wileybunch
Senior Member
terp, it can't have been more than an hour or two between your "nice" email to when you said he hadn't responded. Be patient!
I agree with the patience. I emailed mom Saturday to see if she enrolled my daughter in cyber school (we've agreed to try that for a year) and I still haven't heard anything back. Since we agreed, it's not to much of a big deal except that the school starts a week later than regular public school and that week would change how long my daughter is with me during the summer months. It can be hard to be patient, but try to be.terp, it can't have been more than an hour or two between your "nice" email to when you said he hadn't responded. Be patient!
Nobody asked me, but this IS a public board...
I think it's flat-out NUTS that you don't think that a 6 year old can spend a few weeks away from Mommie.
I also think it's flat-out NUTS that, as Mommie states, the 6 y.o. is all hysterical after only a few days.
My H's sons spent weeks and months with him, away from their M, when they were younger than that.
It's a matter of teaching a child. If you REFUSE, the child won't LEARN. (
Why would cyber school change anything? The child can't do cyber school from your house just as easily as from the other parent's house?I agree with the patience. I emailed mom Saturday to see if she enrolled my daughter in cyber school (we've agreed to try that for a year) and I still haven't heard anything back. Since we agreed, it's not to much of a big deal except that the school starts a week later than regular public school and that week would change how long my daughter is with me during the summer months. It can be hard to be patient, but try to be.
Oh, I'd LOVE for my daughter to do cyber school at my house. I was actually trying to work an agreement with mom that I have my daughter more with doing the cyber school, but mom wouldn't go with it. The court order is that I have my daughter until the Sunday that would allow one full week before school starts. Then, her mom gets her. With cyber school, she starts September 2. With regular public school, she starts like the Thursday before Labor Day, which cyber school adds a week to my summer vacation.Why would cyber school change anything? The child can't do cyber school from your house just as easily as from the other parent's house?
Take it back to court...if your child is going to be attending cyberschool there is no reason why you can't have more time, whether mom agrees or not.Oh, I'd LOVE for my daughter to do cyber school at my house. I was actually trying to work an agreement with mom that I have my daughter more with doing the cyber school, but mom wouldn't go with it. The court order is that I have my daughter until the Sunday that would allow one full week before school starts. Then, her mom gets her. With cyber school, she starts September 2. With regular public school, she starts like the Thursday before Labor Day, which cyber school adds a week to my summer vacation.
But, she can do cyber school just as easily at my house and I'd love for her to be doing it here.
I do plan on going back to court IF the cyber school thing works out. My daughter was having a really difficult time at the school she was going to, so we're going to try this. If it works, I'm definitely going to go back to court to try to get more time with her. We did change our schedule so I have her more at one time then one weekend a month. We're doing 8 days visitation per 3 months for the school year, then 2 weeks vacation, with winter break and every other spring break with holidays split. It equals about one full week every other month at least.Take it back to court...if your child is going to be attending cyberschool there is no reason why you can't have more time, whether mom agrees or not.
Go to court b/c he changed the return flight by one day when it was his call in the first place (as you allowed him to pick the dates)? I don't see how you can get anywhere with that. Why don't you call Dad to appeal personally to him and explain the situation with the dress fitting, etc. Maybe if you can maintain a business type of attitude without sounding legally threatening, Dad will realize the dilemma you have if child isn't home in time for the fitting.just received his response...."yeah, that's nice, but I don't think I will be changing his flight."
WTH????
OK...now what can I do? Weighing the options of money on different tickets or money on going to court...well, I am feeling rather witchy and because he doesn't live around here, I feel like going to court so it cost him a few more bucks**************or just not show so it will default and I will purchase son's ticket and just tell father to get him to the airport.
You know, it is soooo difficult to coparent with this!!!!
Realize that it's quite possible that if you go to court and do not prevail, you yourself will be out the time and $$ for court AND also the time and $$ to change your own travel plans.Weighing the options of money on different tickets or money on going to court...well, I am feeling rather witchy and because he doesn't live around here, I feel like going to court so it cost him a few more bucks**************or just not show so it will default and I will purchase son's ticket and just tell father to get him to the airport.
Thanks for that. I wanted to post the same thing, but figured I would be flamed as a newb. My ex moved to CA during our divorce proceedings and due to a failure to work out temp visitation I ended up having 9 wks straight w/ my four yr old during the summer. The next summer, not only did I have a full six weeks, he flew unaccompanied both ways (and has for every visit ever since).Nobody asked me, but this IS a public board...
I think it's flat-out NUTS that you don't think that a 6 year old can spend a few weeks away from Mommie.
I also think it's flat-out NUTS that, as Mommie states, the 6 y.o. is all hysterical after only a few days.
My H's sons spent weeks and months with him, away from their M, when they were younger than that.
It's a matter of teaching a child. If you REFUSE, the child won't LEARN.
Parenting issue. That's what this is. It's a parenting style/choice to cripple one's child in order to keep the child needy and baby-like.
Maybe when he's 30, he'll be ready to move on out of the house. Maaaaybe.
Don't think I'm kidding, because I'm not. And don't think I haven't known/worked with about eleventy-nine thousand emotionally crippled adults who can't move away from Mommie. For instance, I know a 44 year old who still lives with Mummy, along with his 46 y.o. brother, and poor old Dad. I also know a 32 y.o. female, has never moved out. Those are just a couple of real-life examples.
Their Mommies LIKE IT that way. Ewwwwwww!!
I'm going to give you some free advice, terp.I am no longer feeling witchy but just frustrated. I need son home on Monday like agreed. It is causing too much anxiety (sister about to loose it).