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LdiJ

Senior Member
Hi. Me again. We both now have lawyers and he has a no contact order. So my friend reached out to me today to say he's posted this on Facebook: "Does anyone have Wendy's new address? I need it to file for the divorce...."

My attorney said "good for you" when I shared the message and told her I was calling the police. Well, cops said since he was asking for it for a divorce filing it wasn't an arrestable offense.

Does this seem right to anyone? We've always communicated through our attorneys.
Asking for your address is a real no-no since there is a restraining order. He should be having his attorney arranging to serve you via your attorney. However, if the police don't consider it to be a violation, there isn't much you can do about it.
 

commentator

Senior Member
If I were you, I would remind all my friends, Facebook friends, Instagram, etc. reminding them of the "no contact" order. Then maximize all your privacy settings on all your accounts, or stay off social media, always be cautious in your movements and actions, and ask your attorney to communicate with his attorney regarding anything they need "for a divorce filing."
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
Asking for your address is a real no-no since there is a restraining order. He should be having his attorney arranging to serve you via your attorney. However, if the police don't consider it to be a violation, there isn't much you can do about it.
WRONG. Complaints for divorce need served DIRECTLY to the party. He didn't ask her for her address. He asked his friends. I really wish you wouldn't post without having a clue how court works.

OP, Has your attorney stated to opposing counsel what your address for service is?
 

HighwayMan

Super Secret Senior Member
He didn't communicate with you, he posted something on a public forum. I don't see how this is a violation of anything.
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
He didn't communicate with you, he posted something on a public forum. I don't see how this is a violation of anything.
He is attempting to talk someone into giving him her address. It is not appropriate for him to solicit her address.
 

cbg

I'm a Northern Girl
It may not be appropriate, but it's not a violation of the order, either.
 

wt817

Junior Member
WRONG. Complaints for divorce need served DIRECTLY to the party. He didn't ask her for her address. He asked his friends. I really wish you wouldn't post without having a clue how court works.

OP, Has your attorney stated to opposing counsel what your address for service is?
No, she advised keeping that information away from him. There has been need for some communication in the last three months and any of those questions have been sent to our individual attorney who then forwards them to the other's attorney with an answer. And if he did show up to serve me those papers (if I'm understanding you saying he'd have to serve me directly- or is via messenger?), he'd immediately be taken away for violation of the no contact order. Alternatively, we will be seeing each other in court in 21 days and I understood that was another for serving me. No?

And thank you all so much for the dialogue.
 

Zigner

Senior Member, Non-Attorney
No, she advised keeping that information away from him. There has been need for some communication in the last three months and any of those questions have been sent to our individual attorney who then forwards them to the other's attorney with an answer. And if he did show up to serve me those papers (if I'm understanding you saying he'd have to serve me directly- or is via messenger?), he'd immediately be taken away for violation of the no contact order. Alternatively, we will be seeing each other in court in 21 days and I understood that was another for serving me. No?

And thank you all so much for the dialogue.
He wouldn't show up to serve you the papers - the process server would.
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
He wouldn't show up to serve you the papers - the process server would.
Hopefully he would not try to show up In person. People with restraining orders against themselves have been known to do foolish things.
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
No, she advised keeping that information away from him. There has been need for some communication in the last three months and any of those questions have been sent to our individual attorney who then forwards them to the other's attorney with an answer. And if he did show up to serve me those papers (if I'm understanding you saying he'd have to serve me directly- or is via messenger?), he'd immediately be taken away for violation of the no contact order. Alternatively, we will be seeing each other in court in 21 days and I understood that was another for serving me. No?

And thank you all so much for the dialogue.
He can't serve you but YOU need served -- not your attorney. So therefore he could have you served by Sheriff or process server or in some jurisdictions by fed ex. Court is not necessarily another way of serving you.
 

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