Rights of a 16 year old

[CAGuy25]

CAGUY -- all of us are a bit incredulous about the remark that a 16 year old is FTM pre-surgical transsexual. NOT because we are insensitive but because that is a HUGE decision for anyone to make let alone a teenager who legally can't make any decisions. By stating pre-surgical that implies that surgery is definitely in the future and seems to imply that it may be scheduled or in the process. Which is a shocking thing.
You got your answer. Dad can get a restraining order and he can get in trouble in Ohio for contributing.As for sex tell the 26 year old that it puts him in the realm of a pedophile. This child is still a child with many issues that need dealt with. Throwing sex with an adult 10 years her senior on top of it it is NOT healthy nor a "loving" thing to do. If he loves her he needs to back off.

Thanks for the answer. I just wanted to be sure that that applied since there is no position of authority and it's just dating. I looked up the delinquency code and wasn't sure if that applied, since he's not causing the child to become delinquent in any way.

Thanks for your opinion. I wouldn't expect for you to understand the particulars of the situation. I know both of them and they are both great guys and give each other just what the other needs. But unfortunately this is one of the cases that gets painted with a broad brush and most folks don't feel the need to actually find out what the situation is, just that it's what they label as "bad".

 

[fairisfair]

You're pretty​

Please stop using other people's sayings, it is getting very tired! besides which, your use is totally inappropriate.

 

[stealth2]

The child's parents are well within their rights to bar your adult friend from contact. And frankly, they should. This kid has enough issues to deal with w/o a "boyfriend" in the mix.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

It's just dating? His parents can get a RO against him in a heartbeat.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Same thoughts Stealth, I didn't see your response .

 

[ezmarelda]

Please stop using other people's sayings, it is getting very tired! besides which, your use is totally inappropriate.

If Ithi is bothered I am sure she will let me know ...I havr no personal issues with you...if you have issues with me please PM me.

 

[fairisfair]

If Ithi is bothered I am sure she will let me know ...I havr no personal issues with you...if you have issues with me please PM me.

by all means then, keep it up.

 

[Silverplum]

I looked up the delinquency code and wasn't sure if that applied, since he's not causing the child to become delinquent in any way.

In my book, he is. The older guy is doing what older boyfriends often do: encourage the younger, still-at-home love-object to defy his/her parents. For sex. Not smart, not cool. If it was my kid still at home, the old boyfriend would be gone. Gone, gone, gone.

Thanks for your opinion. I wouldn't expect for you to understand the particulars of the situation.

I couldn't understand, because I'm not into loathesome things.

I know both of them and they are both great guys and give each other just what the other needs. But unfortunately this is one of the cases that gets painted with a broad brush and most folks don't feel the need to actually find out what the situation is, just that it's what they label as "bad".

And what do they need? Hmmm? I'll tell you what it is: Acceptance. They accept each other, because they're both freaky.

 

[stealth2]

If Ithi is bothered I am sure she will let me know ...I havr no personal issues with you...if you have issues with me please PM me.

Nah - it's just stupid. Like most jokes that were funny the first time or two. Not so much the 100th time.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

In my book, he is. The older guy is doing what older boyfriends often do: encourage the younger, still-at-home love-object to defy his/her parents. For sex. Not smart, not cool. If it was my kid still at home, the old boyfriend would be gone. Gone, gone, gone.



I couldn't understand, because I'm not into loathesome things.



And what do they need? Hmmm? I'll tell you what it is: Acceptance. They accept each other, because they're both freaky.

My poor screen.

 

[Ohiogal]

Thanks for the answer. I just wanted to be sure that that applied since there is no position of authority and it's just dating. I looked up the delinquency code and wasn't sure if that applied, since he's not causing the child to become delinquent in any way.

Thanks for your opinion. I wouldn't expect for you to understand the particulars of the situation. I know both of them and they are both great guys and give each other just what the other needs. But unfortunately this is one of the cases that gets painted with a broad brush and most folks don't feel the need to actually find out what the situation is, just that it's what they label as "bad".

Actually he is causing the child to become delinquent when dad doesn't want said child hanging out with the 26 year old whatever the reason. If he is encouraging a relationship which he knows the dad does not approve of he is contributing to the delinquency. The label is bad though. And not because of the transsexualism issue (though in Ohio that is not exactly an acceptable lifestyle by the majority) but because you are talking about a 26 year old and a 16 year old! A ten year age difference between a child and an adult. That is the major problem here and why it is "bad". He needs to leave her (him?) alone until the child reaches the age of majority (age 18).

 

[CAGuy25]

Actually he is causing the child to become delinquent when dad doesn't want said child hanging out with the 26 year old whatever the reason. If he is encouraging a relationship which he knows the dad does not approve of he is contributing to the delinquency. The label is bad though. And not because of the transsexualism issue (though in Ohio that is not exactly an acceptable lifestyle by the majority) but because you are talking about a 26 year old and a 16 year old! A ten year age difference between a child and an adult. That is the major problem here and why it is "bad". He needs to leave her (him?) alone until the child reaches the age of majority (age 18).

Thanks for that information, wasn't too sure but that makes sense. Although, it is interesting that you mention the age of majority as opposed to the age of consent. Why is there a difference, and such a drastic change between the 2? It seems as though the age of consent says that the 16 year old can have sex at 16 with anyone (not relatives, obviously), but can't have a relationship with anyone until they're 18. It seems as though the law is saying that sex is ok, because it's a one time thing, but if you're in a relationship, that's what'll mess ya up.

 

[CAGuy25]

And what do they need? Hmmm? I'll tell you what it is: Acceptance. They accept each other, because they're both freaky.

<sarcasm>Nothing like "legal" advice peppered with personal opinion and maturity. </sarcasm>

 

[Silverplum]

<sarcasm>Nothing like "legal" advice peppered with personal opinion and maturity. </sarcasm>

Hon, just because I'm not on your Yay-Gay Boat, doesn't make me immature. The fact that I disapprove of grownups stalking and defiling children doesn't make me immature. The fact that I support the parent over the child does not make me immature.

In fact, the very point you are making is that you are immature: you think that I have to agree with you in order to validate your feelings. We all have to agree with you, otherwise you'd be wrong. And you can't stand that idea, can you? Get used to it.

Maybe your 16-yo can give you what you need, eh?

 

[CAGuy25]

Hon, just because I'm not on your Yay-Gay Boat, doesn't make me immature. The fact that I disapprove of grownups stalking and defiling children doesn't make me immature. The fact that I support the parent over the child does not make me immature.

In fact, the very point you are making is that you are immature: you think that I have to agree with you in order to validate your feelings. We all have to agree with you, otherwise you'd be wrong. And you can't stand that idea, can you? Get used to it.

Maybe your 16-yo can give you what you need, eh?

Wrong, but nice try to justify your argument...not really.

"because they're both freaky" That's immature.

I'm fine with whatever is said on here, my friends are going to have their relationship regardless, I was just checking for them. I only want them to be happy, but if the law doesn't allow it, then so be it.