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[profmum]

Again....never mind.

Nice newbie reference though, 'spescially from somebody who's been here less time than I have AND gotten trounced for attitude

And that "trouncing around for attitude" was much appreciated by me because it was necessary, most importantly changed my attitudue about coparenting and subsequently resulted in consistent legal wins.. so yes, i do appreciate the feedback I have received.

Now give me a credible reason for why you should be taking legal action here and maybe it will show the benefit of "having been here longer than".. I

 

[fairisfair]

And that "trouncing around for attitude" was much appreciated by me because it was necessary, most importantly changed my attitudue about coparenting and subsequently resulted in consistent legal wins.. so yes, i do appreciate the feedback I have received.

Now give me a credible reason for why you should be taking legal action here and maybe it will show the benefit of "having been here longer than".. I

oh for crying out loud, this is hardly "taking legal action" He merely wishes to amend his parenting time, rightfully so, and to have it clearly designated by the court.

Something else we would advise in Newbie 101.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

how the heck are ya anyway???

I'm fine my little dfg, how's trix with you?

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

And that "trouncing around for attitude" was much appreciated by me because it was necessary, most importantly changed my attitudue about coparenting and subsequently resulted in consistent legal wins.. so yes, i do appreciate the feedback I have received.

Now give me a credible reason for why you should be taking legal action here and maybe it will show the benefit of "having been here longer than".. I

I'll see your "consistent legal wins"(because I have 'em too you see, and MINE were handled Pro Se. How about you?) and raise you a reasonable, accomodating attitude.

 

[truebluemd]

Correct me where I am wrong, but even though you moved, you still kept doing the driving, creating status quo. Would'nt it be too late to go back and argue for her to do some driving, or even credit you for travel? This was sort of an issue with my ex, but then again, he created the bulk of the distance.

and for the record I filed pro-se as well

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Correct me where I am wrong, but even though you moved, you still kept doing the driving, creating status quo. Would'nt it be too late to go back and argue for her to do some driving, or even credit you for travel? This was sort of an issue with my ex, but then again, he created the bulk of the distance.

and for the record I filed pro-se as well

Nope The Ex moved.

Pro Se ROCKS!!!

 

[truebluemd]

Nope The Ex moved.

Pro Se ROCKS!!!

I know you said she moved, but you kept doing the driving....so would'nt it be too late to ask for modification to her doing the driving, or you getting transportaton credit, if you created the status quo by continuing to do the driving?


Pro Se does Rock, but now that my job has benefits to cover my legal expenses, I'm geting a lawyer next time I gotta go back to court!!!

 

[Isis1]

I know you said she moved, but you kept doing the driving....so would'nt it be too late to ask for modification to her doing the driving, or you getting transportaton credit, if you created the status quo by continuing to do the driving?


Pro Se does Rock, but now that my job has benefits to cover my legal expenses, I'm geting a lawyer next time I gotta go back to court!!!

you know, not necessarily. i did all the driving for two years and the judge still ruled for dad to do some transport. so i still have hope for ProSeDad.

 

[waitinMd]

Correct me where I am wrong, but even though you moved, you still kept doing the driving, creating status quo. Would'nt it be too late to go back and argue for her to do some driving, or even credit you for travel? This was sort of an issue with my ex, but then again, he created the bulk of the distance.

.... but then he'd still have the argument that he choose to do the driving because ex was consistently late. Instead of getting in an argument with her, he opted to drive so he could enjoy his parenting time with his child. I fail to see how a judge would hold that against him. He now has two obstacles, the drive and his schedule. He only wants her to give 10% !!! Not much to ask for; especially when he can modify child support so Mom would pay for half the travel expenses....

 

[truebluemd]

.... but then he'd still have the argument that he choose to do the driving because ex was consistently late. Instead of getting in an argument with her, he opted to drive so he could enjoy his parenting time with his child. I fail to see how a judge would hold that against him. He now has two obstacles, the drive and his schedule. He only wants her to give 10% !!! Not much to ask for; especially when he can modify child support so Mom would pay for half the travel expenses....

This has nothing to do with her tardiness. It has to do with a change in his schedule or else he could have asked a long time ago that she be required to do the driving. it could be a cakewalk for dad, but I know from my experience, status quo was huge. Look at is from moms end:

"He's been doing the driving all this time, and now that his job schedule has changed, he wants to get her later, and wants me to do the driving. I know its only for pickups but its only a difference of him picking her up at a later time I should have nothing to do with the transportation as its been tha past X amount of years."

Im not taking sides here, but this is how the judge could probably hear it.

 

[profmum]

oh for crying out loud, this is hardly "taking legal action" He merely wishes to amend his parenting time, rightfully so, and to have it clearly designated by the court.

Something else we would advise in Newbie 101.

Asking the court to make a decision/ an amendment on something mum and dad DONT agree on is what then?.. any parent has the "right" to go to court, does not mean it is the best action...

Mum does not agree to his "so called mere amendment", so he can chose an alternate and less contentious route or he can be egged on by the likes of you to duke it out in court. Nice!..

 

[profmum]

I'll see your "consistent legal wins"(because I have 'em too you see, and MINE were handled Pro Se. How about you?) and raise you a reasonable, accomodating attitude.

Deal!.. then take a step back, think about your choices and try not to get egged on by all the swoons and giggles.. You must have a more accomodating ex than mine

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

"He's been doing the driving all this time, and now that his job schedule has changed, he wants to get her later, and wants me to do the driving. I know its only for pickups but its only a difference of him picking her up at a later time I should have nothing to do with the transportation as its been tha past X amount of years."

However, the counter to that will be “It’s not “Pickups” your honor, as that implies a 50/50 split of the driving. It’s Two trips out of an average of 12 per month. Or, taken another way, it’s 120 miles out of 720. Considering the fact that the distance was created by the Plaintiff(blech), AFTER our last appearance before you, there should be SOME sort of responsibility for transportation.”.

The bolded line may or may not be added to the above statement. I was "notified" of the move 3 days before our hearing. It was brought up at the hearing, but no mention of it was made one way or the other in our order, nor did the Master say "yay" or "nay" to it, although that could be that I didn't object to it properly. I presented my comments on it as yet one more effort on The Ex's part to deny or limit visitation.

 

[waitinMd]

This has nothing to do with her tardiness. It has to do with a change in his schedule or else he could have asked a long time ago that she be required to do the driving. it could be a cakewalk for dad, but I know from my experience, status quo was huge.

If I filed a motion to go to court to have Mom do some of the transportation, I would sure "mention" the fact that I initially did the transportation because she was always late. I don't think it's been years that ProSe had been doing the driving. And it's not like it was his choice to have this schedule. I really don't think a judge would rule it's unfair to ask Mom to drop off twice a month!!

I think he has a good chance and wish him luck. My judge choose my college schedule over my ex's job. My schedule changes every few months and it was over a year
after our schedule was decided on that the change was awarded.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

If I filed a motion to go to court to have Mom do some of the transportation, I would sure "mention" the fact that I initially did the transportation because she was always late. I don't think it's been years that ProSe had been doing the driving. And it's not like it was his choice to have this schedule. I really don't think a judge would rule it's unfair to ask Mom to drop off twice a month!!

I think he has a good chance and wish him luck. My judge choose my college schedule over my ex's job. My schedule changes every few months and it was over a year
after our schedule was decided on that the change was awarded.

I've been doing it for 6+ years. However, for 4 of those years(the middle 4) we lived less than a mile apart.