fair parent
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Thats what I don't understand, how was VA involved anyways? Shouldn't PA determine the rates? I need to understand the system. I was lied to, manipulated and blackmailed. She really did a number on me. She got pissed off I didn't sign the papers when the kid was five months old. She told me it was for travel. to gain a visa. I told her the kid was too young to travel and she was pissed so she filed for child support. What was I supposed to do? I didn't have money to get a lawyer then and the Division of child support enforcement center in VA lied to me and left me confused and unhelped. So i took it for what it was and felt defeated. What else could I do? I didn't know I had any options. So now that I have saved up a bit to help myself, is it so wrong to try now after five years? She wants the papers for citizenship i know, but Im not going to give it to him unless I have custody and he lives with me. That seems pretty fair, otherwise she was looking for an anchor baby in the first place. What do I do before I start looking for lawyers? i need a good one too. What are my rights? I don't want to giver her the citizenship even if its for my son because she holds all the cards right now and if I sign those papers, I fear I will never see him at all. She even told me once that after I sign the papers, they are going to take a trip to disney and if I want to see my son at all, I should fly there and see him there. The american embassy says Peruvian law will not allow her to travel without endorsement from the father. This is the only leverage I have against her. I want to be fair but she really makes it hard. I was looking into the taxes to find a little extra cash to help with expected expenses. I k now the hague convention does not allow me to take him from her and I woulnd't do that anyways. But right now we hold no other court mandated visitation or anything. She is just the custodial parent and Im not. No other agreement was notarized or agreed upon by a judge. So I think I might have a chance. A small one, to go to courts to at least establish the visitation.