Update
just to let you all know. the police has turned in his report to the DA. the only thing he told me was he found nothing but would not expand on that. he also said the DA "might" want to talk to me so i made sure he had my cell. CFYD said they do not talk to the DA.
so now i wait.
also just wanted to say thank you for yours reponses. PQN the dad is in the home. And as far as a friend doing this well, it is possible but not likely. most of our activities are centered around family, my 6 kids, or my sister and her 6 or my parents or my dad 14 brothers and sister and upteen thousand cousins. our friends are never alone with our children and the kids friends are watched closely when they are at the house, but yes, it could have happened. thank you for that. i will double and triple check into any possiblities, only to make sure i did not miss anything that might happen again.
thank you for giving me some solutions that are very logical and attainable (locks on door, alarm) it was for me more then the "get her in counselling" advise and i believe it is a good idea to do so my daughter can feel even more so safe. you are correct in saying i was blindsided by this and will more then likely get into counselling for myself if this is ever done because it has been very hard to deal with.
It sounds like her gut is telling her to believe her son -- the question is why? because she truly feels that it didn't happen? or because her mind is rejecting the horror of what did happen?
More valuable insight from you, thank you so much and i appreciate your opinion. i will stop and think exactly what the answers are to these questions. but i appreciate your insight.
i also agree that your case is tremendously different then mine but thank you for repeating your story to me. i do feel like you have felt my pain. Because i have felt like i was on my own here and going out of my head.
Accept that you cannot control what happens
probably the hardest for me to deal with but i am trying.
and i have had tears in my eyes also everytime i read this as well as from day one.
in closing, i doubt i will come back online to the site again. my apologizes for stirring up the controvesy. in my rash, run into it head first way of mine to protect both children, and desperation to find the information i needed, such as the Normal Line of Proceedures in cases like this (which i never got) i mistakeningly thought people could stick to the facts (which i could have provided), remain objective and explain step 1, step 2, step 3 and make sure step 4 or 5 did not get overlooked. i also realize i am not going to get those answers here, so much for researching thouroughly.
thank you again for all your responses. count yourselves lucky for not having to be going what i am going through. i appreciate your prayers.
goodbye
