Step-parent adoption

[Shay-Pari'e]

FairisFair,

No need to ask my forgiveness.I am far from perfect and it is not my place to judge you. I was just giving you some insightful guidance as I felt in your eagerness to stand up for Nita you may have been sidetracked by the unnecessary insults being flung around. Anyone can fling "stones" (insults) on others but better make sure they that before they cast those stones, they themselves are not living in glass houses.

As I said, I am far from perfect, but I do my best to live a Godly life and I don't stand for others being presumptious without knowing all the facts of someones situation. There is a child in this situation that is innocent regardless of the actions of any adult in this child's life. I think it was wrong to place judgement and blame on someone when all she was doing was seeking advice on how to proceed with adoption, something that will more th an likely improve the life of this child and give her stability. I pray that anyone who made verbal attacks on Nita gets a clear conscience and can peacefully sleep knowing that their hurtful words may have possibly impacted negatively on the life of an innocent child. Our WORDS impacted the life of this child? Get real. the poster impacted the life of her child.If anyone on here is a representative of the legal field, and is flinging insults on people they don't truly know anything about, it would stand to reason as to why our legal system is the shape it is in.

I am thankful and appreciative FairisFair, that you felt the need to ask my forgiveness. It shows you are of good character. May God bless you today.

May God make you stop blessing and praying on this forum. I certainly don't want to listen to a bible thumper.

 

[ceara19]

May God make you stop blessing and praying on this forum. I certainly don't want to a bible thumper.

God has no place in a court room. That was decided long ago by the people that founded this country. You start letting god in, you've also got to open the door for allah, buddah, mohammad, ra the sun god and any other entity that a person choses to worship.

 

[StickyFingers]

God has no place in a court room. That was decided long ago by the people that founded this country. You start letting god in, you've also got to open the door for allah, buddah, mohammad, ra the sun god and any other entity that a person choses to worship.

I beg to disagree.

Religion is and has been addressed in Family Court before.....Many times. And it does have an impact. Take for instance the church preference of families.

Native American Indians do have certain provisions allowing American courts to release the same to find their demise according to their particular beliefs.

Granted, preference to a certain religion is forbidden for a Judge...but neglect of that religion is equally forbidden.

As 'bible thumpers' could not expect a decision to go their way because of bias.....Neither should an agnostic or pagan point of view prevail.

However, thanks to the Constitution.....We all have the right to present our side in a court of law......religious or not.

As far as religion on this site....There is no place for it! IMO

God bless the separation of church and state.....but that doesn't mean that religion can not be made a factor in a states decision.

 

[eme76]

God has no place in a court room. That was decided long ago by the people that founded this country. You start letting god in, you've also got to open the door for allah, buddah, mohammad, ra the sun god and any other entity that a person choses to worship.

well...there was that one time with that one lady...i think her name was Mary...she had this crazy story...he could have cleared that one up real quick


(i don't think the is really needed on this but just in case...this is sarcasim people)

also to op i hope everything works out for you...and i think it was awful that some people jumped to the conclusions they did about you

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Is it really any of your business what I will tell my child? My daughter is 10 and she has known my husband since she was 3 so he is, in her eyes, her father. And no it is not true that I messed around with alot of people.

You messed around with enough men that you don't know who the father is, since your ex husband has tpr and dna proves him not the father you may still have to look for the bio dad, have your contacted Maury? Your current husband would be lacking in intelligence to adopt becuae if and or when you split, he will be held responsible for child suport and unable to TPR. YOu oculdn't ocntrol your ex from disengaging himslef from the obligation, don't add insult to injury. Contact the possible fathers and get them DNA tested.

 

[ceara19]

Excuse me! You must have me confused with someone that gives a **** about your negative comments. Unlike some people, words don't hurt me. You have the right to think and say what you want but at the end of the day does putting other people down make you feel better? If so then what does that say about you?

