever their qualifications may be, do not have to break it to you gently. If you want that, pay someone. They give you advice here, not comfort. Takes a bit of a tough skin sometimes.
Good luck to you, sorry to hear about your situation. i understand your feelings. I am sure I would feel the same.

you are just another moronic and bitter poster on here because you were looking for UNETHICAL and ILLEGAL ways to keep your children away from your STBX and when you didn't get it, you started to act like you're PMS-ing. When YOU go and fork out a few hundred dollars for the same legal advice we gave you, come back and tell us...nevermind because those who gave you legal advice were right.

 

[nicetryadmin]

How Many Times

and whoever gets custody can refuse to allow your husband contact with the boy, and there would be NOTHING your husband could do about it. is that clear enough for you now?

And how many times -- under how many aliases Kelly -- have you been here with every unimaginable scenario possible. You even have the daytime talk shows beat. Now, don't you have some distant-distant blood relative you can nail?

 

[nicetryadmin]

I'm curious. Are there even any lawyers here?

Yeah. So what's your point.

Interesting Screen name you have there. You're acting like a little kid.

 

[stealth2]

Cool it, nta.