Teen Marriage

[coosi]

love4three (I should call myself luv44 LOL)

dId CaMbriDGe UNIveRsiTY dO a rEsEaRCh sTuDy oN cApS Too??

 

[love4three]

ROFLMAO apparently they did coosi, they sure did add a lot of them didn't they?

 

[llxpreciousxll]

Thank you love4three for not being so rude, as some others have. And yes I do realize once I begin, there is no going back.. But I'd rather screw up my life now and still be able to turn it around. Than give up a child of my own flesh and blood, and not be able to change things once I screw up in my later ages. I don't want my child growing up not knowing me, and I him/her.. But thank you for the encouraging word. I'm glad to hear you're making it. Atleast I know now if anything of sorts should happen to me (God forbid), I'll still have a chance.

~1love~

 

[love4three]

llxpreciousxll
I am not sure that you caught all the implications of what I was saying. As much as I love my children there isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish I had waited. My children are very good kids and because of that I hate myself because I can't give them the things they deserve or need. When they ask me for something and I can't give it to them they accept the "no" that I give them but I can't miss the hurt in their eyes. It is very hard to explaine to little kids why they can't go out for sports because you are the only one that would be able to take them to games and I would work 12 or 13 days in a row, sometimes night shift sometimes day shift just to put a roof over their heads and food in their mouths. As much as it hurts some times loving something means letting it go so that it can thrive and be the best that it can be.

 

[monnickasmommy]

love4three

I went into early labor and had a 1 pound 11 ounce baby in the sixth month of pregnancy. I had to watch for four months while my baby had 3 surgerys almost died twice---


How was your time in NICU


My daughter was also in NICU she wighed 6 lbs droped to 5 lbs overnight - I had her a month early
I also got to watch "Little Jake" a boy in the NICU die 2x and come back during eye dialation- it is sad to go into a NICU hospital - Little babies that have very small chance of living -

All you young mom's out there MAKE SURE YOU GET YOUR PRENATAL CARE FOR YOU AND THE BABY

I did, I was in the hosptial for 3 days sick- got out 5 months later back in there with a UTI -(watch out for those) I went into labor and not even Magnesium can stop it !!Breathin would not stop it !Out come our daughter BREACH , black and blue from bruised.

SO please listin to what your doctor says to you-

 

[love4three]

needless to say monnickasmommy my time in there was not pritty, while there I wittnessed quite a few infant deaths one child was one if triplets the mom and dad still had to come into the nicu to see their other children. A lot of tears were wept in that room. My daughter now an 11 year old still has a few problems that have to be monitored every day. They had to take out part of her intestinal tract and I have to watch her because her system cannot handle sugar, fruit, fruit juices or milk. My other two were premies also but not nearly as bad. Since I work in an O.B. Unit I have learned quite a few things. Most inportant is that you can shop around for a doc to handle your delivery. Ask potential docs what their ratio of vag vs. c section births is some docs don't like to spend to much time letting nature take its course. What is their record of live births vs. pregnancys they have handled? What is their policy of meds for pain? How long can you stay in the hospital after the birth? (stay as long as possiable). No question is a stupid question as long as you pay attention to the answer. As long as you show an interest and an effort the nurses will help all they can.

 

[PopPrincess2B]

