Only a few have bashed mom. I stated the reasons that need to be looked at for a move-away.That's a pretty violent reference!
Some of the opinions have been pretty extreme for a situation where the two parents have already agreed about what is to happen.GAMom, I hope those leads work out (in the vein of believing we are blessed for doing the right thing even if it's hard). How far away are your husband's kids currently?
That's a pretty violent reference!
Glad I wasn't the only one...What astounds me about his thread is that here we have two parents who have agreed what should happen, but they are still bashing mom over the head about this. That isn't legal advice, its purely personal opinion. When I think of all the times its been emphasized to newbies that this is a LEGAL forum, for LEGAL advice, I think that's a little ironic.
Yes, you can absolutely write up any agreement that the two of you are comfortable with and most likely a judge would sign off on it without any problems. There can be rare exceptions to that, but nothing that you have suggested is something that a judge would have a problem with.Thank GinnyJ. I will do that. My ex and I are talking about the specifics in case the move eventuates.
I do have a question about that. Can we write up what we want and have that submitted? Or is that something a judge decides? I ask because neither of us feels that the laws fit everyone's situation. Of course they have to be able to blanket everyone and be as fair as possible in general. We would like to tailor the agreement to our situation. An example would be...from what I know...which is admittedly very little of the legalities...when doing something like this...both parents would get approximately equal time for the summer vacation. If my children live that far from their dad I do not feel that is fair to him. At the same time I do want to be able to spend time with them while they are out of school. So...could we write in the agreement that he gets them all of the summer break (about 3 months) with the exception of 2 weeks? Another one is the travel for holidays and other breaks. He and I both know that circumstances change and there are times when you have unexpected expenses. Can we write in the agreement that I'm responsible for the transportation of the children to and from on holidays and what not but in the case that I'm unable to do so my ex can pick them up and be reimbursed at a later time based on receipts? Also, I want to give him as much of their breaks as he wants but I do want to spend some of the special holidays with them as well. For example Christmas, can we make it so that they spend the Christmas break with him but I can get them for half the day of Christmas?
That can't happen unless dad initiates a custody hearing/suit. A judge can't contemplate changing custody unless 1) one of the parents files a motion to change custody or 2) CPS is involved and they file a motion to change custody.Glad I wasn't the only one...
From what it seems, the dad in this case seems very unlikely to push a custody hearing. Just hope you don't get a judge with opinions like silverplum's
Silverplum;178(meaning ldij) would come along to help you said:that is not true. ldij has many times in my posts shown she could care less about gender