What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma
This situation is between my boyfriend and his soon to be exwife. I am not asking for myself since I have no legal standing in the matter. At this time we cannot financially afford a lawyer nor can we get anyone to assist by letting us make payments towards representation. We are planning on checking into free legal services through both the military (he is in the Army National Guard) and if there are any locally.
The situation is as follows:
He has 3 children ages 15, 10, and 8 that consistantly come to visit us in filthy condition. Almost every other visit we have to purchase new shoes for them due to the fact that they smell so bad I refuse to let them wear them into the house. Their mother has dispicable personal hygiene, she does not wash their clothes on a regular basis and they regularly wear dirty clothes, her home is kept in disgusting condition (mind you this is disgusting by my standards) with several animals in the house defecating and urinating in the house from the smell of things. The children always have to take baths or showers as soon as they arrive and all their clothing must be washed to remove dirt and odors including their jackets. We have treated them for athletes foot several times and also head lice several times. They have to be told repeatedly (like most children) to brush their teeth and wash their hands but in their case it appears more due to the fact that she does not require it at any time. They also have stated they take a bath when they want and 'Mom' doesnt make them. My boyfriend is, for obvious reasons, worried about their general health, their safety, and about the way they are being raised to behave. This is not healthy.
They are not together and have not been for over two years. They never went before a court and there is no legal seperation and no custody. The kids have stayed with us at various times and he has allowed them to return to her. It no longer appears that things will improve as they have in the past and we do not feel that it would be in their best interest to return to her care.
What he needs to know is... since they primarily live with her, even though there is no custody order, can he get in trouble for not taking the children back to her after the Thanksgiving holiday? If the 15yr old wants to go we would allow that since he does bathe and wash his clothes on his own. It is the younger two that is the most disturbing.
Again, I just want to reinforce the fact that HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO GET LEGALLY SEPERATED AND FILE FOR AT LEAST TEMPORARY CUSTODY, but can he get in trouble in Oklahoma for not taking them home if there is no court ordered custody??????
Thank you for reading this and any responses will be welcome and appreciated.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
This situation is between my boyfriend and his soon to be exwife. I am not asking for myself since I have no legal standing in the matter. At this time we cannot financially afford a lawyer nor can we get anyone to assist by letting us make payments towards representation. We are planning on checking into free legal services through both the military (he is in the Army National Guard) and if there are any locally.
The situation is as follows:
He has 3 children ages 15, 10, and 8 that consistantly come to visit us in filthy condition. Almost every other visit we have to purchase new shoes for them due to the fact that they smell so bad I refuse to let them wear them into the house. Their mother has dispicable personal hygiene, she does not wash their clothes on a regular basis and they regularly wear dirty clothes, her home is kept in disgusting condition (mind you this is disgusting by my standards) with several animals in the house defecating and urinating in the house from the smell of things. The children always have to take baths or showers as soon as they arrive and all their clothing must be washed to remove dirt and odors including their jackets. We have treated them for athletes foot several times and also head lice several times. They have to be told repeatedly (like most children) to brush their teeth and wash their hands but in their case it appears more due to the fact that she does not require it at any time. They also have stated they take a bath when they want and 'Mom' doesnt make them. My boyfriend is, for obvious reasons, worried about their general health, their safety, and about the way they are being raised to behave. This is not healthy.
They are not together and have not been for over two years. They never went before a court and there is no legal seperation and no custody. The kids have stayed with us at various times and he has allowed them to return to her. It no longer appears that things will improve as they have in the past and we do not feel that it would be in their best interest to return to her care.
What he needs to know is... since they primarily live with her, even though there is no custody order, can he get in trouble for not taking the children back to her after the Thanksgiving holiday? If the 15yr old wants to go we would allow that since he does bathe and wash his clothes on his own. It is the younger two that is the most disturbing.
Again, I just want to reinforce the fact that HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO GET LEGALLY SEPERATED AND FILE FOR AT LEAST TEMPORARY CUSTODY, but can he get in trouble in Oklahoma for not taking them home if there is no court ordered custody??????
Thank you for reading this and any responses will be welcome and appreciated.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?