What is the name of your state? Mississippi
First off I just want to say that I am not on here to bad mouth ANY grandparent They are a blessing to us ALL, and will always have my respect!
However, this is my dilemma: I am a 29 y/o single mom of one 11y/o daughter. I am currently unemployed, and have had to recently move back to my parents' home because I am
unemployed. Since I do not have the money to take care of my daughter properly right now, (I honestly ran into trouble with the law in 2006. I was never imprisoned, but I am
currently serving a 3-year non-adjudicated probation sentence for my charge of felony false pretense with the intent to defraud a financial institution). Before I got in trouble with
the law, I have always been able to maintain a decent paying job, mainly in the call center/customer service sector) I just wanted to add that in to let you know that yes, I DID mess
up and do dirt, but that does not mean that I was "uneducated", nor a "common troublemaker", & am paying dearly for my crime as I type!! Although I am unemployed at this time,
I do receive financial help for my daughter from my parents, and my daughter's paternal grandparents. That's where my problem has begun: In October of 2007, I asked my
daughter's paternal grandmother could she please take my daughter in at that time, because I still loved my child, and wanted her to be taken care of properly. My parents are
retired, my daughter's paternal grandparents currently brings in at LEAST $100k/annually, combined. My daughter's father is on a court ordered child support order to pay $150.00
/month, which was established in July of 1998. Out of 10 years, I have probably received maybe 2 years' worth of child support. My daughter's father is also unemployed, and stays
with his parents as well. To make a long story short, my daughter has been living with her paternal grandparents now for 7 months. At this point, I don't feel comfortable with my
daughter living with her paternal grandparents anymore, because of some things that she have told me that have been said(nothing detrimental, but enough for my daughter to take
note of-she's beginning to feel that it's her fault, and feel she's in all of our way, which I remind her DAILY of my love for her, and I also tell her this is NONE of her fault, I am going
to make it better, I just know it will take time). Since I have seen how her paternal grandparents take care of her, I am not pleased. Some of her shirts are too small, her shoes,
she needs more because at least 1 pair are torn a little, and things of that nature.) I'm not saying that her grandparents are neglecting her, that is NOT the case. However, I feel
uncomfortable with her there. I have told her paternal grandmother on MORE than one occasion how much I love her & appreciate her for what she is doing for my child. When I
call & let her know of my concern, (which she said she wanted me to still be involved in my daughter's life while she lived with them) it seems as if I'm bothering her, or getting on
her nerves. Now, I hardly call at all, because I do not want to "bother" anyone. Yes, her father lives in the house with his daugher and family, but he does not contribute to the well-
being of our child, his mom is the one who takes care of my daughter. My parents have agreed that until I get back on my feet, that they will continue to help me with my child, as
they always have been. When I informed my daughter's grandmother(paternal) that I'm taking my baby back, she became angry and threatened to take me to court to ask for
custody of my daughter. Of course by NO MEANS do I feel I am an unfit parent; I have NEVER had any run-ins with CPS ,nor the authorities when it comes to the welfare of my
babygirl. Although I am flattered that my daughter's paternal grandmother wants her permanantly, I feel it would be unfair to both me & my daughter, for we BOTH have talked
about this, and NEITHER of us wants to be apart from each other. I have NEVER denied her father nor his family the right to visitation with my daughter, although like I have
mentioned, he is VERY MUCH behind in child support, and does not take care of her now, and they are currently living under the same roof. I by NO MEANS DO NOT want to lose my
daughter, and she does not want to lose me. I will NEVER deny visitation to my daughter's father nor his family, because I never have(although I feel I should, because he has
always been a dead beat dad). I know I need a job as well, I am diligently seeking employment, but because of my criminal background at this time, I have been turned down by at
least 6-7 companies. I'm waiting as I type to hear from Wal-Mart as to whether they want to hire me or not. I am very hurt, & confused. I DO NOT think it will be fair for my
daughter's father & his family to have my daughter, and they KNOW I have ALWAYS been a good parent, I just made the wrong decision one day,and am now paying for it. That
charge has NOTHING to do with the way I treated my daughter. I have NEVER abused nor neglected her in ANY type of way. She is currently with me RIGHT NOW, laying in the bed
asleep. I don't mind honestly if my daughter's paternal grandmother wants to continue to help me financially with my daughter until I can take care of my baby again, but I can't i
magine being without my child on a permanent basis! Especially with her father having her with him for free at his parents' house!! Please, I am SO SORRY for the length, but I am
desperate for any advice/opinion/input.
Thanks SO much!
PS-I am currently very worried and paranoid as to what my daughter's paternal grandmother will say or do, because she is threatening to take my child from me. Also, I failed to
mention that my daughter's father has a drug problem. He smokes marijuana on a DAILY basis, has been accused of stealing from his mom, does not even ATTEMPT to look for
employment(I have tried to even help him get a job thru people I know, he just won't budge!). Again, I am NOT here to badger my child's paternal grandparents, but I DO feel the
only reason why my daughter's father and his family is trying to take my daughter from me is because ever since my daughter's father has been on court ordered child support, his
mom & he have always had a certain degree of anger towards me for that. I was and always will do what I feel is best for my daughter.
