please help! father will not cooperate with me in regards to custody of our daughter

[GLASSJAWGURL20]

my daughter is two years old. also, my fiance, KNOWS his place and he has told me he will be there for me in whatever happens. he respects that. he tells me he just wants to be the best stepdad he can be.

 

[djohnson]

It's all great that your fiance wants to be a great step dad. What we are trying to say that all those feelings you talk about doesn't matter in court. He has her half the time, why should he help you out? The facts are that you are 50/50 parents and one parent wants to move away and change that. Going into court you are already on the down side. You will have to show how it will benefit your child to move that far away from father or keep the 50/50 time. It doesn't matter that it benefits you or your fiance. How does moving benefit the child?

 

[nextwife]

Exactly. Sometimes one stays put because they have family obligations in a certain geographic area. That is what I told my then fiance - move here, I am not moving. Your fiance might want to consider making this less difficult and trying to find an acceptable position near you. Maximum money is NOT a replacement for a parent or other important family. My hubby could make a LOT more in certain cities (cities that we have no desire to reside in), but in the end, having family around is MORE important than driving a better car and living in a bigger house.

Your child is used to having Daddy around. He is there just as much as you. What if he said "I'm getting married to someone really far away and moving OUR child there?" You'd think "What a selfish b*****d. My child needs to see me regularly. His marriage is NOT more important than my daughter's emotional well-being" Kids should not have one parent ripped out of their daily lives like that to advance the job prospects of a steppparent..