50/50

[Proserpina]

1. He wanted 50/50.. She did not.. Judge gave it.

2. As I stated, I would be more than happy to fax it to anyone who wants to see proof that it did happen. As I just faxed it to her as well.

3. Times are changing, fathers have just as much right to their children as the mothers, and that is what the Judge told him. Had it been up to mom, then dad wouldnt have had anything.

Well, even a broken clock is accurate twice a day. However, I still think you're lying about the circumstances.

OP - please, do yourself a favor. Consider the backround/posting history of those who've responded to you.

Do some reading here.

Find out who is worth listening to

 

[lillithsmith]

I had that person fax the papers to my moms house. She is suppose to call me as soon as she receives them. If that person is being honest then thank you for the information. If not then I will know not to listen to them. If s/he even sends them. Guess we will all know shortly

 

[LdiJ]

Well, even a broken clock is accurate twice a day. However, I still think you're lying about the circumstances.

OP - please, do yourself a favor. Consider the backround/posting history of those who've responded to you.

Do some reading here.

Find out who is worth listening to

I think that the fact that most of the senior members who post here are unanimous on the dangerousness of the information Jekyl posts.

Even I, who often is at odds with the party line here feel very strongly that she does way more harm than good.

 

[Proserpina]

I had that person fax the papers to my moms house. She is suppose to call me as soon as she receives them. If that person is being honest then thank you for the information. If not then I will know not to listen to them. If s/he even sends them. Guess we will all know shortly

Oh, we're not necessarily saying it wasn't ordered.

What I - for one - am saying is that it perhaps didn't happen quite like jekyl is saying.

In other words - I believe she's deliberately omitting information in order to support her stance.

Seriously, lilith, even on the offchance that jekyl is telling the complete and utter truth it doesn't have any bearing on YOUR case.

And what the other responders have said is entirely accurate - Dad has, AT BEST, a very, very slim chance if YOU don't agree.

 

[lillithsmith]

Even in the off chance that Jekyl is correct and s/he did get 50/50 without moms consent that still shows there is a chance. Which is what I was asking about. Has anyone else here had this kind of case and the 50/50 be denied? I was told that in Pennsylvania it is a best interest of the child state. I guess if it comes down to it I will have to deal with it. Atleast I know there is a chance.
My mom just called, she did receive the fax and read to me what the custody papers stated. Jekyl did receive 50/50 through Blair County Courthouse. Said something about at this time it was in the best interest of the child to spend quality time with both parents with a 2 week on 2 week off schedule. The mother got the child on Fridays. States the child was born in Blair County in July of 2008 and the custody papers were dated January 2009

 

[Proserpina]

Even in the off chance that Jekyl is correct and s/he did get 50/50 without moms consent that still shows there is a chance. Which is what I was asking about. Has anyone else here had this kind of case and the 50/50 be denied? I was told that in Pennsylvania it is a best interest of the child state. I guess if it comes down to it I will have to deal with it. Atleast I know there is a chance.
My mom just called, she did receive the fax and read to me what the custody papers stated. Jekyl did receive 50/50 through Blair County Courthouse. Said something about at this time it was in the best interest of the child to spend quality time with both parents with a 2 week on 2 week off schedule. The mother got the child on Fridays. States the child was born in Blair County in July of 2008 and the custody papers were dated January 2009

...which is what everyone has been saying from the beginning.

YES there is a chance.

However, it's NOT a strong chance. It is NOWHERE NEAR close to even 10%. We KNOW this from both experience, and extensive research.

Please, read through old posts. Start educating yourself.

 

[lillithsmith]

I was told that there was no chance pretty much that no Judge would do that to a child. At least my husband is a good father. I know my precious baby girl will be taken care of by him when she is with him. Thank you to everyone who responded. Jekyl, Thank you for showing me that it is at least possible. I do not want my head up in the clouds nor did I want false hope

 

[frylover]

Seniors, would it be a good idea for the OP to get a consult with a local attorney, who can listen to the specifics of HER case, which are bound to be different from Jekyl's boyfriend's case, and who knows the judges in HER area? Might set her mind at ease.

 

[InfantCustody]

1. He wanted 50/50.. She did not.. Judge gave it.

2. As I stated, I would be more than happy to fax it to anyone who wants to see proof that it did happen. As I just faxed it to her as well.

3. Times are changing, fathers have just as much right to their children as the mothers, and that is what the Judge told him. Had it been up to mom, then dad wouldnt have had anything.

While I have my doubts as to the accuracy of THIS ruling (2 weeks on, 2 weeks off) times are changing... A breastfed 4 month old in SC was given a 50/50 split when his parents divorced with a week-on, week-off schedule and 2 attorneys have advised me that the courts are not taking an infants age into consideration as much as they used to.

