I am glad that USCIS is asking about the arrest.I've been married for 3.5 years. I was the victim in his arrest.
Best plan at this time ... let us know what happens, please.No order of protection. The DV arrest was three years ago. So tomorrow I intend to reach out to a lawyer and to UCSIS regarding his status.
That's a while ago.No order of protection. The DV arrest was three years ago. So tomorrow I intend to reach out to a lawyer and to UCSIS regarding his status.
With it being a disability payment AND there being two domestic violence arrests on his record (and don't you dare back down and refuse to cooperate with the police and the DA) there shouldn't be any chance that he can touch your disability money.There's been some changes. I think I mentioned I just couldn't afford an attorney. Another part of his control/abuse is financial. I have been out of work for 2 years because of my health. So he'd gotten to the point in the last month where he wouldn't give me a penny. And I had about $40 in my account. I filed for disability months ago and was awaiting on a decision.
Saturday night he committed another offense of DV with me as the victim again. He'd initially left the house after the incident. He stayed in another county. So the police were not able to go the house where he is staying to serve him. They said it could be arranged, but it'd be a different process. In the meantime, they told me, if he comes back home to not let him in and call the police so that he is stalled and they can come pick him up. That happened Monday and he'd brought his friend who he'd signed the Jag over to with him to our home when he came. After my husband was arrested, I asked his friend if I could have the keys back. He said no. But he stayed in front of my house. He called the police himself (I don't know why), and they showed up to talk to this friend. The cop told friend since we are married, his friend had to give me the car keys.
Today I awoke to find out my SSD had been accepted and there was an amount I'd never seen in my bank account for 18 months of back pay!! My question now is is he entitled to half of that disability settlement when I now go and file for divorce? That idea scares me as that's my money to move and survive. Thanks in advance!
Not true ... it is marital incomeWith it being a disability payment AND there being two domestic violence arrests on his record (and don't you dare back down and refuse to cooperate with the police and the DA) there shouldn't be any chance that he can touch your disability money.
If there is no restraining order against him for the DV, you need to get one today if possible. L You also need to file for divorce, immediately.
No, its not valid if it hasn't been served. If he never serves you its going to end up being dropped. Just stay out of that county and stay away from him (which you should be doing anyway).So we went to court today for his restraining order hearing. They've extended it indefinitely. But...he said today he has a restraining order against me in a neighboring county (where he's staying). It's clearly without merit and retaliatory. But my question is this. I see online that it was granted Oct 16 (the day after he was served with mine) and I have NOT been served. Is it valid if I've not been served?
Communicating with you is a violation of the restraining order. Report it.So we went to court today for his restraining order hearing. They've extended it indefinitely. But...he said today he has a restraining order against me in a neighboring county (where he's staying). It's clearly without merit and retaliatory. But my question is this. I see online that it was granted Oct 16 (the day after he was served with mine) and I have NOT been served. Is it valid if I've not been served?
If he spoke to her in court or told the judge that in court, it is not a violation of the restraining order.Communicating with you is a violation of the restraining order. Report it.
The most he could have gotten is an ex parte restraining order. You were supposed to be served with that, plus information about when a hearing would be regarding it. Since you have not been served, but you see it online, I suggest you contact that court and get a copy of the restraining order, find out when that hearing is, and plan your legal response.
Whether or not it has been served or is valid is irrelevant for how you should be conducting yourself: you two shouldn't be having contact with each other.
True.If he spoke to her in court or told the judge that in court, it is not a violation of the restraining order.