He's on the birth certificate and she's not denying it.
HE HAS NO LEGAL CUSTODY RIGHTS THEN. Paternity has not been established by the courts NOR has he been awarded custody.
Because after they separated, he was living with people that he did not feel it was safe to have the children around. He would take them places, but nowhere conducive to education. When he was finally living on his, he would keep them more regularly, but he also has dyslexia and struggles with that. He also lived too far away to be involved daily in their lives.
Those are excuses. DAD is as much to blame as mom.
She worked until late so it was the significant other who took care of the kids, much like in our case now. Only I do not abuse them.
You don't? Maybe not physically but lets get some answers:
What do the kids call you?
Why do you attend counseling with them?
Are you listed on their paperwork?
No, but we've taken him to the doctor and had him in our care and know what to look for according to the doctor's instructions. We also have the old medical records showing how much medication he was prescribed.
Then you are CLUELESS. And have no right to say that the child is under or over medicated.
I shouldn't rise, but I am anyway.
I'm fairly certain one would not restrain a child from hitting himself in the head by grabbing their head. Generally, you would hold their arms to their side.
And yes, the counselor treated the entire family and individually.
Then the counselor is not doing the right thing. These children should NOT be in counseling WITH YOU.
Yes. We sought psych evals within a few months of them being in our care. The oldest's results were inconclusive, but showed OD tendancies. The youngest's results showed combined ADHD, developmental dyslexia and a host of other learning disabilities. His current psychiatrist suggests that we retest now that he's been in a more stable and helpful environment.
Really? YOu are aware that the children legally are not in dad's custody and LEGALLY dad does not have the right to make medical decisions of ANY kind.
Legally, you're right. Outside of that, I am their parent in all ways, more than any of the others including my fiance.
NO you are not. YOU ARE NOBODY.
I am the one who completes any school paperwork, takes them to any medical visits (on my insurance by claiming domestic partner), volunteers at school, discusses any behavior issues with the teachers, attends school functions, coordinates their playdates, takes them to and from school, helps with their homework, cooks their dinner and provides anything else they need. Their father works late like their mother so if I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done, like what happened when they lived with her. Is it ideal? No, but it's what it is.
NO it is not what it is. IT is proof that you are an overstepping overinvolved bedmate. You have NO RIGHT to be discussing anything with the teachers or making medical decisions. NONE. You are not a stepparent. You have no legal rights under HIPPA OR FERPA. The school and doctors can be sued because of your over involvement. HOW DARE YOU!
We have been together 2.5 years. The boys have lived with us 1 yr and 8 mos. We're getting married next Spring. She's been with her significant other for 4.5 years.
Oh well. YOU ARE NOBODY. NO ONE. You have NO RIGHTS.
I asked because their mom said to tell her when they tell us they wanted to see her. I've already covered you're other outburst. No need to rehash.
My outburst? LOL. Good grief. You are so blind.
ETA: Just to reiterate -- if mom complained to either the schools or doctors, or the federal government, the schools and doctors would have EXTREME SERIOUS LEGAL ISSUES resulting from this. Just to let you know.
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