You seem to think you are under attack by VOLUNTEERS of this forum...Why? You post a question to a forum and resent the answers...Strange as the answers are similar to what you will run into in court when you have to plead your case. Nobody here even suggested you are mentally ill. Nobody. And no one criticized you for being a single parent....At least half of the people that responded to your thread are single parents.
Being prepared for court is important...We are very good at preparing people for court. If you are unable to address the questions posed here....How on earth will you deal with opposing counsel?
To baystategirl:
No, not at all! I appreciate everyone's feedback. However:
1. (Thank God) I have NOT received court papers telling me that the paternal grandmother wants to have custody of my daughter. So far, its been a threat by email.
2. According to "Court Clerk", it was stated: " You can't have it both ways.... take care of your own kid, then you don't have to worry about grandma at all. Go work at McDonalds."
I'm not trying to have it both ways....it was a "temporary arrangement" for my daughter's sake.
3. According to "Hot Topic", it was stated, "This is a mom whose post screams martyr. I think the child would probably be better off physically and mentally with the grandmother."
I'm not in the medical field. However, "martyr": I just took that term as a mentally unstable-type term that is used toward someone who does not have all of their mind, or whatever.
So from those standpoints that I've just mentioned above, I DID take it personally, and I did feel attacked. Personally.
I am going to get prepared legally. However, THANK GOD this lady has not tried to take it
to court-as of yet. It was an email that was sent to me after I told her in an email that I
am ready to get my daughter back. My daughter had been living with her for 7 months. I
know this does not help me any, but I have ALWAYS thanked her & her husband for
helping me with my daughter. I have ALWAYS told them that I appreciate & love them for
what they have done for my child. Even though her dead beat father is living right there with all of them. What I received in return was an
email reply from the paternal grandmother telling me that she will take me to court to ask
for custody of my child, because she is not ready to let my child go. This was a temporary
arrangement, and I personally did not want my child over to her paternal grandparents'
any longer than I can afford from an emotional viewpoint.
I never told her paternal grandparents that they couldn't see my child anymore. I just
said, "thanks, but its time for my child to come back home to me now." It got to the point
where me, her son, & her were arguing constantly about my daughter. And it would
always be mainly over money. I felt that since my daughter was sent to stay with her
paternal grandparents on a temporary basis, that money shouldn't have been a problem,
especially since the grandmother always boasts and brags that "money has never been a
problem for me." Now, since the "temporary arrangement" is over (in my eyes), I was
ready to get my child back. In return, I receive an email reply basically telling me that the
paternal grandmother wants custody of my child because she feels that my daughter would
be raised better with her & her family. Including the biological father who does not work,
is not looking for work, and probably doesn't care one way or the other about the welfare
of his daughter because he is high off of marijuana all day, everyday.
Sorry its long..but I have a lot to say on the matter of my child & I always will.
PS: Just to add something: I know people may ask me, "Why would you let your daughter
go to live with her paternal grandparents on a temporary basis when you know her father
smokes marijuana?"- I honestly had NO IDEA that her father was living back with his mom
again. He's usually living with one of his girlfriends. Know that doesn't help either, but
that's my answer.