Taking the kids while Dad is away

[Zephyr]

OR...have him give it to another child, who doesn't have any toys or food or a roof, that will not verbally abuse the game.

yep....good one!!!

 

[BTB225]

so you could lock the game up- and he wouldn't have it to swear at then.....

it's the whole game system, doesn't matter which game it is...then I punish everyone for the actions of one.
I have thought of that, then I have to listen to everyone gripe.

Oh, I just don't know. The other thing I consider is if I do go through with this, what are the long term repercussions with the kids? I mean, will they resent me for this? Should I even care? But I do, because that is just how I am.

 

[BTB225]

yep....good one!!!

I'd love to get rid of the whole game cube system all together.
It drives me just crazy.

 

[Zephyr]

it's the whole game system, doesn't matter which game it is...then I punish everyone for the actions of one.
I have thought of that, then I have to listen to everyone gripe.

Oh, I just don't know. The other thing I consider is if I do go through with this, what are the long term repercussions with the kids? I mean, will they resent me for this? Should I even care? But I do, because that is just how I am.

well why don't you just tell him HE"S not allowed to play....

 

[BTB225]

well why don't you just tell him HE"S not allowed to play....

I could do that. well, maybe he has to work this weekend anyway and then I don't have to deal with it at all

 

[MrsK]

It's a long one. But to cut it down to bare bones, the ssibs (#3, B11 and #4, G8) are much favored over our two (#1, B14 and #2, about to G12) by all accounts. As an example...All 4 kids are expected to clean their rooms before coming to breakfast in the morning on weekends. All #4 has to do is cry MOMMY! DADDY #2 messed up my side of the room! and #2 is told to go clean it up before she has breakfast. No explanations, nothing. And while #2 can be a handful - it's not her style. #1 accidentally grabbed a PS2 game that was #3's one w/e and brought it home. When he realized it, he called his Dad and said we'd mail it back. He first got a tongue-lashing for stealing from his sbro and was then punished the next time they were there. Want me to go on?

No, no. You are right, that is very unfortunate. Sad for your children.

 

[MrsK]

And you were told in the first replies that you are under no obligation to take the kids.

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Yeah, I know. And for that advice I am appreciative. It helps me a lot.

I just wonder if I resuse to allow entry into my home now, what she can do when my husband returns back home. Can she refuse him visitation or take him back to court again

She can not refuse the visitation and I do not think she could take him to court. By the time she did, he would probably be back. Furthermore I bet a judge would not be happy with her for trying to get dad's time taken away since he was trying to work.