who pays support dad and/or mom?

[rmet4nzkx]

Rmet hun, if they cared at all the placement could have taken place had they reported him in the first place. They have no interest in helping this boy, they would rather throw him away.

How many of us parents would let something like this slide?

Families with Autism, Austism Spectrum and or ADHD kids are very dysfunctional, lack pragmatics or logic.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Families with Autism, Austism Spectrum and or ADHD kids are very dysfunctional, lack pragmatics or logic.

I have to disagree Rmet. I don't believe a family is dysfunctional because of a child with any of these. If it were my child I would have learned everything I could and had the child and family in therapy years ago, but I don't think my family would be dysfunctional, nor would I throw my kid away without exhausting every effort to help him.

The aunt took him in, what does that say?

 

[eme76]

Families with Autism, Austism Spectrum and or ADHD kids are very dysfunctional, lack pragmatics or logic.

my mother works with kids with these types of problems and not all of the families are dysfunctional ... some are some are not... however even some of the most dysfunctional ones are still capeable of trying to help their kids learn to live with their disorders rather than ditching them

 

[MominMass]

I have to disagree Rmet. I don't believe a family is dysfunctional because of a child with any of these. If it were my child I would have learned everything I could and had the child and family in therapy years ago, but I don't think my family would be dysfunctional, nor would I throw my kid away without exhausting every effort to help him.

The aunt took him in, what does that say?

It could possibly say that she does not know the extent of the kid's problems.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

It could possibly say that she does not know the extent of the kid's problems.

True, but honestly, I don't buy her story at all. She can't answer why hubby nor herself reported it.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

I have to disagree Rmet. I don't believe a family is dysfunctional because of a child with any of these. If it were my child I would have learned everything I could and had the child and family in therapy years ago, but I don't think my family would be dysfunctional, nor would I throw my kid away without exhausting every effort to help him.

The aunt took him in, what does that say?

These things run in families so often the parents are affected as well, maybe the aunt wasn't affected or thought she could do better and at least the change delayed getting caught by the authorities, no doubt the sister is being told to remain quiet.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

True, but honestly, I don't buy her story at all. She can't answer why hubby nor herself reported it.

Because they don't want to deal with it or with court.

 

[ceara19]

I don't think Shay is the only one who wants to know what the story is with the boy molesting his sister. This is a very serious matter, but you have been rather vague about it. Why? Does the Aunt know he molested his sister? What did your husband do when he learned that his son molested his sister? These are fair questions.

I'd like to know too. First she comes here to ask advice, yet when she gets advice she doesn't want to hear, she gets all bent out of shape and starts in with "well, you don't know the WHOLE story" and "don't judge when you don't know all the facts".

Well, GIVE US THE FACTS ALREADY! The only reason I can think of to NOT give the whole story is the fact that it won't make her and dad look any better or it would make them sound like WORSE parents then they already do. It's not a one sided thing either. MOM is no better then dad & SM.

 

[MrsK]

Oh yea? What would you do if your husband's daughter had a brother who SEXUALLY MOLESTED HER???

Called the cops?

 

[MrsK]

Families with Autism, Austism Spectrum and or ADHD kids are very dysfunctional, lack pragmatics or logic.

I have to disagree rmet. I'm sure SOME of them are, but my own 3 yr old has ADHD and I have ADD, and our family is anything but dysfunctional. There is no lack of rules, logic or discipline in our household, my children are very well behaved (no behavioral problems yet, or arson, etc) and I dont even have my 3 yr old on medication @ this point because I dont believe he needs it right now, esp because he is not in school.

Just wanted to point that out...there are LOTS of families who deal with ADD/ADHD/Autism that are wonderful and without problems.

 

[justthestepmpm]

I have to disagree rmet. I'm sure SOME of them are, but my own 3 yr old has ADHD and I have ADD, and our family is anything but dysfunctional. There is no lack of rules, logic or discipline in our household, my children are very well behaved (no behavioral problems yet, or arson, etc) and I dont even have my 3 yr old on medication @ this point because I dont believe he needs it right now, esp because he is not in school.

Just wanted to point that out...there are LOTS of families who deal with ADD/ADHD/Autism that are wonderful and without problems.

It also sounds like you may have OCD, have you been diagnosed with that?

 

[MrsK]

It also sounds like you may have OCD, have you been diagnosed with that?

Obviously you know NOTHING about OCD. Nope, dont have it.

But I do wonder if you have been diagnosed as mentally retarded, seeing as how you and your spouse can not find the means to get his son some help, as he sounds like a very, very sick boy. Or perhaps those things arent true, and you are a pathological liar?

 

[justthestepmpm]

Obviously you know NOTHING about OCD. Nope, dont have it.

But I do wonder if you have been diagnosed as mentally retarded, seeing as how you and your spouse can not find the means to get his son some help, as he sounds like a very, very sick boy. Or perhaps those things arent true, and you are a pathological liar?

You're obviously very sick yourself, just shut your computer off and say NO!

 

[Neal1421]

You're obviously very sick yourself, just shut your computer off and say NO!

Sounds like you should take your own advice on this one.

 

[justthestepmpm]

Sounds like you should take your own advice on this one.

Ditto for you Neal