wife "babysits"

[lilmansmom]

This is wrong.

You may choose whom the child can be around and socialize with on your own time, but you do not have the right to dictate whom the child may be around or socialize with when he is on Dad's time.

can i get this court ordered that he isnt to be allowed to be around these people?

 

[CSO286]

my son has stated he dont like her and always asks why he has to stay with his "wife" when he should be spending the time with his dad. the whole point of visitation

Then your answer should be that she is his stepmom and even if he doesn't "like" her, he should respect and obey her like any other parental authority.

She is part of Dad's family, therefore, she is part of Junior's family.

 

[Proserpina]

can i get this court ordered that he isnt to be allowed to be around these people?

Nope

 

[CSO286]

can i get this court ordered that he isnt to be allowed to be around these people?

No, you cannot.

 

[lilmansmom]

Then your answer should be that she is his stepmom and even if he doesn't "like" her, he should respect and obey her like any other parental authority.

She is part of Dad's family, therefore, she is part of Junior's family.

shouldnt they respect my wishes that i dont appreciate nor like that they can continually break my rules in front of MY son... i set rules for my son and he can break them once he's with his dad... what kind of example does that say? "dont listen to what mom says when your in my care" i specifically said i didnt want my ex taking my son out of town and when my son tells me about it, guess who gets in trouble, my son. his "FATHER" is doing that and proving to my son that obviously he dont care about my son when he breaks my rules cuz my son gets in trouble

 

[Banned_Princess]

yes, thats a problem with me because my ex cried and cried till he got the judge on his side and now hes not even spending the holiday with him but leaving him with a woman my son doesnt know and one i dont like. i have been told im the custodial parent i can decide who the child can and cannot be around. his "wife" has friends i do not like nor do i want my son around and its a rule my kids cant be around them it applies when MY son is with them also. he isnt allowed to be with those people.

you are truly brain damaged.

Its very obvious you are not over your ex.

you choose who your child can be with on your parenting time, he chooses who spends time with child ON HIS PARENTING TIME.

your court order does not say child cannot be watched by step mom, it says son goes to dads on such and such a time. DURING that time he can do what he wants with kid, and decides who kid spends time with...
YOU don't even have a ROFR in your order, so you cannot decide to just swing by and pick up kid, when on dads time. Dad feels like step mom is OK to spend time with kid alone, and you need to respect his authority during his parenting time.


you do not get to decide who son can and cant be with when its dads turn to parent the child.


Get over him and move on with your life. Would you feel like its OK for dad to come by and pick up kid, because you left him with your mom, and he doesn't like her? no you would have a titty attack, and take him back to court.

Your (yes your) thick head is going to cause you to lose primary custody, and I can assure you, we are ALL praying for that outcome.

 

[Zigner]

Good LORD people! Just let this one go!

 

[lilmansmom]

you are truly brain damaged.

Its very obvious you are not over your ex.

you choose who your child can be with on your parenting time, he chooses who spends time with child ON HIS PARENTING TIME.

your court order does not say child cannot be watched by step mom, it says son goes to dads on such and such a time. DURING that time he can do what he wants with kid, and decides who kid spends time with...
YOU don't even have a ROFR in your order, so you cannot decide to just swing by and pick up kid, when on dads time. Dad feels like step mom is OK to spend time with kid alone, and you need to respect his authority during his parenting time.


you do not get to decide who son can and cant be with when its dads turn to parent the child.


Get over him and move on with your life. Would you feel like its OK for dad to come by and pick up kid, because you left him with your mom, and he doesn't like her? no you would have a titty attack, and take him back to court.

Your (yes your) thick head is going to cause you to lose primary custody, and I can assure you, we are ALL praying for that outcome.

i am over him. i dont appreciate how his "wife" acts as step mommy of the year... I AM HIS MOM!! NOT HER! she has created and caused alot of problems in the past which my son has witnessed. and i understand that it isnt court ordered.. yet... thats why i would like to hold an emergency court hearing to stop this immediately and only have dad allowed to parent, pick up/drop off child during his time. y is that so hard for all y'all to understand?

 

[CSO286]

shouldnt they respect my wishes that i dont appreciate nor like that they can continually break my rules in front of MY son... i set rules for my son and he can break them once he's with his dad... what kind of example does that say? "dont listen to what mom says when your in my care" i specifically said i didnt want my ex taking my son out of town and when my son tells me about it, guess who gets in trouble, my son. his "FATHER" is doing that and proving to my son that obviously he dont care about my son when he breaks my rules cuz my son gets in trouble

Most kids learn pretty quickly what the rules are at Mom's house and what the rules are at Dad's house.

