Questions about visits

[mnmom]

What is the name of your state? MN
Hello my child is 4. She has only met her father once since she was a baby. We had a court order visitations then. I'm glad he wants to see her. She was excited to meet him. Now she is stuck on it and seemingly confused. I have concerns about the future as well. Does anyone have any ideas as far as helping her and should I document things or something in case something goes wrong agian? I have no ideas as far as what I can do as the single unwed mother.

 

[seniorjudge]

What is the name of your state? MN
Hello my child is 4. She has only met her father once since she was a baby. We had a court order visitations then. I'm glad he wants to see her. She was excited to meet him. Now she is stuck on it and seemingly confused. I have concerns about the future as well. Does anyone have any ideas as far as helping her and should I document things or something in case something goes wrong agian? I have no ideas as far as what I can do as the single unwed mother.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=325342

Q: Does anyone have any ideas as far as helping her and should I document things or something in case something goes wrong agian?

A: Yes. Start going to AA.

 

[mnmom]

Thanks but Im not an alcoholic I go out occasionally and thats not what Im writing about here. Rudeness doesn't get people far in life.

 

[seniorjudge]

Thanks but Im not an alcoholic I go out occasionally and thats not what Im writing about here. Rudeness doesn't get people far in life.

No rudeness from me.

Your prior post shows two law enforcement contacts because of your alcohol use. The latest one was when you blew .15 which is a couple of six packs of beer. Being an alcoholic means you have problems with alcohol. You have problems with alcohol. Get some help quick.

What is the name of your state? MN

I recently got my first DUI I blew a .15. I have no prior record except a juvinile open bottle and under 21 ten years ago. I had to pay 140 to get my car. I have to pay 680. reinstatement fee. I was wondering what To expect in court.

 

[seniorjudge]

Standard answer

Here are some hints on appearing in court:

Dress professionally in clean clothes.

Do not wear message shirts.

Don't chew gum, smoke, or eat. (Smokers...pot or tobacco...literally stink. Remember that before you head for court.)

Bathe and wash your hair.

Do not bring small children or your friends.

Go to court beforehand some day before you actually have to go to watch how things go.

Speak politely and deferentially. If you argue or dispute something, do it professionally and without emotion.

Ask the court clerk who you talk to about a diversion (meaning you want to plead to a different, lesser charge), if applicable in your situation. Ask about traffic school and that the ticket not go on your record, if applicable. Ask also about getting a hardship driving permit, if applicable. Ask about drug court, if applicable.

From marbol:

“Judge...

You forgot the one thing that I've seen that seems to frizz up most judges these days:

If you have a cell phone, make DAMN SURE that it doesn't make ANY noise in the courtroom. This means when you are talking to the judge AND when you are simply sitting in the court room.

If you have a ‘vibrate’ position on your cell phone, MAKE sure the judge DOESN'T EVEN HEAR IT VIBRATE!

Turn it off or put it in silent mode where it flashes a LED if it rings. AND DON'T even DREAM about answering it if it rings.”

(Better yet, don’t carry your cell phone into the courtroom.)”


Here are five stories that criminal court judges hear the most (and I suggest you do not use them or variations of them):

1. I’ve been saved! (This is not religion specific; folks from all kinds of religious backgrounds use this one.)

2. My girlfriend/mother/sister/daughter/wife/ex-wife/niece/grandma/grand-daughter is pregnant/sick/dying/dead/crippled/crazy and needs my help.

3. I’ve got a job/military posting in [name a place five hundred miles away].

4. This is the first time I ever did this. (This conflicts with number 5 below, but that hasn’t stopped some defendants from using both.)

5. You’ve got the wrong guy. (A variation of this one is the phantom defendant story: “It wasn’t me driving, it was a hitchhiker I picked up. He wrecked the car, drug me behind the wheel then took off.” Or, another variation: “I was forced into it by a bad guy!”)

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?p=854687#post854687

Public defender’s advice

http://newyork.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/70300494.html


Other people may give you other advice; stand by.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Thanks but Im not an alcoholic I go out occasionally and thats not what Im writing about here. Rudeness doesn't get people far in life.

Drinking and driving, blowing a .15 does?! You really should care more about the safety of my family if I am on the same road as you.

Grow Up already!

 

[nextwife]

No rudeness from me.

Your prior post shows two law enforcement contacts because of your alcohol use. The latest one was when you blew .15 which is a couple of six packs of beer. .

OMG! I 'm pushing things if I have two beers (and that's not even driving) in the same evening.

 

[nextwife]

No rudeness from me.

Your prior post shows two law enforcement contacts because of your alcohol use. The latest one was when you blew .15 which is a couple of six packs of beer. .

OMG! I 'm pushing things if I have two beers (and that's not even driving) in the same evening.

 

[tigger22472]

OMG! I 'm pushing things if I have two beers (and that's not even driving) in the same evening.

I take a cab home ANYTIME alcohol touches my tongue, lips etc.. (unless of course I'm staying). Before hubby's accident, unless we were staying, one of us always stayed sober. I've been known to take a cab 6 blocks and leave my car at the bar.

 

[seniorjudge]

Dang.

All kinds of rude people on this thread.

 

[LdiJ]

I was part of an experiment when I was in my 20's...a radio station sponsored it. I had a full meal and 4 beers and blew a .133

It might be a couple of six packs to a large male....but it might only be 3 or 4 beers to a relatively small female.

That doesn't excuse driving under the influence...I just thought that I would point that out.

 

[AHA]

I have concerns about the future as well.

I do too, when it comes to your child. Maybe it's a blessing that dad is stepping in to spend more time with the poor child, so you can straighten out your life and problems without the kid having to watch.

 

[angiesmom]

Legal Advice?

Ok, so now that you've all managed to voice your opinions regarding op's OTHER post, do any of you actally have any LEGAL advice for her???

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Ok, so now that you've all managed to voice your opinions regarding op's OTHER post, do any of you actally have any LEGAL advice for her???

Now that you have voiced your opinion in regards to the responses on this thread, do YOU have any LEGAL advice for the poster?

 

[AHA]

Ok, so now that you've all managed to voice your opinions regarding op's OTHER post, do any of you actally have any LEGAL advice for her???

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