You know, I understand that you feel the details surrounding the child's birth are no one else's business and you feel no need to have to explain yourself and your actions, BUT, if you take things this poorly when the questions and comments are coming from complete STRANGERS, who have no way of knowing who you actually are, how are you going to handle it when the judge starts questioning you in court? Judges are not usually known for their compassion and understanding. In comparison, some of the comments here, can be considered very tame and compassionate to what will happen in the courtroom.

 

[nita06]

I'm not a lawyer, or even know the law very well. I just like getting on this site because most of you are hillarious, and sometimes I learn something. But I do have a question about this situation. Is the first husband on the birth certificate as the father? Can/will this change the birth certificate.? And when they file for adoption, isn't the court going to want to know who the biological father is to try and contact him?

Kepp up the good work. At least a laugh a day.

Yes the ex is on the birth certificate as the father. And eventhough he was found not to be the bio, under Louisiana law, he is still considered to be the "father".

 

[nita06]

Well, keep telling OP what she wants to hear.
When she ends up in lots and lots of trouble for paternity fraud, maybe you can give her a big fat, hug, while we'll be saying, "I told you so".

Nita screwed her child's life up by not keeping track of her bed buddies or by lying about knowing the father. So, thanks to her, her child will never know their true father. Nita being honest or tracking down the father is what will make this poor child's life better.

Nita's situation is in no way like yours.
She made poor decisions and is going to continue to make them by her choices of action here.

Why do you feel no sympathy for the father who has no idea he has this precious child?

Why insist on saying that I screwed up my child's life. I have done no such thing but make her life better. Like I said in an earlier reply she has a father and she is very happy.

 

[nita06]

You messed around with enough men that you don't know who the father is, since your ex husband has tpr and dna proves him not the father you may still have to look for the bio dad, have your contacted Maury? Your current husband would be lacking in intelligence to adopt becuae if and or when you split, he will be held responsible for child suport and unable to TPR. YOu oculdn't ocntrol your ex from disengaging himslef from the obligation, don't add insult to injury. Contact the possible fathers and get them DNA tested.

First of all you need to learn how to type. Secondly my now husband has been trying to adopt my daughter since she was 4. O yeah......and at that time we were not even married or engaged.

 

[nita06]

You know, I understand that you feel the details surrounding the child's birth are no one else's business and you feel no need to have to explain yourself and your actions, BUT, if you take things this poorly when the questions and comments are coming from complete STRANGERS, who have no way of knowing who you actually are, how are you going to handle it when the judge starts questioning you in court? Judges are not usually known for their compassion and understanding. In comparison, some of the comments here, can be considered very tame and compassionate to what will happen in the courtroom.

I don't think I am taking things poorly at all. If I have to go to court I will handle myself very well. I've been divorced and had to go to court so I know that the Judges aren't compassionate nor understanding. When that time comes I will handle it then. And thanks for understanding.

 

[nita06]

and huge KUDOS to you for slamming these oh so righteous posters right back in their chairs. Good luck to you both, and to Nita! And don't worry, they will leave you alone, that would look less than holier than thou!

Thanks! I'm not worried. I'm just waiting for some good advice.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

I don't think I am taking things poorly at all. If I have to go to court I will handle myself very well. I've been divorced and had to go to court so I know that the Judges aren't copassionate nor understanding. When that time comes I will handle it then. And thanks for understanding.

You are telling someone they need to learn to type?

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Thanks! I'm not worried. I'm just waiting for some good advice.

OK. What do you WANT to hear?

 

[nita06]

OK. What do you WANT to hear?

Nothing from you. Thanks!

 

[ajritter04]

Step-Parent Adoption

I'm in New Mexico and I know who the father of my son is. My question is my sons bio-logical father has had nothing to do with me or my son since I was about 3 months pregnant. Since I was about 6 months along in my pregnancy I met my now husband and 7 months after my son was born we got married. My husband now wants to adopt my son. Do I need a lawyer? Again my sons bio logical father hasn't done anything at all for his son we both agreed that he would pay only $25 a wk for his son and he hasn't done that he's only seen his son 2x's and my ex also is dating a woman who has threatned to take my son from me. What can I do?