Willing parents

[stealth2]

There is no question of his paternity as far as we (him and I) he is the only man I have been with besides on when I was 18.

But that does NOT make him LEGALLY the father. You may not like the way the law works, but it is the way it is.

 

[Ambr]

Poster is being to defensive. She thinks we are trying to insult her and we aren't. She is missing what we are trying to say.

They were not married -- no "presumed" paternity
He didn't sign BC.
He NEVER established paternity (through the courts) - he has NO RIGHTS!

Poster was asking how to take his rights away --- she doesn't have to! He doesn't have any!

 

[stealth2]

Very true. However, he can assert them at any time by filing for paternity and visitation.

 

[onmytime]

But no, you decided to save a few bucks & procreate with a loser. Now you have a child who is biological half of a loser (good choice!) & for all you know contains the same psychological makeup that makes him the loser (that you claim). Didn’t think of genetics when you were spreading your legs did you? What do you think this says about YOU?
KAT

I understand that people giving advice may judge OP's and their situations and perhaps the judging and name calling is tolerated by other posters. However what I find repulsive is degrading and diminishing the child. The fact that the OP stated she had a baby with a loser & posters agreed does not give anyone the right to say that the child is "half loser". That is just plain nasty! The child is biologically half of the father in genes but not in mindset. And what does it say about the OP that she was with a loser? She made a poor decision on selecting a child for her father and should make a special effort to raise her little one not to go in the same direction. But that does not mean that the child is "half loser".

OP, I think you need to pull yourself together. I don't know of what percentage of the posters are attorneys if any. But they are individuals that have been through the situations many of us face. That in its self is advice. Some of the advice may apply to your situation and some of it may not. Some of the advice may just be food for thought. Pick out what you need, what you can use and try to think rationally. Each person's outcome & situation is different.

 

[nhawkjo]

Very true. However, he can assert them at any time by filing for paternity and visitation.

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THAT is what I want to prevent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HE would do that JUST to spite ME!

 

[nhawkjo]

I understand that people giving advice may judge OP's and their situations and perhaps the judging and name calling is tolerated by other posters. However what I find repulsive is degrading and diminishing the child. The fact that the OP stated she had a baby with a loser & posters agreed does not give anyone the right to say that the child is "half loser". That is just plain nasty! The child is biologically half of the father in genes but not in mindset. And what does it say about the OP that she was with a loser? She made a poor decision on selecting a child for her father and should make a special effort to raise her little one not to go in the same direction. But that does not mean that the child is "half loser".

OP, I think you need to pull yourself together. I don't know of what percentage of the posters are attorneys if any. But they are individuals that have been through the situations many of us face. That in its self is advice. Some of the advice may apply to your situation and some of it may not. Some of the advice may just be food for thought. Pick out what you need, what you can use and try to think rationally. Each person's outcome & situation is different.

Thank you, I understand the advice that people have does not always pertain to my certain situation... I chose to sleep with him... I did not CHOSE him to be the father of my child... BUT those were the consequences of my actions! I will live with those mistakes for the rest of my life! Unfortunatley my little girl will too. It's hard enough living day to day worrying about what will happen tomorrow with him...and then to have to listen to this kind of critisizm from people who have no clue what kind of person I am. They made me seem like a selfish little girl with nothing better to do than harrass my daughters biological father... thanks again.