My husband and I don't have any existing children.Sorry - was actually talking about your current child. This thread has gone on a long time...
I'm pregnant with twins.
The father is almost certainly the man I've been having an affair with, NOT my husband. There is a very very small chance that it could be my husband.
The man I had the affair with is married. He and his wife have a 3 year old daughter.
Neither man has anything in their background that would prevent them from being a primary caretaker for our children - no legal problems, drug abuse, history of being physically abusive, etc. They both have full time jobs and are able to support themselves.
I highly doubt the man who I had the affair with will want primary custody of the babies, unless his wife somehow pushes for that for some strange reason, just to keep me out of the picture as much as possible or something. She is a stay at home mom so unless my 2 children went to daycare, she'd be taking care of them all day long. I don't even want to think about that happening. There is always the chance that they will not remain together, but I still can't imagine him pushing to have the babies by himself for the majority of the time. He says he wants us to be together. He wants us both to leave our spouses and be together and raise the babies. Yet, now he's living back at home with his wife and honestly I'm just not even sure that is something I want anyway.