What Can I Do?!?!?!?!!?

[haiku]

$8????
The last time I took my daughters shopping it cost me $1,400

I want to TRADE!!!!!!!!!!!

honey, you have to learn how to shop! LOL

 

[LdiJ]

There is nothing that I can do? They have plenty of clothes there at their dads now besides why should he keep the clothes that I bought and I go out and buy them cheap clothes for school? My fiance and I have 6 kids, two are mine but still money is not something that is so easily spent and frankly speaking I can't even afford that right now because I have to spend gas money taking them back and forth down there and going their for court and my ex wont even pay childsupport until he is threatened with jail. I WANT THESE clothes back. They are nice school clothes and his mother WONT give any of it back!

I have a suggestion. His mother is not a party to the divorce. Since you have documented what clothing she has, take her to small claims court for the replacement value of the clothing. I bet you get them back really fast...LOL

And from now on buy cheap thrift shop clothing to send to their dad's. Don't send anything else.

 

[candi4687]

Well I could go get them as many clothes that they need at a Thrift store to send to their dads but the thing is that I should not have to do so. They are his kids as well.. I never said they were ONLY my kids and if you would read my other threads I try to not put my children but ours... excuse me for the damn typo. Either way if I were to say our children or if I were to buy them more clothes then I would still not get back the clothes that they now have and eventually they would take the new clothes they wear there and send back the thrift store clothes. By the way,why would it matter that my fiance has four kids of his own? Is there a problem with a big loving family? The problem is that my fiance is basically paying for ALL his kids and now is helping me take care of our (My husband and I) kids to cover my ex's slack. I never said we were pennyless but we manage even though we have 6 children (3 that are not in the home) but yes it makes it VERY difficult when we are put in this situation, especially since my ex can't seem to pay the childsupport. I am not looking for anyones support in how we live our life because basically I dont care what people think because you are not me. I love our kids and I think they should be considered here.
Oh yeah and they do wear clothes there and also return with clothes on but I had to send them enough clothes for a week the first time and I did not get those back but was supposed to have those once I picked them up so I packed another bag for this past weekend and now they kept it ALL..well besides 3 shirts.WOW

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Well I could go get them as many clothes that they need at a Thrift store to send to their dads but the thing is that I should not have to do so. They are his kids as well.. I never said they were ONLY my kids and if you would read my other threads I try to not put my children but ours... excuse me for the damn typo. Either way if I were to say our children or if I were to buy them more clothes then I would still not get back the clothes that they now have and eventually they would take the new clothes they wear there and send back the thrift store clothes. By the way,why would it matter that my fiance has four kids of his own? Is there a problem with a big loving family? The problem is that my fiance is basically paying for ALL his kids and now is helping me take care of our (My husband and I) kids to cover my ex's slack. I never said we were pennyless but we manage even though we have 6 children (3 that are not in the home) but yes it makes it VERY difficult when we are put in this situation, especially since my ex can't seem to pay the childsupport. I am not looking for anyones support in how we live our life because basically I dont care what people think because you are not me. I love our kids and I think they should be considered here.

JESUS CHRIST WOMAN! You were given a very workable solution. SEND the little rug rats to dad's in play clothes, DO NOT SEND ANY OTHER CLOTHES until the once there are returned then grow up.
No wonder there are screwed up kids. The parents aren't grown up either

 

[candi4687]

Well I am sorry I seem so childish to you because I care about our children having clothes! If you people would listen. I DONT HAVE AN OPTION anymore!
He now has the majority of their clothes and now I will have to make due with the few outfits that they do have which are not exactly the proper clothes for this weather. Have any of you ever tried feeding, clothing, and supplying all basic needs for 6 kids? We are a military family and sacrifices are made and for responses I have gotten today I don't know why! I am not being childish just because I think that there may be a way of getting our childrens clothes back to them! Its not a matter of I bought these clothes but a matter that they are the childrens clothes and that is who SHOULD have them. Am I wrong for thinking or expecting their clothes to be returned? Sorry but I don't see that I am the childish one here because I am not holding a 6&4yr olds clothes just to piss someone off!!

 

[LdiJ]

Well I could go get them as many clothes that they need at a Thrift store to send to their dads but the thing is that I should not have to do so. They are his kids as well.. I never said they were ONLY my kids and if you would read my other threads I try to not put my children but ours... excuse me for the damn typo. Either way if I were to say our children or if I were to buy them more clothes then I would still not get back the clothes that they now have and eventually they would take the new clothes they wear there and send back the thrift store clothes. By the way,why would it matter that my fiance has four kids of his own? Is there a problem with a big loving family? The problem is that my fiance is basically paying for ALL his kids and now is helping me take care of our (My husband and I) kids to cover my ex's slack. I never said we were pennyless but we manage even though we have 6 children (3 that are not in the home) but yes it makes it VERY difficult when we are put in this situation, especially since my ex can't seem to pay the childsupport. I am not looking for anyones support in how we live our life because basically I dont care what people think because you are not me. I love our kids and I think they should be considered here.

