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twoodstock66
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What is the name of your state? Michigan
I am in the National Guard. I re-enlisted two years ago. Since then my civilian life has changed. I'll start at the beginning... both my daughters did reside with my ex-wife in Florida. They lived there for 4 years. I had found out that my oldest child was not mine through a DNA. This is not the issue. We all knew of this. My ex-wife remarried and started to get into drinking and other social problems. She was arrested for domestic violence and such, a real mess and her parential skills began to falter. This sparked an investigation to get my children out of that environment. I collected documentation and information in this regards. I retained a lawyer after getting in the military for the second time. My civilian lawyer stated that the best interest of the children was indeed to get them out of that environment. He did state however, that it be feasible to only get your biological child first, because I may have problems trying to get the non-biological. I agreed and we pursued the issue. The non-biological also was receiving medication for numerous amounts of mental problems in the past. She had severe problems with school since she was little. I begged my ex to let her live with me prior to joining the National Guard and she agreed. She changed her mind towards the end of the non-biological's school year. This crushed me and the non-biological child. So now I had no choice but to get the biological. During this time the non-biological attempted to drown the biological and then two days later attempted to throw her into an electric fence used to contain horses. This automatically created an extended stay of the biological child with me, until the investigation was over. It was emergency extended visitation according to the court. The court investigated, but agreed the child return back to the environment for which I pulled her out of for her safety. The friend of the court heard limited testimony and such, but made a decision that she return to Florida with her mom and sister and that I was the root cause of all of it. I appealled and won. My daughter has been residing with me since the emergency visitation. My ex gave up in court without a lawyer and without a full custody hearing. After all this information I have given you, I have found out that we are being deployed and that I will lose custody of my daughter. I found out by a jag officer that she has the right because there was no trial. I am trying to get out for the safety of my daughter, but I don't know what to do. Do I have a shot at a hardship discharge? Please sent me whatever info, you can give me. I have talked to my unit and they agree that I have a problem, but I don't know if I can trust them in how sincere they should be. They already stated they are worried about losing a good soldier. To me that is not a good sign. What do I do?
Thank you
I am in the National Guard. I re-enlisted two years ago. Since then my civilian life has changed. I'll start at the beginning... both my daughters did reside with my ex-wife in Florida. They lived there for 4 years. I had found out that my oldest child was not mine through a DNA. This is not the issue. We all knew of this. My ex-wife remarried and started to get into drinking and other social problems. She was arrested for domestic violence and such, a real mess and her parential skills began to falter. This sparked an investigation to get my children out of that environment. I collected documentation and information in this regards. I retained a lawyer after getting in the military for the second time. My civilian lawyer stated that the best interest of the children was indeed to get them out of that environment. He did state however, that it be feasible to only get your biological child first, because I may have problems trying to get the non-biological. I agreed and we pursued the issue. The non-biological also was receiving medication for numerous amounts of mental problems in the past. She had severe problems with school since she was little. I begged my ex to let her live with me prior to joining the National Guard and she agreed. She changed her mind towards the end of the non-biological's school year. This crushed me and the non-biological child. So now I had no choice but to get the biological. During this time the non-biological attempted to drown the biological and then two days later attempted to throw her into an electric fence used to contain horses. This automatically created an extended stay of the biological child with me, until the investigation was over. It was emergency extended visitation according to the court. The court investigated, but agreed the child return back to the environment for which I pulled her out of for her safety. The friend of the court heard limited testimony and such, but made a decision that she return to Florida with her mom and sister and that I was the root cause of all of it. I appealled and won. My daughter has been residing with me since the emergency visitation. My ex gave up in court without a lawyer and without a full custody hearing. After all this information I have given you, I have found out that we are being deployed and that I will lose custody of my daughter. I found out by a jag officer that she has the right because there was no trial. I am trying to get out for the safety of my daughter, but I don't know what to do. Do I have a shot at a hardship discharge? Please sent me whatever info, you can give me. I have talked to my unit and they agree that I have a problem, but I don't know if I can trust them in how sincere they should be. They already stated they are worried about losing a good soldier. To me that is not a good sign. What do I do?
Thank you
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