Thanks for the advice in advance. And again, sorry for being so long
First off I just want to say that I am not on here to bad mouth ANY grandparent They are a blessing to us ALL, and will always have my respect!
However, this is my dilemma: I am a 29 y/o single mom of one 11y/o daughter. I am currently unemployed, and have had to recently move back to my parents' home because I am
unemployed. Since I do not have the money to take care of my daughter properly right now, (I honestly ran into trouble with the law in 2006. I was never imprisoned, but I am
currently serving a 3-year non-adjudicated probation sentence for my charge of felony false pretense with the intent to defraud a financial institution). Before I got in trouble with
the law, I have always been able to maintain a decent paying job, mainly in the call center/customer service sector) I just wanted to add that in to let you know that yes, I DID mess
up and do dirt, but that does not mean that I was "uneducated", nor a "common troublemaker", & am paying dearly for my crime as I type!! Although I am unemployed at this time,
I do receive financial help for my daughter from my parents, and my daughter's paternal grandparents. That's where my problem has begun: In October of 2007, I asked my
daughter's paternal grandmother could she please take my daughter in at that time, because I still loved my child, and wanted her to be taken care of properly. My parents are
retired, my daughter's paternal grandparents currently brings in at LEAST $100k/annually, combined. My daughter's father is on a court ordered child support order to pay $150.00
/month, which was established in July of 1998. Out of 10 years, I have probably received maybe 2 years' worth of child support. My daughter's father is also unemployed, and stays
with his parents as well. To make a long story short, my daughter has been living with her paternal grandparents now for 7 months. At this point, I don't feel comfortable with my
daughter living with her paternal grandparents anymore, because of some things that she have told me that have been said(nothing detrimental, but enough for my daughter to take
note of-she's beginning to feel that it's her fault, and feel she's in all of our way, which I remind her DAILY of my love for her, and I also tell her this is NONE of her fault, I am going
to make it better, I just know it will take time). Since I have seen how her paternal grandparents take care of her, I am not pleased. Some of her shirts are too small, her shoes,
she needs more because at least 1 pair are torn a little, and things of that nature.) I'm not saying that her grandparents are neglecting her, that is NOT the case. However, I feel
uncomfortable with her there. I have told her paternal grandmother on MORE than one occasion how much I love her & appreciate her for what she is doing for my child. When I
call & let her know of my concern, (which she said she wanted me to still be involved in my daughter's life while she lived with them) it seems as if I'm bothering her, or getting on
her nerves. Now, I hardly call at all, because I do not want to "bother" anyone. Yes, her father lives in the house with his daugher and family, but he does not contribute to the well-
being of our child, his mom is the one who takes care of my daughter. My parents have agreed that until I get back on my feet, that they will continue to help me with my child, as
they always have been. When I informed my daughter's grandmother(paternal) that I'm taking my baby back, she became angry and threatened to take me to court to ask for
custody of my daughter. Of course by NO MEANS do I feel I am an unfit parent; I have NEVER had any run-ins with CPS ,nor the authorities when it comes to the welfare of my
babygirl. Although I am flattered that my daughter's paternal grandmother wants her permanantly, I feel it would be unfair to both me & my daughter, for we BOTH have talked
about this, and NEITHER of us wants to be apart from each other. I have NEVER denied her father nor his family the right to visitation with my daughter, although like I have
mentioned, he is VERY MUCH behind in child support, and does not take care of her now, and they are currently living under the same roof. I by NO MEANS DO NOT want to lose my
daughter, and she does not want to lose me. I will NEVER deny visitation to my daughter's father nor his family, because I never have(although I feel I should, because he has
always been a dead beat dad). I know I need a job as well, I am diligently seeking employment, but because of my criminal background at this time, I have been turned down by at
least 6-7 companies. I'm waiting as I type to hear from Wal-Mart as to whether they want to hire me or not. I am very hurt, & confused. I DO NOT think it will be fair for my
daughter's father & his family to have my daughter, and they KNOW I have ALWAYS been a good parent, I just made the wrong decision one day,and am now paying for it. That
charge has NOTHING to do with the way I treated my daughter. I have NEVER abused nor neglected her in ANY type of way. She is currently with me RIGHT NOW, laying in the bed
asleep. I don't mind honestly if my daughter's paternal grandmother wants to continue to help me financially with my daughter until I can take care of my baby again, but I can't i
magine being without my child on a permanent basis! Especially with her father having her with him for free at his parents' house!! Please, I am SO SORRY for the length, but I am
desperate for any advice/opinion/input.
Thanks SO much!
PS-I am currently very worried and paranoid as to what my daughter's paternal grandmother will say or do, because she is threatening to take my child from me. Also, I failed to
mention that my daughter's father has a drug problem. He smokes marijuana on a DAILY basis, has been accused of stealing from his mom, does not even ATTEMPT to look for
employment(I have tried to even help him get a job thru people I know, he just won't budge!). Again, I am NOT here to badger my child's paternal grandparents, but I DO feel the
only reason why my daughter's father and his family is trying to take my daughter from me is because ever since my daughter's father has been on court ordered child support, his
mom & he have always had a certain degree of anger towards me for that. I was and always will do what I feel is best for my daughter.
Thanks for the advice in advance. And again, sorry for being so long
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