OG, sorry its been so long in responding... had to find the thread!
Thanks for all of your advice, things keep getting more interesting as the days progress. First the 'threat' of visitation schedule, now I haven't heard anything from him in weeks. Its kind of funny how things are working, when I don't do what he asks me to, there are all kinds of things he 'threatens' to do, when I've done what he asks, there is no contact. ie, reporting my income directly to the court and company who run the county's child support agency, he now has not contacted me, although things that I've asked him to do remain unaccomplished as well.
*sigh* he doesn't know what he is missing in the time that he hasn't attempted to see our son. I won't even try to force him to exercise his parental rights, that wouldn't be fair to our child. Thanks to all who have responded.