Who can press charges of statutory rape?

[Besideherself]

My son did not go to another state to "get sex".

You're saying the girl is not guilty? She lied to him, she lied to her mother, she has had sex since she was 12, she initiated the sex, not him. She admitted it.

No, he did not go to another state for sex. He turned girls away here, because he's not just after sex. He has to believe he is in love, and he has to believe that the girl is not under-aged, which he did. He went to try to make a life for himself. I raised a good boy. He's never been in trouble with the law before, and never had sex with an under-aged girl before.

You need mental help... so fast to judge so wrongly!

I admit my son was stupid. I admit that he belongs in jail because what he did is a crime. But are you going to tell me that underaged girls do not lure men into having sex with them? The show 20/20 actually did a special on under-aged girls going after older men for purposes of getting material things from them, or of getting out of a bad home life, or just because they are addicted to sex.

But even then, my son BELIEVED that she was 18.

Be careful. You, too, will be judged someday.

 

[OhBullship]

An under age girl might attempt to lure a man into sex, but a real man knows how to control himself.

 

[Besideherself]

That is true, but remember, my son truly believed she was 18 when they had sex. Once she admitted to being 16, he didn't touch her.

He WAS in control of himself, and he was a gentleman and stopped once he knew. There are a lot of shouda, coulda, woulda's here, but that's hindsight.

He's in jail because of a lie on the girl's part. He never would have touched her had he known, and he had no reason to believe she was lying. I guess he'll check I.D. from now on, or run a background check on every female he meets.

This is a hard lesson for him to learn that you just can't trust what everyone says.

I don't mind his spending time in jail because the fact remains that, through ignorance, he did break the law, but I DESPISE the fact that he will be a registered sex offender for the rest of his life. That's such an awful label to pin on someone for the way in which this all happened.

 

[OhBullship]

When you wrote this "Two weeks later, when he found out she was only 16, his stupid hormones took over his brain. Yes, he's very guilty of being stupid, but he never would have been in Tennessee if he had known she was 16." you either wrote it poorly, or you are changing your story now. It read to me like he knew, but his hormones took over.

 

[Besideherself]

By saying that his hormones took over, I meant that he stuck around and still saw her, because he thought he was in love. (As I'm sure you know, things can be done in the bathroom to "relieve" sexual pressure.) He didn't have sex with her after learning that she was 16, but he was planning to stick around and wait until they could get married. Stupid, yes. But I'm not changing my story. I guess I worded it badly.

Either way, my son is guilty and in jail. I'm not saying he doesn't deserve it. All I initially wanted to know was if the girl's mother could drop the charges. I found out she can't. No one can.

I did speak with an outrageously expensive attorney (he wanted a $30,000.00 retainer), who told me that due to mitigating circumstances (being in Tennessee based on a lie from the girl, and her lying about having nowhere to go the night he was arrested, and her previous, prolific sexual activity), it is very likely that his sentence will be light, but he will still have to register as a sex offender.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Besideherself,
I have received and answered your PM's, please don't PM me anymore.
The person who PM'd you was banned from this board on 2 occasions and why they PM'd you, because they know they will be banned again.
I'm sorry if we cannot provide you the support you seek, perhaps you should join or form a support group. Your legal questions have been answered, we cannot change the facts or the past.

 

[AHA]

It really makes diddly who filed the charges against him, the fact is SOMEONE did and rightly so. That he eagerly had sex with her AFTER finding out she was a child, makes his case even worse. That she wasn't a virgin is besides the point, she's legally a child and therefore not considered to know what is right and wrong.

No, who's the weaker sex??????????????
Scary how a guy's **** can control his entire common sense and brain function. Must be a living hell to let it get you in so much trouble.

 

[Besideherself]

You are right

He committed a crime, knowingly or not. But there are things such as extenuating and mitigating circumstances

I am NOT looking for support, as suggested above. I'm defending a stupid, but innocent, 20-year-old from know-it-alls who have not walked in my, or his, shoes, and have no idea of the true facts.

I learned yesterday from a court clerk that the Judge believes that my son would not be in Tennessee at all had the girl not lied to him. That is grounds for insufficient evidence, and dismissal of his case. The Judge slammed the girl hard for what she did, and will sentence her accordingly... she is now charged with perjury as well. Her own mother has spoken to the Judge in defense of my son.

So, to everyone who blamed my son for everything, and the girl for nothing, you are all wrong. I am going to pick up my son and bring him home.

To everyone who was of help to me, I thank you sincerely.

 

[AHA]

He committed a crime, knowingly or not. But there are things such as extenuating and mitigating circumstances

I am NOT looking for support, as suggested above. I'm defending a stupid, but innocent, 20-year-old from know-it-alls who have not walked in my, or his, shoes, and have no idea of the true facts.

I learned yesterday from a court clerk that the Judge believes that my son would not be in Tennessee at all had the girl not lied to him. That is grounds for insufficient evidence, and dismissal of his case. The Judge slammed the girl hard for what she did, and will sentence her accordingly... she is now charged with perjury as well. Her own mother has spoken to the Judge in defense of my son.

So, to everyone who blamed my son for everything, and the girl for nothing, you are all wrong. I am going to pick up my son and bring him home.

