Maine- recent divorce, got house after mediation.........

[bettsadam]

You had the opportunity to defend yourself against the RO at some point and either you did not or could not.

Could not, I had no time to do so, I was the stay at home parent with four kids, she was the bread winner, forced to get a job to pay the bills when she up and left for three days, no word to anyone

 

[bettsadam]

Could not, I had no time to do so, I was the stay at home parent with four kids, she was the bread winner, forced to get a job to pay the bills when she up and left for three days, no word to anyone

Then boom, the dreaded words, I want a divorce, and I'm moving out

 

[Just Blue]

Maintained because of spite

Not how it works, ex doesn't have that superpower...Why did the COURT maintain the RO?

 

[PayrollHRGuy]

Could not, I had no time to do so, I was the stay at home parent with four kids, she was the bread winner, forced to get a job to pay the bills when she up and left for three days, no word to anyone

Sorry not buying it. You went to court for the divorce you could have gone for the RO. For that matter, you could go now.

 

[bettsadam]

Not how it works, ex doesn't have that superpower...Why did the COURT maintain the RO?

She lied so much at court about abuse through the years,

 

[bettsadam]

Sorry not buying it. You went to court for the divorce you could have gone for the RO. For that matter, you could go now.

that's why im asking if my REAL problem should be addressed in court under contempt

 

[bettsadam]

She lied so much at court about abuse through the years,

the kids testified in court that there was zero abuse

 

[bettsadam]

mind you the kids are 20, 18, 12, 9, they are not toddlers

 

[Zigner]

30 years married, she did this before when we were 18, I'm 46 now

Are you suggesting that you were married when you were 16?

 

[not2cleverRed]

30 years married, she did this before when we were 18, I'm 46 now

You got married when you were 16?

 

[Zigner]

Maintained because of spite

No, the court allowed it to be maintained.

 

[Taxing Matters]

that's why im asking if my REAL problem should be addressed in court under contempt

Contempt is appropriate where the court order requires her to do something specific in a set period of time (or at least by default in a reasonable time) and she fails to do it. Does the court order specifically say she has to give you the mortgage information? If the answer to that is no, then a motion for contempt will do no good because there is no order that says she has to give you that. Instead, you'd go to court to seek an order requiring her to give you that information.

If I were in your shoes, I'd seek to have an order that she execute a deed transferring the property to you if the mediation did not specifically address that, and she'd likely seek to have you refinance in your name at the same time (which you'd want to do anyway unless you have poor credit). Then you'd have the house and mortgage in your name and wouldn't need her for anything regarding the house.

 

[bettsadam]

You got married when you were 16?

together for thirty married 26 years

 

[not2cleverRed]

The 20 and 18 year olds are legally adults.

So that leaves only the 12 and 9 year old.

 

[not2cleverRed]

together for thirty married 26 years

With precision like this, please don't represent yourself.

You have no idea what you're doing, and are making a mess of this.