to answer bloopy, i'm not infalting the amount. it is the amount my mother is going to lose when she quits her job to watch the baby. the money is not needed to keep a roof over my familys head, my fathers salary does that just fine. lets face it, with todays economy, people no matter who they are can't afford to just quit their jobs without some sort of compensation. I am only living with my parents because I just graduated college in May. I have student loans out the wazoo on top of everything and i had a job lined up to start June 2nd but they wouldnt let me start 6 months pregnant so they graciously pushed the offer start date back to January 5th. Believe me i hate relying on other people for help as I have been working to have my own money since i was 15. I'm going to ask for assistance with it even if they dont give me it i'm at least going to try and get something, yes even if that does get wrapped into the overall CS amount. I can have paychecks ready, a note from her employer stating shes leaving, all documentation for it necessary and I am going to keep a very detailed record of everything bought for the baby and spent on the baby to account for where the money is going. so if my ex questions it i can just hand him a full document with reciepts but again i can't prove anything that hasn't occured yet.
and as far as other daycare, he hasnt found any. his solution is me give up the baby and send her down to NC for her to be put into military daycare while he goes to work 9 hours a day. As for social interaction, i have an entire group of friends whom all have children under the age of 2 that are friendly with me and my family and who are more then excited to have playdates so a childcare facility with strangers where she is more susceptoble to getting sick and will not get one on one total attention wouldnt be necessary. It will be over my dead body that she gets put into a expensive daycare facility just beacuse he dont like my mother. and i REALLY do not see how a judge would find her being placed into daycare facility instead of in her own home where she is perfectly safe, healthy, confortable, can be on her own schedule and thriving for past 4 months in the care of her family wouldn't be better then her being put under supervision of strangers. i think any judge who wouuld order that just cause my ex doesnt like my mother (which who actually likes their so to speak MIL's?) would have to be completely unreasonable and outta their mind.