Would you honor any rule Dad made for Junior--even if you considered it irrational?

You punished your child because his Father took him out of town? What did you expect Junior to do???? Get out of the car and start walking home???

You do not get to dictate what Dad does, nor do you get to set the rules for Dad's home and Dad's time.

Really and truly.

 

[CSO286]

i am over him. i dont appreciate how his "wife" acts as step mommy of the year... I AM HIS MOM!! NOT HER! she has created and caused alot of problems in the past which my son has witnessed. and i understand that it isnt court ordered.. yet... thats why i would like to hold an emergency court hearing to stop this immediately and only have dad allowed to parent, pick up/drop off child during his time. y is that so hard for all y'all to understand?

You have no grounds for this action.

Say it with me: I do not get to dictate how and with whom my child spends time when he is with his Father.

 

[Banned_Princess]

shouldnt they respect my wishes that i dont appreciate nor like that they can continually break my rules in front of MY son...

you cant force your rules on dads time. its his time, and then it is his rules.

i set rules for my son and he can break them once he's with his dad... what kind of example does that say?

that sends a message that mom and dad are different, and have different rules. you are not queen of the world, and no one has to listen to you.

"dont listen to what mom says when your in my care"

I dont have the same hang ups your mom has, and my house is different. I expect you to respect my authority and follow my rules on my time, and moms rules when on moms time.

you must be afrade that JR is going to end up liking dads house better then yours. Which I think he will.

i specifically said i didnt want my ex taking my son out of town and when my son tells me about it, guess who gets in trouble, my son.

your son has no control over dads decissions. NEITHER do YOU.

his "FATHER" is doing that and proving to my son that obviously he dont care about my son when he breaks my rules cuz my son gets in trouble

Quit it with the quotation marks around dad and his wife.

Dad doesnt care to follow your stupid rules. he is free to do what he wants on his parenting time. WHAT IS IT ABOUT THAT YOU DONT UNDERSTAND.



We have come to hate you, why do you keep comming back here? do you enjoy the attention???

 

[Banned_Princess]

i am over him. i dont appreciate how his "wife" acts as step mommy of the year... I AM HIS MOM!! NOT HER!

OMG. seriously, you aren't winning mom of the year either.

she has created and caused alot of problems in the past which my son has witnessed. and i understand that it isnt court ordered.. yet... thats why i would like to hold an emergency court hearing to stop this immediately and only have dad allowed to parent, pick up/drop off child during his time. y is that so hard for all y'all to understand?

Fine. do it then, and leave us alone. you already know our opinion.

 

[nextwife]

Good grief.

How many of us parents CAN actually be off all day, every day our kids are on break? I see my kiddo in the evening, and maybe a day or two during break. But I see her at night for our family movie nights during spring break, and sometimes I go home for lunch and we dine together. She's signed up for an Iron Chef cooking class at the Chef store at the mall, so I will meet her there after work a couple of days also.

So, mommie dearest, are you trying to say a parent should not have a right to have their child in their home during their school break day UNLESS they have a job that allows them to be off work during the daytime on all those days? OR does that JUST apply to dads?

Wow. Just wow.

 

[sandyclaus]

my son has stated he dont like her and always asks why he has to stay with his "wife" when he should be spending the time with his dad. the whole point of visitation

I really don't think this is about what your son does and doesn't want at all. I think it's more about you putting words into your son's mouth - and ideas into his mind.

After hearing all the badmouthing you do about your ex, I am certain that the issues your son has with spending time with the "wife" and not dad is more about how YOU feel about it. It's only natural that a child would hear all these bad things and adapt your opinions in order to make you happy (since it's ALL about what makes YOU happy).

You aren't getting what you want here. The child is not being abused during dad's visitation time by whomever he chooses to care for the child. There's no justification to change the visitation order, no reason to keep your son away from the new wife.

You're just going to have to live with the fact that this is one of those things that is out of your control. Deal with it and learn to let your child build their own relationship with dad and his new wife without having to deal with your unwarranted influence.

 

[AnotherTenant]

Someone make it go away. Someone more powerful than me, because I've tried. Please, make it go away....