First of all, I have to say that I am very impressed with bamababy's determination to keep her baby and to everyone else - this youg lady came to u asking about marriage, she said nothing about whether or not she was capable of raising a her own child or about the possibilities of her boyfriend being accused of statutory rape. I am 18 yrs. old and had a baby at 17, my parents wanted me to get an abortion, but I didn't believe in that so I was forced to move out of my home. I lived with my boyfriend and he took care of me, bought me food, clothing, and paid for doctor visits. None of my family was there for me in the time I needed them the most. I felt like I had no home and that no one cared about me but my boyfriend. Throughout my pregnancy and even the birth of my son, none of my family was there. I didn't want to get pregnant at the age I did and I didn't want to be a teen mother, but it was my mistake and instead of running away from ur mistakes - u should have to deal with them and pay the price. I got married and I'm not going to lie, it is hard, I cry often, and I hate myself for being so irresponsible and screwin' up my life the way that I did. But just because u are young and have so much of ur life to live is no excuse to give ur child - ur own flesh and blood - to someone else, especially considering this girl wants to keep the baby. You people have NO place to say what this girl should and shouldn't do when all she asked was about marriage. You should all be ashamed of urselves, you talk about God, well I don't think putting down and degrading a young woman is something the Bible teaches u. To the 15 yr. old, do what ur heart tells u and pay no attention to these simple-minded people. God put that child on this earth for a reason and what better way to live ur life than to live it with ur REAL mother who loves and cares about u. To everyone else, say what u will to me for it doesn't bother me a bit because I can already tell that u all just want to pick a fight. Plus u're no one to me anyways and I could care less what u have to say.

 

[cbg]

This thread is eight months old; why are you resurrecting it now?

 

[highschooler]

im sick of it!!!!!!

VA. im tired and sick of all these young girls out here that are getting pregnant. I don't get it what the hell is there deal. Sure they might be great girls but don't they have dreams and passions that they want to go after besides sex! Thats all i here in the locker rooms now "so and so had sex with johnny" or " i gave so and so head then we had sex" sex sex sex sex is that all we can think about girls i mean i though you were better then that smatter than that i guess i was wrong. All the people i didn't expect to get pregnant did get pregnant because they believed it would make the guy want them more or just whatever... Im done.

 

[JETX]

VA. im tired and sick of all these young girls out here that are getting pregnant.

I bet you're not as mad as us who have to read your inane, sophomoric non-relevant post on a thread that is almost 15 MONTHS old!! Especially considering that you put it right behind a post from 5 MONTHS ago that pointed this out "This thread is eight months old; why are you resurrecting it now?"

I wish that high-schoolers would learn to read.... and figure out what a calendar is.

 

[Anonymous57]

Since I replied to this message back in the beginning of the thread, I have learned quite a bit about the whole dreams, passion and sex issue with teenagers. I got married at 18 being very sexually active before getting married and I had dreams, passions and goals. Since seeing a program on discovery health channel about sex addictions, I realized I was one of those people.

The correlation to this thread is that I think many people don't even realize what they are doing sexually effects them so much emotionally and has a direct effect on their ability to meet their goals in life. Yes they may be told my adults but it is the it won't happen to me mentality. I will finally meet my goal of graduating from college next May but it has been a long hard eight years getting there, just for my Bachelors. I was unknowingly sexually abused at 12 years old. Which made my behavior as a teenager seem acceptable to me, even though I was from a very religious and conservative household where I was told that it is bad for people to act like that. Unfortunately many people don't even receive that.

If anyone sees this program Sex Mania, about sexual addictions, you realize what a chemical dependancy sex often is for people who have been sexually abused or not even shown enough attention, love or feel safe by their family members in childhood. It causes low levels of serotin and other hormones which have to be replaced and sex is a misguided attempt to replace those levels of hormones in order to feel loved and happy. Once those levels are up for awhile, the behavior is repeated and continued to keep the level up. They need more and more each time. It's exactly like a drug addiction. It's only until a person realizes their pattern of behavior and has clarity that a person can stop their behavior.

This is why it is so important that we truely love, show it and give proper time and attention to our children. We don't want them to be so messed up sexually and emotionally.

 

[highschooler]

well what can i say i just saw this site last night sorry if i upset anyone. Thanks JETX so much for the insight about calenders.. Just what i needed on top of all the other bs that is happening. Calenders who would've thought right. But hey you still replied to what i wrote why? i ask you. Maybe it wasn't so dumb of me to put post on here because people still actually read it. And you were one of them.

 

[JETX]

Maybe it wasn't so dumb of me to put post on here because people still actually read it.

So, what are you... about 12??

 

[highschooler]

oh do i look that young? why do you want to know?

 

[JETX]

oh do i look that young? why do you want to know?

Your original post said, "oh do i look that young? 16".
Answer: Nope, but you sound like about 12 or 13.