With my son (currently 4 months) I have been "advised" to offer Dad 2 overnights every week as of 7 months, increasing to 3 every other week at one year of age because just last week (Thursday) the judge in my case ordered a 72 hour per week parenting time schedule (4 days Mom, 3 days Dad) for a 5 month old. So, while it may not be in an infants best interest (I guess time will tell) it is happening more and more. My attorney was shocked when she did it, but she did it. She said minus a finding of one parent being unfit...the best option is to maximize the time the infant spends with both parents.

OP: I think your best option would be to come up with a reasonable parenting plan schedule that allows Dad overnights, etc If you can get him to agree...you don't have to worry about what a judge will order?

 

[AbbaDabba730]

While I have my doubts as to the accuracy of THIS ruling (2 weeks on, 2 weeks off) times are changing... A breastfed 4 month old in SC was given a 50/50 split when his parents divorced with a week-on, week-off schedule and 2 attorneys have advised me that the courts are not taking an infants age into consideration as much as they used to.

With my son (currently 4 months) I have been "advised" to offer Dad 2 overnights every week as of 7 months, increasing to 3 every other week at one year of age because just last week (Thursday) the judge in my case ordered a 72 hour per week parenting time schedule (4 days Mom, 3 days Dad) for a 5 month old. So, while it may not be in an infants best interest (I guess time will tell) it is happening more and more. My attorney was shocked when she did it, but she did it. She said minus a finding of one parent being unfit...the best option is to maximize the time the infant spends with both parents.

OP: I think your best option would be to come up with a reasonable parenting plan schedule that allows Dad overnights, etc If you can get him to agree...you don't have to worry about what a judge will order?

While I don't disagree that this happened, how far were the parents from each other? I find it hard to believe that a 2week on/off would be ordered for a child with parents living 3 hours apart?

 

[lillithsmith]

Thank you so much InfantCustody for responding to my post. I have a friend who lives in Virginia who has a 50/50 for their 3 year old. Their agreement is 1 week on 1 week off. The mom did not want to do this but that is what the Judge ordered. She is due with their 2nd child (they just split about 4 months ago) next month. The attorney said that although that child would not be 50/50 at first that by the time the child reaches 4 to 6 months old they may do 50/50. Dad moved about 4 hours away and they both must pay for their own transportation to meet halfway every Sunday. I guess more and more states are moving toward this as a possibility for children now

 

[Proserpina]

While I have my doubts as to the accuracy of THIS ruling (2 weeks on, 2 weeks off) times are changing... A breastfed 4 month old in SC was given a 50/50 split when his parents divorced with a week-on, week-off schedule and 2 attorneys have advised me that the courts are not taking an infants age into consideration as much as they used to.

With my son (currently 4 months) I have been "advised" to offer Dad 2 overnights every week as of 7 months, increasing to 3 every other week at one year of age because just last week (Thursday) the judge in my case ordered a 72 hour per week parenting time schedule (4 days Mom, 3 days Dad) for a 5 month old. So, while it may not be in an infants best interest (I guess time will tell) it is happening more and more. My attorney was shocked when she did it, but she did it. She said minus a finding of one parent being unfit...the best option is to maximize the time the infant spends with both parents.

OP: I think your best option would be to come up with a reasonable parenting plan schedule that allows Dad overnights, etc If you can get him to agree...you don't have to worry about what a judge will order?

Married situations are often considered to be quite different - it is assumed that both parents HAVE spent time with the infant and that the infant is bonded with both.

Not so much in an unwed situation.

 

[LdiJ]

While I don't disagree that this happened, how far were the parents from each other? I find it hard to believe that a 2week on/off would be ordered for a child with parents living 3 hours apart?

I am virtually certain that it won't be ordered for an infant. Infants have very short term memories and an infant that had to go through a change every two weeks, with no contact with the other parent in between, would be a miserable infant. They would grieve every time.

 

[AbbaDabba730]

I am virtually certain that it won't be ordered for an infant. Infants have very short term memories and an infant that had to go through a change every two weeks, with no contact with the other parent in between, would be a miserable infant. They would grieve every time.

but even older children...once they start school would that actualy be a reasonable schedule? How in the world would parents that live 3 hours apart keep the child on that schedule. It makes no sense to me.

 

[mistoffolees]

Although I do agree that it is possibly unlikely. it does not mean that it wont happen.. When my fiancee filed for custody of his son in Blair County, the mom was living in Lancaster County a little over 3 hours away, the Judge gave them 50/50 with 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off.. At the time he was 1 week shy of 6 months old.. (Oh I am sure someone on here is going to say I am lying or something, so if anyone wants to give me a fax number I would be happy to send a copy of the original custody order with names blackened out)*this was before he ended up getting full custody*

Sure. Just like divorces in OK normally take a month.