Please help :'(

[mvazquez]

No I was never married to him

 

[Ohiogal]

No I was never married to him

So why have you been lying to your child? Do you even care what that can do to your child if and when she finds out you have lied about who her father is and what her name is? Granted you now want to find a way to cover it up but it may not be that easy.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

What is very possible is that on the birth certificate, what appears is mom's name and the child's name and what she didn't file was the AOP to add dad. She put the dad's last name as the child's last name in anticipation of an AOP being filed but it didn't because dad is in jail.

If there is no father, mom would need to file in the courts to have the child's last name to be changed.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is very possible is that on the birth certificate, what appears is mom's name and the child's name and what she didn't file was the AOP to add dad. She put the dad's last name as the child's last name in anticipation of an AOP being filed but it didn't because dad is in jail.

If there is no father, mom would need to file in the courts to have the child's last name to be changed.

She would also need to serve all putative fathers AND John Doe.

 

[mvazquez]

I keep trying to post a long paragraph and it wont show

 

[mvazquez]

Oh so then there is a birth certificate? I just thought that because I didn't send in the information so that they could send me the birth certificate that one was never created.

 

[Ohiogal]

Oh so then there is a birth certificate? I just thought that because I didn't send in the information so that they could send me the birth certificate that one was never created.

If you gave birth in a hospital THE HOSPITAL took care of it. That is how your child has a social security card.

 

[mvazquez]

Why does my daughter think she has a different last name? She has always heard her baby brothers full name and she herself started saying that that was her last name. I know I should of corrected her but I didn't and now it sucks.

 

[mvazquez]

Why did I give her that last name to begin with? I was really young and dumb and honestly thought that was what I had to do.

 

[mvazquez]

Biological dad has never been there for her and for a couple of months when he was out of jail he would bail on spending time with her or babysitting so that he could go do drugs with his girlfriend at the time and then went back to jail and has been in jail since.

 

[Ohiogal]

Why does my daughter think she has a different last name? She has always heard her baby brothers full name and she herself started saying that that was her last name. I know I should of corrected her but I didn't and now it sucks.

So you have lied to her all this time and now want to cover the lie .. are you hoping she continues to think her baby brother's dad is her dad? What happens if her father shows up? How will you deal with it then? Or are you just hoping he will never appear or never be served or never be necessary? Yes, it does suck that you have lied to your child. It sucks that you believe that lying is the way to deal with this. It sucks that you wish to continue to lie to your child.

 

[Ohiogal]

Biological dad has never been there for her and for a couple of months when he was out of jail he would bail on spending time with her or babysitting so that he could go do drugs with his girlfriend at the time and then went back to jail and has been in jail since.

Excuses. Excuses. Excuses. You chose him. You allowed him to impregnate you. You chose to give birth. You chose to lie.

 

[mvazquez]

Ok well on that birth certificate she has her fathers last name but he didn't sign anything and his name doesnt appear on anything. Can I change her last name?

 

[Ohiogal]

Ok well on that birth certificate she has her fathers last name but he didn't sign anything and his name doesnt appear on anything. Can I change her last name?

You don't comprehend the various times you have been told? GO TO COURT. SERVE the putative father and John Doe. He has a right to protest. See if the court will change her name. You can't change her name without the probate court ordering it. And that involves serving all relevant parties (including biological father and if paternity has not been established, John Doe). Which means he has a right to protest this and push for visitation or contact.

 

[mvazquez]

No excuses.. yes I chose to give birth, I wasn't going to abort her when I found out or put her up for adoption.. please tell me an easy way to explain to your 3 year old all of this.. I dont think there is any