mistoffolees
Senior Member
I'm not a lady - and you really didn't get anything else right, either.WOAH lady!! Back off here, Im not going into details about my own personal life with you for what? to restore faith in men you lost a long time ago? I don't need you to get your emotions interfering with your rational decisions, I was just asking what i can do to help my situation but you insist on finding ANYTHING that can count agaisnt me to make me out to be the bad guy here. Im not on trial and I certaintly don't need to justify the why's and why nots with you. I am asking for advice. Not a war here. For the record i wasn't going ballistic, I want to be treated fair because a military lawyer inquired about it. and sacrifices? those are mine to share at my discretion. I really don't need your personal opinion, just advice and maybe even personal experience, but i can see now you have been emotionally compromised and damaged any integrity to give advice, please stop posting me.
The fact is that your efforts (or, apparently, lack of effort) to see your child is a critical matter. In some cases, if you made significant effort to see your child and were refused, it could affect CS (I haven't checked your state, though). You're asking about visitation. Once again, your effort to see the child is a relevant matter. If you had worked diligently from the start to try to see your child, then the situation would be different than if you simply didn't make any effort - until you got hit for CS.
No one asks questions here just for kicks. We're asking questions that are relevant to trying to understand your situation and offer appropriate advice. If you don't like it, you can pay an attorney $400 an hour to ask the same questions.
So? Even if that were true, that's not the only thing he could have done to establish a relationship with the child.You know how much it cost to kill a man in Peru? 5$. I have served in the military, been in war, and I will tell you the truth that I will not go to a third world country with hostile relatives.
I have a girl I support in a third world country through a church arrangement. I send letters and gifts to her (along with money sent to her agency) and she writes back. I have never met her in person. Dad hasn't apparently tried even that very limited level of involvement. Has he sent letters? Emails? Called?
Not to mention that if my child were in a third world country, I'd find a way to see her. I've gone to some pretty nasty countries with less important justification than that.
Regardless of what you think the purpose of CS is, the fact is that it's calculated according to state guidelines. OP had the opportunity to state that VA did not have jurisdiction and either failed to present that argument or presented it so badly that he lost.I can see his point. 1000$ in Peru is like 10,000 here. The purpose of CS is to reimburse the mother for the expenses of raising a child, not to make her rich.
Furthermore, we still don't know (because OP is too busy attacking people to answer the questions) whether it is a VA oder or whether it's a Peru order that VA is simply enforcing. If it's the latter, then your argument is moot.