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Hey all, back again. I got an interesting call from the ex about our daughter today. First, let me remind everyone of our situation incase you guys forgot, or just don't know it (I'm important you guys should remember! ). Anyway, I have primary physical custody, there is joint legal custody, mother has visitation every weekend. For the past few months we have agreed that mother will have one week a month instead of every weekend due to the distance factor(although that'll be changing soon due to daughter starting school).
Well what has happened recently is that mom has not been able to take our daughter due to issues with her car and lack of babysitter, it has been almost 2 months since our daughter has been with mom. So back to the call I got today. She called and left a message saying her car is being fixed and she wants our daughter next week. The issue here is the way she plans on getting around the no babysitter thing. She said, "I want to just leave her in the car until my bf gets done with work, and he will get her." They both work at the same place, and she claims it will only be 10-15 minutes, but I doubt that. Even if it is 10-15 minutes only, I am not comforable with our daughter being left in a car all by herself.
So, I don't know what I should do here. I really had the urge to call her up and cuss her out for even suggesting something like that (don't worry, I didn't). Is there anything I can do or say to her to make it clear that she can't do that (assuming I'm correct that doing that would be illegal in some way)? Also, I'm sure once I tell her I am not comfortable with that she is most likely going to say "Well then I'll just go into work late" although I'm sure that won't happen because if she could do that then she wouldn't have even mentioned this. So, would it be out of line for me to find a way to ensure she is not leaving our daughter in her car out in the parking lot at her place of employment?
Maybe I'm overreacting here, but I'm starting to become concerned with my daughters safety. I just don't see how a mother could think it is a good idea to just leave a child in her car when she goes into work, and then rely on someone who isn't even responsible enough to keep himself out of trouble with the law to remember to get her (I know thats not legally relevant... kinda venting too). So, any advice at all? Legal or not, also feel free to verbally smack me up a bit if I'm out of line here.
Hey all, back again. I got an interesting call from the ex about our daughter today. First, let me remind everyone of our situation incase you guys forgot, or just don't know it (I'm important you guys should remember! ). Anyway, I have primary physical custody, there is joint legal custody, mother has visitation every weekend. For the past few months we have agreed that mother will have one week a month instead of every weekend due to the distance factor(although that'll be changing soon due to daughter starting school).
Well what has happened recently is that mom has not been able to take our daughter due to issues with her car and lack of babysitter, it has been almost 2 months since our daughter has been with mom. So back to the call I got today. She called and left a message saying her car is being fixed and she wants our daughter next week. The issue here is the way she plans on getting around the no babysitter thing. She said, "I want to just leave her in the car until my bf gets done with work, and he will get her." They both work at the same place, and she claims it will only be 10-15 minutes, but I doubt that. Even if it is 10-15 minutes only, I am not comforable with our daughter being left in a car all by herself.
So, I don't know what I should do here. I really had the urge to call her up and cuss her out for even suggesting something like that (don't worry, I didn't). Is there anything I can do or say to her to make it clear that she can't do that (assuming I'm correct that doing that would be illegal in some way)? Also, I'm sure once I tell her I am not comfortable with that she is most likely going to say "Well then I'll just go into work late" although I'm sure that won't happen because if she could do that then she wouldn't have even mentioned this. So, would it be out of line for me to find a way to ensure she is not leaving our daughter in her car out in the parking lot at her place of employment?
Maybe I'm overreacting here, but I'm starting to become concerned with my daughters safety. I just don't see how a mother could think it is a good idea to just leave a child in her car when she goes into work, and then rely on someone who isn't even responsible enough to keep himself out of trouble with the law to remember to get her (I know thats not legally relevant... kinda venting too). So, any advice at all? Legal or not, also feel free to verbally smack me up a bit if I'm out of line here.