To everyone who was of help to me, I thank you sincerely.

"that my son would not be in Tennessee at all had the girl not lied to him"

Maybe not, but he did more than move when he found out the truth about here age, he had sex with her which is a lot worse than just moving! He should have moved back home the second he found that out.
He is one hell of a lucky guy to walk away without even a slap on the wrist for such a crime. Next time he might not be so lucky, so I sure hope he's learn a very valuable lesson after this. Good luck.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

He committed a crime, knowingly or not. But there are things such as extenuating and mitigating circumstances Yes there are such things, and if your son stopped at the discovered her age, they might apply.

I am NOT looking for support, as suggested above. I'm defending a stupid, but innocent, GUILTY BY YOUR OWN ADMISSION, YOU WISH HE WAS INNOCENT 20-year-old from know-it-alls YOU CAME HERE FOR ADVICE FROM KNOW-IT-ALL'S DID YOU WANT ADVICE FROM KNOW-NOTHINGS???
who have not walked in my, or his, shoes, and have no idea of the true facts.

I learned yesterday from a court clerk that the Judge believes that my son would not be in Tennessee at all had the girl not lied to him. THIS HAS CHANGED SEVERAL TIMES SINCE YESTERDAY, IS THIS EXPARTY COMMUNICATIONS OR TENATIVE RULING OR SOMEHTING ELSE? That is grounds for insufficient evidence, WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU MEAN BY THIS STATEMENT??? DO YOU NEED TO RESTRUCTURE YOUR SENTENCE?
and dismissal of his case. The Judge slammed the girl hard for what she did, and will sentence her accordingly... she is now charged with perjury as well. Her own mother has spoken to the Judge in defense of my son.

So, to everyone who blamed my son for everything, and the girl for nothing, you are all wrong. WE POINTED OUT THAT SHE IS A CHILD, WE DIDN'T SAY THAT SHE DIDN'T PLAY A ROLE BUT YOUR SON WAS NOT ACTING RESPONSIBILY I am going to pick up my son and bring him home. REALLY?

To everyone who was of help to me, I thank you sincerely.

WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO WHEN HE GETS HOME, AFTER HE REGISTERS AS A SEX OFFENDER?

 

[OhBullship]

I learned yesterday from a court clerk that the Judge believes that my son would not be in Tennessee at all had the girl not lied to him. That is grounds for insufficient evidence, and dismissal of his case. The Judge slammed the girl hard for what she did, and will sentence her accordingly... she is now charged with perjury as well. Her own mother has spoken to the Judge in defense of my son.

So, to everyone who blamed my son for everything, and the girl for nothing, you are all wrong. I am going to pick up my son and bring him home.

To everyone who was of help to me, I thank you sincerely.

Has there been a hearing yet? Why is she on trial, and when did that happen?

This statement: "I learned yesterday from a court clerk that the Judge believes that my son would not be in Tennessee at all had the girl not lied to him. That is grounds for insufficient evidence, and dismissal of his case." is the nuttiest thing I have ever read. How does that change the fact that he was boinking a child? It does not matter why he was there, the evidence has to do with the crime, not why your son is a victim.

 

[Besideherself]

One more time, then goodbye.

My son did not have sex with her after he found out she was 16, okay? I've said that before. He "stuck around" because he really wanted to make a life for himself there, because they both thought they were in love, and, although he was angry that she had lied to him about her age, he was willing to wait the 2 years before being with her again. Once he found out that she had lied to both her mother and him to be with him the night he was arrested, he want's nothing more to do with her... ever. He also wants nothing more to do with the internet. He has learned his own lesson, which is how I raised him.

My question was answered, so I do not understand why I have received so many "opinions", most of which have come from rmet. The law is the law, but remember... O.J. got off!

And rmet, stop PMing me as well. I was right, you were wrong... get over it. Go "help" someone else (and do a spellcheck before you write anything again).

Now you can have me banned, or not. I don't care.

rmet, the statutory rape charges are dropped. Can't you read? Insufficient evidence to send him to trial. He does not have to register as a sex offender, since there is no case. Just how much to you actually know about the law?

 

[AHA]

I can't help but feel sorry for parents in TN who has teenagers. I would hate my teenager(if i had one) to have sex with an adult, only to see the adult walk away without punishment and the teen be the only one to get punished. I'd rather raise my kids in hell, than in that judicial system. Sorry Tennessee but you'll never see me within your borders.

 

[OhBullship]

Besideherself, we know that you are making this up as you go, and you are doing a horrible job of it.

Yes, OJ got off, and if he had "gotten off" the same way your son did, he would have to register as a sex offender too.

 

[AHA]

Besideherself, we know that you are making this up as you go, and you are doing a horrible job of it.

Yes, OJ got off, and if he had "gotten off" the same way your son did, he would have to register as a sex offender too.

He got off LEGALLY, but the whole world sees him as guilty, so the "off" doesn't really matter.........

Him being registered as a sex offender will haunt him forever, for instance when he gets his own place. Neighbours can find out if any sex offenders live in their neighbourhood and make his life hellish. So in a way, this 20 year old adult didn't get off either, so as his parent it might be wise not to toot your own horn to loudly as "winners". The public eye is just as important as the legal one.