You are missing the whole point of the thrift store clothes. You dress the kids in the thrift store clothes to go to dads....you make sure that the only clothes that ever go to dads either in their bags, or on their bodies, are thrift store clothes. (or even better, garage sale clothes) Odds are they will send them back because they won't even want them there....If they don't, you won't have lost much dollar wise...and you can just buy some more.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Well I am sorry I seem so childish to you because I care about our children having clothes! If you people would listen. I DONT HAVE AN OPTION anymore!
He now has the majority of their clothes and now I will have to make due with the few outfits that they do have which are not exactly the proper clothes for this weather. Have any of you ever tried feeding, clothing, and supplying all basic needs for 6 kids? We are a military family and sacrifices are made and for responses I have gotten today I don't know why! I am not being childish just because I think that there may be a way of getting our childrens clothes back to them! Its not a matter of I bought these clothes but a matter that they are the childrens clothes and that is who SHOULD have them. Am I wrong for thinking or expecting their clothes to be returned? Sorry but I don't see that I am the childish one here because I am not holding a 6&4yr olds clothes just to piss someone off!!

Lady, you are playing games. If you don't want to continue then there's a simple solution.

Give the father custody and be done with it.

Otherwise, grow up.

 

[LdiJ]

Look basically my children only have a limited amount of winter clothes and I had to send them with these clothes on the 2 visits and now they MAY have 2-3 sets of warm clothes and I even documented what was sent but still they kept their clothes. I can't afford more and what am I supposed to do just make my children wear the same clothes over and over each week because my ex husbands mother wants to be a bitch and steal their clothes that I provided them with? besides this they would not even make my son wear a coat when it was below freezing outside and now he is sick. They would not send his coat back with him and so I am the one who has to pay? I am sorry but this is not an issue between me, himor his bitchy mother but of my kids and weither or not I can wake them up in the morning and be able to put warm clothes on their back!! I JUST DONT GET IT!

Like I SAID...take grandma to small claims court! Its a perfectly valid thing to do and it will either get you the clothes back or get you the money to replace them. That is a simple solution to the problem.

 

[candi4687]

Belize breeze you don't have a damn clue about anything do you? Why would you even say something so stupid? You don't know my entire situation so therefore who the hell are you to say I should give up custody? I have fought from day one to have our kids and I have went through having my head boot stomped by their father up to the point of leaving the only place I knew people or had family because of the MANY threats to mine and our childrens life due to this man and his family. Now I am a bad person because I simply ask how I can obtain their clothes from their grandmother because that is where their dad drops them off. I am sorry but I drive 2 hours every other weekend and I PAY for that and I dont ask for anything. He does not even want our children and has stated this MANY times that if he could sign over his rights and get out of paying child support he would! This is also a man that had taken OUR son and threatened to wreck a car with him inside it if I called the law on him for beating the hell out of me. I guess I am still the bad person here and I should not be able to be a mother?.. What kind of people are you? As far as the thrift store clothes, thats a good idea but now he has all their good clothes and now my problem is having clothes for them here but we will manage but yes most of my fights for our children have been rough but I do ALL I can to do and have the best for our kids. If I am wrong for that so be it!

 

[KarenWalker]

Candi, your position is a very frustrating one. What we had to do was send them with no bags. They go in their grubbies and they come back in the grubbies. No harm, no foul. We used to do the list thing, but that didn't work (kids loose stuff anyhow). Just remember, send toiletries and the clothes on their back to avoid all that nasty frustration. You can do it!

 

[Gracie3787]

Candi, your position is a very frustrating one. What we had to do was send them with no bags. They go in their grubbies and they come back in the grubbies. No harm, no foul. We used to do the list thing, but that didn't work (kids loose stuff anyhow). Just remember, send toiletries and the clothes on their back to avoid all that nasty frustration. You can do it!

Although OP CLAIMS that the issue is clothes for her kids, the sad thing is that she won't take anyone's advice, and that is because the TRUE issue for her is HER feelings, and anger. It's very sad to see kids hurt because of the STUPID CHILDISH games that their Mom insists on allowing and being a part of. Oh well, if she wants to keep buying her kids more and more clothes, it's her choice (unless she recieves public assistance).
Gracie

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Belize breeze you don't have a damn clue about anything do you? Why would you even say something so stupid? You don't know my entire situation so therefore who the hell are you to say I should give up custody? I have fought from day one to have our kids and I have went through having my head boot stomped by their father up to the point of leaving the only place I knew people or had family because of the MANY threats to mine and our childrens life due to this man and his family. Now I am a bad person because I simply ask how I can obtain their clothes from their grandmother because that is where their dad drops them off. I am sorry but I drive 2 hours every other weekend and I PAY for that and I dont ask for anything. He does not even want our children and has stated this MANY times that if he could sign over his rights and get out of paying child support he would! This is also a man that had taken OUR son and threatened to wreck a car with him inside it if I called the law on him for beating the hell out of me. I guess I am still the bad person here and I should not be able to be a mother?.. What kind of people are you? As far as the thrift store clothes, thats a good idea but now he has all their good clothes and now my problem is having clothes for them here but we will manage but yes most of my fights for our children have been rough but I do ALL I can to do and have the best for our kids. If I am wrong for that so be it!

Hold on a sec...I can't find the violin...OH THERE IT IS!!!!!!

 

[jslopez711]

$8????
The last time I took my daughters shopping it cost me $1,400

I want to TRADE!!!!!!!!!!!

$1400.00!!!! Can you be MY mommy??????????

 

[BelizeBreeze]

$1400.00!!!! Can you be MY mommy??????????

HELL NO!!!!
The operation would cost too much and be very PAINFUL

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Well then since you wont be his mommy will you be my daddy? You already let me know that the part of ex wife is out of the question. lol but damn it I want someone to spend that kind of money. I am sooo going to have to have a little chat with my husband!