It sounds to me as if "Ms. Cloe" is NOT the one getting divorced. First of all, not many men would use a screen name starting with "Ms.", second of all, read the other post by this person at:
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=276498
"Why should he continue to be stuck bearing ALL the financial support responsibility? His wife is able bodied, likely younger than 40 years old and perfectly capable of learning a sustainable job skill and also supporting HER kids. They certainly don't need mom at home all day while they are in school. If you feel they are being shortchanged, then maybe it's because there is no MOM'S share of support. She refuses to even attermpt to develop any career skills. They are HER kids too."
I NEVER said he should be responsilble for support his wife after the divorce. In his original post, he basically says his wife is a lazy bum who never worked a day in her life. I was trying to point out to him that just because she didn't work outside of the home, raising children IS A JOB. I don't think he should be responsible for ALL the financial support. But, her earning potential is not going to be anywhere near what his is. If she has no job history she'll be lucky to make $20K a year. I would hope this guy doesn't want his kids to live in some crappy apartment alone maost of the time beacuase mom's working 2 jobs to put food on the table.
" well hey! lets just decree that the NCP hand over all thier paychecks to the CP, and then the CP can decide what the NCP will be allowed to do with the rest of thier money! but damn its so expensive keeping a roof over thier heads, there is really not much left to give back, especially if the CP is not working enough to support thier OWN self.......
being as child support is figured on a percentage of income, usually an NCP IS paying the maximum amount of support.
And quite frankly, it is NICE for the NCP (and the child) to have some disposable income LEFT to spend the way THEY choose to, and not the way the CP chooses too."
Again, not what I was implying. Based on his income, the CA. CS calcutator shows he should pay around $3000 a month based on mom making nothing. Yeah, that's a lot of money. It leaves him with over $7000 a month. That's PLENTY of disposible income. Hell, that's more than I bring home in 3 months.
It's just really sad when you have someone making over $10K A MONTH and they want to know how little they can get away with paying in CS. I would understand if this guy had nothing and was barely able to live on what he was earning, but that's not the case. This guy isn't showing any concern for the kids in either one of his posts, it's all about "how much do I have to pay".
If the wife is such a money hungry bum, why doesn't he look into getting custody of the kids? Then he won't have to pay anything. But that's not what his concern was.
Like I said, my comment was not meant as a PERSONAL ATTACK against ANYONE. It would just be nice once in a while to hear from someone who wants to know how they can make sure the kids needs are being taken of how to go about doing what's right for THE CHILDREN, instaed of wanting to know what's the minimum amount of time, money & effort they are going to have to put in as a parent.
Personally, I don't think 'dad' is the one asking in this case anyway, so it doesn't really matter.